IDK if i'm a crossdresser, but if i am, its my destiny to turn in a TS later in life or can i still enjoy being a man?
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IDK if i'm a crossdresser, but if i am, its my destiny to turn in a TS later in life or can i still enjoy being a man?
It's entirely up to you. No matter how you dress, just be yourself. Heck, I'm a crossdresser, but I'm still 100% male even when dressed up. So if you feel male, be male, if you feel female, be female!
I can say the sameI love being a man, i love sports,i love video games, girls, having beard :p, i feel male...Quote:
Heck, I'm a crossdresser, but I'm still 100% male even when dressed up.
Being a guy and a crossdresser is like being 105% of myself. Me as a man plus an extra. The best of both worlds.
Your destiny is certainly not decided by your interest and motivation to crossdress. In fact, many of us are full-time guys who want and expect to stay that way. Those who are trans feel more than a need to dress in feminine clothing - they feel that they are truly in bodies that have parts mismatched to who they really are.
Only you can know where you fall in the continuum from lightly crossdressing to full transsexual, and you're not likely to know that right away. But this forum can be a wonderful place for you to explore your feelings and consider the possibilities as rationally as possible. I wish you well in your search.
Miriam
Indeed, I love being male, too, and I'm proud to be. My love for frilly clothes won't stop me from being that way!
Being CD DOES NOT mean that you will want to to transition in later life ... but it might! For me. I have built too complicated a life I love to want to lose... so I ain't transitioning, and I just LOVE women!
This 'thing' we have in common leads to many different outcomes, and we shape them all. I have always enjoyed being the man I am, but in my early years I had considerable angst about what was expected of me 'as a man'... a lot of it just wasn't me. And by this I mean the expectations of men in my work life; especially their need to do bond and have cliques - 'in' and 'out' groups. So I just built my own life based on openness.
Does it mean a negative impact on your libido? For me, hell know! My libido has increased continually over time and I am now more sexually arousable and deliverable than in my entire life! But we are all different here! We have lived different lives... Isn't life just so great for learning from each other!?
My love of dresses certainly doesn't take away from my own manhood
Of course you can enjoy being a man. I am fine with myself whether I'm my normal male self or whether I'm Amy. The main thing is, I recognize that both parts of myself are valid and I don't try to suppress one or the other entirely; it's not healthy, as I learned from experience. Instead, I try to be a good man in male mode, and a good woman as Amy.
- Amy
No. Absolutely not. Once you join the Cd sorority you must forgo anything masculine for ever!
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Originally Posted by kimdl93
I had a huge beard and pink toenails up until about a week ago. Dont worry the beard went away not the toes, lets not get crazy now!. Just be your self :D
I'm not a woman
I'm not a man
I am something that you'll never understand
I'll never beat u
I'll never lie
And if you're evil I'll forgive u by and by
- Prince Rogers Nelson
No- you cannot still enjoy being a 'man', because you are not one, by definition. I cannot enjoy being a 'fish' for the same reason. But I can enjoy doing fish things just fine- just as you (and all of us) can enjoy doing 'masculine' things. Many masculine things are more fun while crossdressed, in fact. Same reason we cannot enjoy being a girl, but we can certainly enjoy girlish and feminine things.
I'd write more, but I have to go and cut down a 75' pine in my front yard just now... sad as it is, it will be fun to play with the chainsaw and drop the tree precisely between buildings
kristi
The key is to just enjoy being yourself. It can lead to different places for all of us. Just go with the flow.:)
So true darlin, so true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marleena
I say some can and some can't! I wish I could!
I am a bloke, however I am dressed. I dress because I think I should wear whatever I feels like/enjoy wearing, not because I want to be a female or emulate one.
So, from my perspective, the answer to your question is, "Yes."
I'm a mix of both and wouldn't change a thing about myself.
It is not what you do it is more on the reason why you do it ,cross dressers, transgenders, and transsexuals all have a different reason to dress , when you understand your reason for wanting or liking to dress then you will have some idea where you may end up.
You do not have to change direction just because you are CD. You can have the best of both worlds. :)
Hi,
For many who are trans were that way from birth, its been a part of who they are, nothing about clothes makeup or shoes its who they are as a person. for many its right brain wrong in body in a few aspects,
or others of us we are female from birth, & we grow in to being women again how im born. not compleat in all ways a mix of both male / female. again clothes & all the rest dont mean a thing. or how i dress, it only shows my outer of whats really deep with in, & who i am as a person. take all my clothes away does not change who i am.or how i look im just a woman. like most others. we know what we are, & im accepted for who i am,
as you are a man i see no reason why not to enjoy who you are. its not clothes that make you who you are is it , its about you the person,
...noeleena...
Transvestism is not just a layover on an inevitable flight to transsexualism. Because one likes to dress does not mean one is automatically "doomed" to be a transsexual.
Everyone is different so only you will ever know the answer to your question. There are no solid boundries. If you are a transexual you will figure it out one day, whether you face it or not is quite another thing. If you just like to crossdress then that is that. There is no shame either way One does not lead to the other, you are what you are. Sometimes it just takes a while to face the truth and figure out for yourself.
I enjoy being a male, if i'm a CD i think i'm both, but most part of myself is a man i'm 100% man and 5% woman, its like a bonus. I've heard that being a CD can help you to turn into a better gentleman is that true? I'm not a guy thats the ''cool with girls'' type, so... :/
Kaz has said it all for me. I embrace both my maleness and my femaleness -- but the bottom line is that we are not all the same.
More of a gentleman, perhaps. But sadly, being a crossdresser will probably not make you more appealing to women, more than likely it will have the opposite affect :(
I'm not sure I understand the original post but I'll just make it short and sweet:
Strapping on a bra and panties does not make your "male parts" stop working. You are still a "man". It would take expensive surgery and years of hormone treatments to change that.
Be who you are. I've never had two separate personalities; it's always me, whether dressed as a guy or a girl. I don't try to change my voice, mannerisms, walk, or behavior. Should you search out the reasons you crossdress and discover that everything about you is really female, you may decide to go through SRS, or remain non-op but live as a woman. Or just continue as a man, and be comfortable with knowing what you are inside, and that the outside is simply a wrapper you wear to go through life with as little aggravation as possible.
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Originally Posted by Tracii G
I only thing I would change about you is your address ,,You live to Far away ,, I would want my friend closer . So we could tear up this town .
Crossdressing doesn't necessarily mean a desire to BE a woman any more than a desire to BE a woman means you have a sexual interest in men (or all the corollaries of the above).
This is something that the public by and large doesn't tend to understand.
Being CD’d can be just the same as being a golfist. To be good at it you need to stand correctly while holding your head and hands the right way. You also need to know the etiquette and rules. And while golf is seen as a game played by polite gentlemen (and ladies), once off the course they can be as hardnosed and testosterone fuelled as any Football /Ruby player.
Many here describe their CD’ing as their hobby, their football/rugby. It’s something that they enjoy and try to be good at. None will ever be good enough to turn Pro but that doesn’t stop them enjoying their time on the pitch.