Do you try to dress like a real woman?

Hey everybody!
I have heard the phrase "real women don't actually look like that" when talking about how cross dressers try to look. I think this comes from going over the top with insane makeup or outfits.

I am wondering if a lot of you dress to look like the average girl, or if you go all out to seem as feminine as possible? I see lots of pictures here where girls really dress themselves up to try to look pretty extreme, and I would call it over the top if you are trying to blend in, or is it really just the feel of being so feminine that you are going for?

I personally am pretty casual about dressing, and don't really shoot to be anything like a model. So what kind of look are you girls trying to get?

Since I present as a woman full time, I just dress like those around me. No...wait...I dress a whole lot better, but still in the capris and flats, or skinny jeans and modest heels category. About twice a year I get to wear an evening dress, sparkly heels, bolder makeup, and an updo, but only when everyone else is doing the glam.

I usually dress as any other woman my age would at whatever place I am going. Never the sloppy look but like a middle aged middle class woman.

I always dress for the occasion.
For instance, for a fundraiser or some event I will doll up in a fancy dress. If I'm at a concert or a restaurant, I'll put on a stylish dress.
Lately I have been dressing down in public for errands like shopping at the supermarket or going into stores like Staples like I did yesterday wearing womens' knee length denim shorts, flip-flops with a purple pedicure, womens t-shirt, heart necklace, and earring studs, womens sunglasses and a shoulder handbag. This was actually the first time I went out with no makeup at all. I figure I'll let my shoulder length hair, electrolysis & laser hair removal do the talking (...which isn't really quite done yet, but a noticeable improvement). I don't think I look good as someone who is transitioning/transitioned, and that is fine with me. I won't win any beauty contests this way, but I'just glad to go out there and be me.
My avatar on the left is what you see is what you get.

I've always liked the term classy old broad.

It's often referred to here as, "dressing to blend", FM. Most closet dressers don't dress that way unless forced to go out dressed. I certainly don't anyway! Why dress like a wet mop when u wish to appear like the fashion model females in your imagination?

I particularly dislike looking in my mirror before going out in vanilla land dressed. The image there is NOT very sexy, shapely, or feminine.

Pretty much the OPPOSITE of everything Sherry stands for!

I'm I'm en femme, I'm aiming for a pretty look. Nothing more or less Hon.:battingeyelashes::)

Since I don't go out dressed, I dress however the mood strikes me. Some nights it is my goal to look as "passable" as possible, but just as often I indulge one fantasy or another. Extreme can be fun!

Absolutely. It feels fantastic to be completely dressed in womens' clothes. Knowing that the clothes you are wearing are genuinely female clothing is incredibly exciting. Emma

I'd say I dress like a woman but dressy casual. Stuff you'd where to the office or out to a nice dinner. Dresses almost exclusively. Like Sherry said, why dress in plain old clothes when you can wear pretty dresses. Going out, however, I'd wear something more conservative. Leggings, flats, a blouse or a short dress, minimal makeup, etc. Makes you wonder how many crossdressers we walk right by because they dress to blend.

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Originally Posted by NathalieX66

I always dress for the occasion.

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Agreed. While I might throw on a nice dress for an evening out you're just as likely to find me in a nice top and shorts visiting a museum, or a T-shirt and casual skirt while out shopping or eating.

There's always room for a little fun, but I try and fit in with the setting.

-Bree

I seek to strike a balance between blend-in and stand-out...Even in a normal "running errands sort of mode" I want to wear something that make me feel good and look good...The two do not need to be mutually exclusive

Having just begun dressing its a bit hard to say. I have several lovely pieces of lingerie to play with at home, as well as this little booty shorts thing. The outfit we are working on for our Vegas trip later this month will be much more age appropriate. If I'm going out the hot pink stockings will be replaced with something more appropriate to a lady my age.

I try my best to dress like a well-dressed woman at all times. This does not mean that I try to dress like most women as I do not like how most women dress these days. Even when dressing casually, I try to look nice.

I can honestly say that not all of women's clothing do anything for me.. I have no desire for the material unless it has some sort of effect of the material I do have the desire for..I have no desire for what it looks like ( cute outfit whats that ?) ,. Unless it creates the illusion of a better body or I can feel the feminine fit verses not feeling it at all I won't waste my time with it and soon throw it out.. Saying that can suggest it took me allot of time through trial and error finding what was best for me.. So yeah..I tend to be the sexy under garment kinda dresser I prefer trashy verses the classy look ..

I op for the extreme look, its more of a clubbing/night out look. I go out dressed like that sometimes, rarely do I see a GG dressed up like that but when I do, I remember them forever. So I'm standing out rather than blending in, I feel good to dress like that.

Since I don't go out I can say I dress to feel a need in me of being more feminine. I find that I enjoy the heavier makeup. The taller heels, and the sexier looking clothes but in answer I dress to please me and my inner self.

If I went out, which I don't, it would be blending in and appropriate to the occasion. I'm not interested in attracting unwanted attention, and certainly not male suitors.

