Looking for Work Advise

I have never gone out dressed as a women (other than one burning man and that does not count). The only person who has ever seen me in my "alter ego" is my Girl Friend. Yet, something has come up and she feels I should go public.

My department is awesome and the people around me that I work with directly are awesome. We have a massive amount of respect for each other. Yet, upper management (who other area of the building) have other ideas about me.

I have learned that my work is looking to let me go but has not yet built their case fully yet. My supervisor is fighting to keep me. She and I work really well together.

I am an older male graphic designer and they want a younger person with a younger view point for my job. They are looking at options. Obviously they won't let on that it's an Age thing. That would be illegal and amoral. Companies find other ways to make things like this work out for themselves. For example, upper management gave my supervisor "their" personal input for my review. So, instead after getting 6 years of absolutely impeccable reviews (4.5's or better for 6 years), I am getting 2.75's to 3's with lame excuses. My supervisor does not and can not afford to loose her job and so....gave the review.

So here is my dilemma.

If I lose my job, I will most likely loose my house and just spiral down from there. My girlfriend feels I should show up at work dressed as a women. She feels that then, if they fire me, I can claim discrimination. I am pretty sure if I show up dressed as a women, they will for sure let me go. Still citing what ever other than the Cross Dressing (or Expressing who I am). So lets say they don't let me go out of fear of reprisal and bad publicity. It is still a problem. The idea of going to work as a women that is. Here is why -

Other issues I have are how it will affect my personal life. Colleagues I work well with I don't envision will understand. My closest friends are EXTREMELY anti-cross dressing as is my family. How do I know. I checked years ago and pretty much check again here and there. Simple questions when the topic comes up or something in the media comes around (tv shows, news, what ever).

My mothers response is, "Being gay is fine, but any guy that isn't gay and dresses like a women is crazy and should be shot". My closest friends (Males) don't see far from her view point.

All of my friends know that I am a bit feminine and I do things because I feel like it. I think that is partly why so many of them have emphasized their viewpoint on the Non-Homosexual Cross Dressers.

They are either waiting for me to announce I am a Homosexual male, or I am sure pray I will not say anything.

So now I don't know what to do. My Girl Friend really really feels I should make the move before they let me go. Since I got my review, it's now literally a "any day now" thing. Going home from working thinking, "Good night Westly, sleep well, for I may have to kill you in the morning".

Stress levels are insane. Health is deteriorating. Jobs are out there but NONE pay as well as this (with years of pay raises and such). And that is IF I could find a job in a field that is over saturated in the industry (art colleges are pumping out people like bots in a factory).

So, what do you think? Should I just say $#% it and just go for it?

Again, as mentioned, I have NEVER ever let others know about this. I have never gone out in public. Family problems will become massive. Friend issues. No guarantee the person who wants me to will even stick around when the $%*& hits the fan (Family and friend wise). Heck, I don't even own a wardrobe. Just a few items here and there and make-up.

Please, can anyone share their issues, experience and wisdom on this? I am so scared to loose my job and yet, am just as frightened to go to work as a women knowing how much it will affect my personal life.

It seems to me that you have enough on your plate without making life even more complicated. When people find out at work it is a nightmare trust me been there got the scorch marks. The extra aggro on top of your other problems could have a serious effect on your health.

Maria

The first thing you should do is talk with a labor attorney and discuss the review. Did you sign it? Did you send a response to it? Did you ask for additional training or assistance to bring you back to a good review? You are probably right about them wanting to get rid of you as you are probably in your upper pay grade and this is their way to try and get you out either voluntarily or non voluntarily. The important thing now is to document everything daily if you want to make a case for discrimination. I would not look for another job nor would I go in dressed as a woman or you would get fired most likely. I would instead work extra hard and volunteer for more projects and try to save my position. You might also ask for a meeting with top management to discuss the review and find out who provided the input and on what basis.

I don't know where you are based, but in the UK if you are made redundant, then it is the job that is made redundant and thus the person is no longer necessary. If you are made redundant and they replace you and the role you had with them with a younger employee, then you would have a case for "constructive dismissal". In the UK, the maximum payout for this is around £65,000. I don't know how this works in the US, so if you are based there, then I would seek advice in this regard.

If they are not after making you redundant, but firing you under the "excuse" that your standards have dropped, then again a case for constructive dismissal may still apply. You could find out if your review scores (2.75 to 3) are being lowered to a level that falls below what is required. They will have a policy on this, and in any review you are entitled to ask for clarification in this regard.

If this situation is causing you to suffer stress, and affect your health, then go and see a doctor straight away. Get a medical report, get it documented, and again you may have a case of constructive dismissal in that your position, through no fault of your own, is becoming untenable.

I, personally, would strongly advise against going to work dressed - especially just turning up out of the blue dressed one day. I believe that the protocol for doing something like that would be to make your employers aware of this first, who can then inform other employees, so that it can ensure that it won't result in any negative reactions from other employees. Any employer has a duty to all employees, and if you turn up dressed and another employee reacts negatively, then this could possibly form a basis for the termination of your contract. You would have a hard time arguing discrimination if you hadn't made it clear to your employers (and other employees) that you are transgendered before hand.

One other thing to consider, if you are let go, even if you do pursue a case of discrimination, you will still need to get another job. And any other prospective employer would want a reference from your previous employer. Thus, any prospective employer would be aware of your crossdressing. If you are ok with that, then fine. But from what you say (i.e. family problems, friend issues, etc), I get the impression that you wouldn't be ok with this. Furthermore, any case for discrimination will involve hearings, which I would presume you would want friends/family to attend for support - well, you've just outed yourself to everyone.

Before you do something you may regret, look at the whole picture again. As a supervisor of supervisors... I've seen extraordinary reviews on underperforming employees. The trap is that sometimes a supervisor can't or won't write an unbiased review on a person they work so closely with. Fear of hurting feelings and friendships often skew the report. I consider that a lost opportunity to improve performance and develop a better employee. Rave reviews don't help anything but egos if their not accurate.

My advice would be introspection. Re-read the evaluation. It should include performance goals for you to meet. If necessary, meet with your bosses again to discuss the evaluation and their expectations. If the expectations are unreasonable, then perhaps you're right to be concerned.

I hope this note is received as well intended. When I was a kid, the older brother I looked up to would tell me, "Be strong, work hard, and remember your ultimate goal." You're shouldn't just be working for today.

Good luck!

To keep it short here. If they truely are your friends then they should have no problem accepting you for who you are. From my experiences my so called friends turn out to be two faced and only hung around with me cause I was well off before being laid off. After that when I needed help it was like they turned a deaf ear. Life choices are not easy but they make us stronger. Mt circle of friends is very small now and they have been there for me when Ive been at my worse. Just choose what you hink is best for you hun.
Renee

[SIZE="3"]I only see downside to suddenly showing up to work crossdressed. It didn't work for Klinger (M*A*S*H) and it won't work for you. People have been fired for crossdressing (at home not even at work) and it has been upheld in the courts. Any halfway competent company attorney could make a fool of you. And, as others have said, you put yourself in a bad situation for future employment elsewhere.[/SIZE]

As a former department and site manager in both smaller and larger organizations, showing up to work cross dressed as a way to protect your job is a terrible idea. While it may work in the short term, it would probably guarantee your future employment termination. Except if you have a solid work contract, and few job positions do, it is not difficult to find legal and defensible ways to terminate almost any employee. Sometimes it takes longer in more delicate situations since more care and better documentation is requirement to protect the company. You may also harm another employee for they may be terminated along with you as a means to protect the company from discrimination and as a excuse to terminate the other employee. The disruption you will probably cause in the workplace would not be appreciated by many and you would become a target of ridicule whether it is overt or not.

Going to work cross dressed will flow over into your personal life since there is no way to keep it separated forever. Depending on your field, word would get out. This will probably follow you for a long time and jeopardize your chances at future employment especially in the same field and area. This is not burning bridges, this is dropping a small nuclear bomb on them. From an employment perspective, there is no up side to your plan and only down side. You are angry and hurt, but your solution will only make things worse and probably irreparably damage your future prospects.

Vicki...its definitely not a good thing to show up dressed to work, thinking that is going to save your job. If there is the hints that they are going to replace you, and your supervisor is giving you the lower scores, its a sign of the times, and maybe its time to move on. I don't know where you are located, but if you are in the US, then many states are "at will" employment states. This means that you have the right to quit at any time, and the management has the right to let you go as well...does not have to be for a 'strong' reason (but that makes it easier) and this is very important. Maybe its best to start looking elsewhere, or just see what they want you to improve on, and do your best to comply

Showing up for work one day crossdressed will ONLY cause major issues that you do NOT need in the workforce nowadays. IF you were transitioning and you had made previous inroads to the company via the HR director etc, and they had ample notice that due to the impending pre-surgery requirements you were obligated to function effectively as a female in the associated wardrobe and deportment, that would be a different situation.

As you mentioned, you are an older employee. The diminishing review scoring may be age related but for other reasons such as the pending 'healthcare' debacle.
many hundreds of thousands of companies are laying off older or non essential employees to take advantage of the obamacare(?) regulations on employee funded medical insurance dependent on the total number of employees. Many more are converting full time employees to part time for the same reason.

I would continue to perform at the top of your game, cause no distratction by showing up unannounced in female garb and talk with your HR director about your concerns.

I think you have to show a younger viewpoint, you need a go getter attitude and a good industrial lawyer.
Dressing and fighting redundancy that way will only invite disaster.
Stay straight and try to think young.
Look for that lawyer.

Vicki,
You have not indicated where you live and work. Therefore the advise cannot be specific to your situation. If you are in the states, would it do any good to take some time off under FMLA? You might find it useful to get some help with the building stress which is causing you to think about doing something no one here thinks is a good idea. BTW, I agree don't show up dressed. The fact that you haven't expressed "alternative" gender identification yet means if they have already built their case, it won't make a difference. There is growing protection for non-conforming gender expression in the US with several recent appeals court ruling and the EEOC rulings but they are not universally recognized in all jurisdictions yet.

Christine,
Could you please share the source of your contention that people are actually being laid off because of the pending changes to the health care laws?

Regards to all,
Leann

Best advice: find another job while you're still employed. If they ask why, say that you've read Up The Organization by Robert Townend and he believes that after five years people lose their ability to really make changes and grow. You've excelled there but money isn't everything and it's important to find new opportunities, etc, etc.

Forget any hail-Mary plays; however, submit this idea as a script for a movie because it would be entertaining to watch.

You may have a case if you showed up for work CD and then the reviews went sour, but if it has already started they have a strong starting point for it not to be related to CDing so doing it for this reason would be wrong given the other personal reasons you have for keeping it to yourself. Outing yourself as public CD to even friends and family is a massive step which you should probably do before you go full time CD. The initial process out outing yourself will be a stressful one with mixed reactions you will get and may cause distraction from your work giving them further fuel for the fire.

Most any FACTUAL news source, Leann. A few of my friends as well who were placed on reduced hours.

Ok, I re-reviewed what you posted. You seem to have a clean-cut case of age discrimination. GET A LAWYER NOW and start documenting what you can. When you have a history of stellar performance and then you start getting downmarked due to talk of your age being something they don't want, it's textbook-case provable in court. I was reading an article recently on it from a lawyer where someone thought it was unprovable, but for sure, it is.

Edit: Found it: http://www.undercoverlawyer.com/age-...ce-appraisals/

There are more things related on his site: http://www.undercoverlawyer.com/arch...iscrimination/

However, that being said... do realize that your job is lost. The court cases can only happen after being "let go" and can only get you money. Start accepting this. As a person who was an amazing employee, far more intelligent than my boss, doing the work of five people and still let go (due to not being part of his "boys club" and putting the customers ahead of employee comfort), know that there's nothing you can do about this. You could be the best worker ever, and it doesn't matter.

There's lots of evil people in management these days, due to the fact that only the dirtiest fighters in such a poor economy are staying on top (meaning the ethical ones are removed), so know that, no matter how hard you work, there's nothing changing it. And, don't worry about it. So, you lose your home? So what? You rent. And, banks take two years to kick people out these days. Stop payments, declare bankruptcy, and move on. You'll find a new job in less than two years and all this nonsense will be behind you. But, for your own mental health, know that your job is gone. Recognize it, get the money you deserve and move on to the next place.

Remember Vicki, the people giving legal advice in this thread are a diverse group, from diverse jurisdictions, and who have a limited knowledge of your situation. Take everything you read with a grain of salt.

The business environment is changing. Small and mid size companies are trying to deal with the ACA. The magic number is 50. The emerging tendancy now is to have a core set of employees and contract everything else. The mid-size companies are setting up the employees as LLC corporations. It allows them to have business contracts which aren't subject to the ACA since it is corporation to corporation business. This puts more responsibility on the worker. They have to get their own insurance and take care of their own taxes. A good company will take care of that for their contractors but is not necessay for them. There is also the possibilty that they will not pick up your contract again. The proceeding is just how bussiness is forming.

What seems to me, is that you have run headlong into a good ole boy/girl network. These can cause all kind a grief for everybody. If your company has a HR department, I would start there. HR has the ability to override most management when it comes to dicrimination. Don't go to work dressed as this only gives them fuel for their fire.

Re-read the advise from Beverly.......

Does your place of employment have a legal dress code?
Does your location have laws in place to protect your choice of clothing?
How bad do you want to fight a discrimination case?
How bad do you love your job?
How bad do you want to go to work en femme?

Get the answers from the right people and you will soon know what to do.

Years ago I was dismissed/let go from an accounting position because my 'position' became redundant, " Cost Accountant ". My cousin is a big-shot lawyer in Toronto so I asked his advice. Do you want to fight this for 4 years? Do you want your old job back and have to work in that enviroment? How good is your heart?
I left, and they waited about 2 years before replacing me to protect themselves. I moved on and never looked back.

It probably depends on where you live, but I don't believe you can just show up at work dressed one day and expect to be considered a member of a protected class. A lot of employers are willing to accommodate TG personnel, but they require some form of notification or coordination with HR, and you might even need some kind of document from a counselor or therapist. And most will not allow you to go back and forth, so you may need to be full-time. It doesn't sounds like you're ready or even want to do that. And given the difficulties in your personal life that it would likely create, it doesn't sound like a good strategy. You're already a member of a protected class (age), so I would follow the advice of the others and at least get a consultation with an employment lawyer and find out your options.

I'm sorry to hear about your difficulties at work. It sucks the way employers can treat their loyal and long time employees.

I would start looking for alternative employment. Going to work in drag is an excellent way to get yourself fired with little or no possibility of a positive reference from your colleagues.

DO NOT show up for work dressed as a woman. Bad idea.

As others have pointed out coming to work crossdressed is an incredibly BAD idea. You are just finding a reason for someone who is on the fence perhaps to get rid of you.

The company can probably show (dated e-mails, etc,) that discussions of replacing you were already under way before your "desperate" stunt to save your job. Doomed to failure, I'm afraid. But might there be an age discrimination case?

I would personally deal with this particular issue in your male persona. At this stage going in dressed is like throwing fuel on the fire. If you end up staying or in another job and you made a decision to dress to work that is different. To handle this current crisis by going in dressed I believe would be the wrong decision. Just my opinion.

No, I wouldn't use your cross dressing as an excuse. If you dont want to go public for any other reason, than trying to use it for this purpose is just plain fraud.

I can't help you on the job front beyond suggesting that if I worked at a place where I was no longer wanted - whatever the reason - then I'd start looking elsewhere. That's a lot more constructive and productive than trying to find basis for a lawsuit.

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Originally Posted by VickiTheGamer

My department is awesome and the people around me that I work with directly are awesome. We have a massive amount of respect for each other. Yet, upper management (who other area of the building) have other ideas about me.

I have learned that my work is looking to let me go but has not yet built their case fully yet. My supervisor is fighting to keep me. She and I work really well together.

I am an older male graphic designer and they want a younger person with a younger view point for my job. They are looking at options. Obviously they won't let on that it's an Age thing. That would be illegal and amoral. .
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Could it be that you have stagnated, that your ideas are, for lack of a better word, "old fashioned"? Do you honestly think you are as good as a recent college graduate would be in this job?

It's difficult for us to see us or our work as others see it. You might want to enroll in some courses to keep your skills and ideas up to date.

The company is not going to fire you because you are too old. They are looking at the bottom line and if a younger person seems more productive, that's the direction they will take. If your work is as good or better than a younger person's they will keep you.

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Originally Posted by linda allen

The company is not going to fire you because you are too old. They are looking at the bottom line and if a younger person seems more productive, that's the direction they will take.

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Some people do get fired based on age. Sometimes it is even completely legal, even in places that are not "right to work". For example, in Canada, high court cases have ruled that age-based mandatory retirement of university professors is legal.

With respect to "bottom line", what has to be calculated is not just "Are you more productive / better at producing ideas than recent grads", but "Are you more productive / better at producing ideas than as many recent grads together as could be bought with the higher salary you are being paid?".

(If your company happens to be contracting out work to India and the like for cost reasons, then you should certainly expect that you too are being examined on a "What could we get for that money?" basis.)

Take some FMLA time and explain you are have a stress related breakdown due to work situations.
Once on FMLA they cannot fire you and you will still be paid.Not your full pay but that will be enough to get by until you find another job.
You will have to go to a Dr and be evaluated but it sounds like you are having stress issues and you need to go to a Dr seriously.
Its for your own health and well being.
I have worked with people going thru the same thing so go see a Dr and discuss this with HR pronto.
The Company is messing around with you and looking for a way to dismiss you because of your age and this is the only legal way they can do this with out it being called age discrimination. Going in enfemme will be considered a disruption in the work place and will get you fired I'm sure.Not a good idea.
Get legal help too now is the time I'm serious.

Do NOT show up dressed, for all good reasons listed above.

Do NOT listen to any of the "legal" advice listed above. We do not know enuff about u or the details of your situation to give u any useful advice.

U can talk to an experienced labor attorney if u like. But, why? U haven't a legal reason to see one yet. Unless u wish him/her to speculate about what u MITE do if such and such DID happen?

I think your money would be better spent on a good therapist! U could discuss all your worries openly and he/she mite give u some useful direction/options!

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Originally Posted by Tracii G

Once on FMLA they cannot fire you and you will still be paid.

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When I search about FMLA, I consistently find it described as being for unpaid leave, a maximum of 12 weeks in most cases ??

We do not have FMLA as such in Canada, but there are labour laws having to do with medical leave. One of my relatives here was fired while on medical leave; it isn't supposed to happen, but as hinted at by one of the previous posters, if it does happen you pretty much have to start legal action to get paid for the time until you would have gone back to work. (The actual procedure in Canada is quasi-judicial rather than judicial, and you do not need a lawyer, but using an experienced labour lawyer helps a fair bit.) If I interpret correctly, in the case of my relative, going through the system got the "firing" removed from their record, got some back pay, and gave enough time for my relative to apply for disability pay. But my relative is still out of a job... and wouldn't have wanted to work there anyhow, after the way they were treated.

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Originally Posted by VickiTheGamer

So, what do you think? Should I just say $#% it and just go for it?

Again, as mentioned, I have NEVER ever let others know about this. I have never gone out in public. Family problems will become massive. Friend issues. No guarantee the person who wants me to will even stick around when the $%*& hits the fan (Family and friend wise). Heck, I don't even own a wardrobe. Just a few items here and there and make-up.

Please, can anyone share their issues, experience and wisdom on this? I am so scared to loose my job and yet, am just as frightened to go to work as a women knowing how much it will affect my personal life.

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Well I don't think you should, it would affect to many other areas of your life and since you have never been out in public before you probably would not have any confidence in yourself as a woman in the world. It would most likely make things a whole lot more stressful then they already are.

I'm sorry for everything you are going through :hugs:

I went through some similar job insecurities the last couple years - ended up keeping the job but it was nerve-wracking and I did lose my house and go bankrupt - its scary stuff. But just keep it a day at a time, try not to project to much, breath :) it will all pass.

If you do loose your job what about freelancing? I have several friends that are freelance graphic designers that do alright.

First and foremost do not go in dressed. It will only complicate things and may keep you from getting work elsewhere. While companies usually officially refuse to tell others why you were let go it is not hard to find out. Something like you are thinking of would cause a lot of talk among your co-workers.

If you live in one of several states that have 'employment at will' a company doesn't need any reason to terminate you. All they have to tell you is that they have decided to let you go. I assume that you are not a member of a union so you will have to go it alone. Even in major corporations doing business with the government it is not hard to let someone go. I've done it from senior officers down. In most every case I only explained that the company no longer needed their services.

I never enjoyed letting people go and always felt I had valid reasons for their termination. I found it interesting that when they were told many expected it and cited the reason they were being terminated. I've also been there, so I know from experience the pangs of being fired.

Having employed graphic designers among other artistically talented people I found that corporate management didn't understand or relate to their skills. Corporate may feel that your work is not current with what or where they want to be. I can't answer that for you, but you need to review your work. Have you kept current? Have you taken courses to enhance your work. Attended seminars about new things etc. One of my pet peeves was when an employee expected the company to train them for new opportunities and refused to make any effort on their own. They would become moribund at their desk doing the same thing as the world changed.

On the good side of being terminated is that in many cases it has opened up new opportunities. You indicated that it would be hard to find a job. The answer to that is become your own. I have always told my employees that they are self employed even if they didn't realize it. The company will contract with them until they quit or the company doesn't need them anymore. It is their responsibility to make the company want them. Find something you want to do and do it better than anyone else.

With FMLA you will use up sick time and vacation time just depends on how your contract is written IIRC.

Hi Vicky,

I have to concur with the advice given here. Two things I embrace in my philosophy are, one, never concede your control of how information is given out, and two, what you say can and will be used against you.

If the upper management has already set their sights on you, then there is nothing you really can do. One scenerio would be, you do your best and perform as you always have and still get fired. You fight the front of having to go start over in the workplace somewhere. The other scenerio is, you put on pumps and go to work, they back off for a bit to regroup and strategize on how to let you go anyway, without loss on their end. The end result is, two, maybe, three paychecks later and you are back to square one and looking for a job, plus now you are fighting on a second front with family, friends, etcetera.

Fighting both the Allied Forces and Russians on two different fronts was Hitler and Nazi Germany's undoing. Don't let the current dilemma force you to put yourself in that same position. Only tell people in your world about your crossdressing, if you can honsestly say it is something you are ready to do, when there are no other major events going on in your life. Never make life changing decisions when under duress.

If your family is as hostile as what your post makes them out to be, now is not the time to bring crossdressing into the equation. Remember, timing, in show business -and life- is everything. You want to be 100% focused and dedicated to dealing with people when that time comes, if it comes, to share your secret.

I think you will lose your job there no matter what you do if the upper management has already decided to lock onto you. Don't lose more than that.

Good luck and best wishes,

Kalista

I would update my resume and find a new job. If you are getting impeccable reviews, you should be able to find a job. If you want to wear a dress to work, wear it to your new interview.

I don't recall that you have said which part of the world you are located in. If you are in USA, then I recommend you have a look at the description of a California Supreme Court decision of a few days ago, Harris vs. City of Santa Monica.

I might be misinterpreting (I am not a lawyer in any jurisdiction), but the decision looks to me like it says that if a company is thinking about firing someone, and then that person presents them with something the company is not supposed to discriminate against, and the company proceeds to fire the person, that (A) the person would not be entitled to anything if the company can demonstrate that it would certainly have fired the person anyhow; and (B) the person would only be entitled to legal expenses and an order to the company to stop discriminating, if the company can demonstrate that it was justified in firing the person anyhow but the matter the company discriminated against might have been a partial trigger; and (C) that a full discrimination case would only be accepted if the firing was "substantially" motivated by the matter the company was not supposed to discriminate against. This is how I understand the case, so anyone this case might affect is urged to have a lawyer check it out rather than relying on my interpretation.

Why would you want to add the stress of family issues to the job issues you already have. I don't know what state your in, but I don't think crossdressing is a protected status in most states. So going to work as a women is not going to get anything accomplished for you and will only add the family issues on top of it. I would suggest you not bring the crossdressing into the job problems. As for the job, I understand what you may face looking for a new job. I'm older and finding a job has been a real problem for me. You may have to accept lower pay, part time, or jobs outside of your field to keep the house and other things going.

Fours words of advise..... At-will / No cause. Unless you have an ironclad union contract they can dump you for no reason. I know, it's happened to me. Not for dressin, although that would have made scense, it was for turning in another employee that I caught stealing. Yea, I know right... I turned the other employee in and they dumped me. The other person was union and I was at-will no cause. I apparently was not as well connected as I thought.

Here's a few other words of advice... The best time to look for a job is when you have one. Always be on the look out for another or even better job.

Hope this helps.....

Renne.....

I would not reccomend you do the going into work dressed thing. Unless perhaps, you lived in the UK, where as I understand it there are presonal civil liberty courts set up whose rulings are generally for the plaintiff and quite liberal most of the time. In the US, being LGBT you are not part of a protected class under federal law........just yet. (Though I do believe the time is slowly coming....'bout time too I might ad). I would strongly suggest you start documenting everything that is going on with you/your position at work. Take a weekend, stay home, get a spiral bound note book and cronologically write down every thing you can think of in the order it has happend about your past and present employment situation. Document who you talked with and when. Next,call your local legal aid society or state department of labor, and find out who some good labor law attorneys are. To me, it sounds like you have a good shot at an age discrimination case/suit in the event you are terminated by your employer, unless I am missing something or you are purposely hiding relevent info. If your company is large and has deep pockets, I think any attorney worth his/her salt would want to take on your case, as it sounds like it would be a nice pay-day for the both of you. Good luck.