Real women don't dress like me and I don't dress like real women. I'm over the top and off the deep end.:D

For me its about being an everyday woman. I dress casual when I'm doing things around the house, light make-up usually consists of lipstick, maybe a little eye shadow a little face powder and that's about it. Casual and comfortable skirt or shorts, and a comfortable top. Sometimes my breast forms, some times not as I have natural 'a' cup breast as it is. I just like to be a natural girl. Of course if I'm going out,( which is rarely )I dress up in my finest, which I do enjoy, just don't get out much.

I don't think I dress like real women. Like Docrobbysherry, I don't dress to go out in public and blend in. I like lingerie, skirts... you know, sexy stuff! My make up isn't outlandish though. Any pics I've posted such as my avatar show how I dress, and I'm certain the same goes for the rest of the girls here.

I try to dress like a real woman... but a woman who likes dresses and skirts a lot. I wear women's jeans in male mode anyway, so if I'm dressing up, it has to be a dress or skirt.

Candice dresses like an average GG her age would, a top and jeans on most days and a skirt/shorts occasionally on hot days. she has dresses for all events, but doesn't wear them too much. She'll try them on when she gets them, then for pictures, and then the few occasions she feel like getting dolled up. Then there's the days that she doesn't even get out of her PJ's, or lounges around in a tank top and yoga pants.

Lots of variety.

I do go out a lot and I dress to blend. However, I DO NOT dress to blend at Walmart. Some of those people are downright spooky! I do have some taste.

Dress for the occasion, but with taste.

Leah

I try to blend in and not draw attention to myself. My Wife helps pick out my clothes when I shop and "tries" to tone down my appearance. Even if I'm not going out dressed on the weekends, I'm in 50/50 mode that always includes capri's or women's shorts. Everyday women just don't dress up enough for me. :)

Cindy

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Originally Posted by Leah Lynn

I do go out a lot and I dress to blend. However, I DO NOT dress to blend at Walmart. Some of those people are downright spooky! I do have some taste.

Dress for the occasion, but with taste.

Leah

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I agree with Leah Lynn. I go out a lot also and always dress for the occasion and also with taste.

Dress for the occasion.
The mall may be jeans and a floppy blouse or sweatshirt.
The mall at lunch may be a business suit.
Evening a skirt and blouse.
It all depends on whatever it takes to “pass”, and when I say “pass”, it’s to fool the women that see you.
As far as “occasions” go, my favorite outfit is a Frederick’s of Hollywood leather look-alike mini skirt, seamed stockings, sheer blouse with lacy bra, kind of my flashing neon sign saying “EASY”. I wear it when I go looking for guys.

Absotively!

At least, . . . as close as I can get.

I'm not a hyper-feminine dresser. I'm not a fetishistic dresser. I'm not a period dresser. And I'm sure not one that would be called anything but a boring, prudish, "normal" dresser.

I don't necessarily follow trends, knowing that as few times as I wear something, by the time I pull it out the second time, it would be sooooooo last month! :)

Basically, I have my own style. I've taken the professional look of my wife (who still takes my breath away!), and added some "fun" from my quirky (OK - unhinged) side.

:)

Kathi

Yes, and one of the nicest compliments I have received is the I "looked like a woman"!

I have really become a fan of just dressing casually in girly clothes all the time. sure the T shirts and jeans are a lot more slim fitted and sometimes shorter, but I like the way they look and feel. I don't feel the need to get in a dress every time I want to go out. It is fun to just enjoy the little things that GG's experience every day! I wear yoga pants around the house all the time and it is just kinda fun to feel cozy while expressing myself at the same time :)

I am pretty broke right now too, so I keep asking GG friends to give me their old clothes that they don't want any more, so I at least get to wear what a normal girl would!

I think I have a pretty good sense of style and have received many compliments on my outfits and a few times have been asked where I bought the dress, skirt etc. It also helps that I use a minimal amount of makeup.

You bet I do, That,s the hole idea for me. When I step out the door I want to look all of a girl I can. And I love being noticed. I have no idea what they are thinking. If it,s good then I,ve done my part well.

yup I do! I try and totally pass for a woman, so I try to look good, but tasteful as well. I don't dress overly sexy when out and about, as I'm still working on my voice, and like to avoid conversations with men. sometimes around the house I dress a little on the sexier side for fun though, I've gotten some beeps and hollered at (in a good way) by some guys driving past when I was walking through my yard in a mini skirt. :heehee:

I like to be pretty when I dress, and wear what I like to see women wearing: dresses, hosiery, heels. I know this isn't necessarily realistic for everyday wear, but I don't go out, so I wear what I like, and try to present a convincing image for myself ;)

I try to dress to look normal and natural, what would a 40 something woman wear... I just want to blend and not get a second look.
I was never one for the extreme and want to be able to look in the mirror and see Emily looking back, but she's a picky pain in the butt some days.

Dresses are nice, but shorts and a nice top work on most days when it's warm.

When I first was out I dressed like the girls my age. Back then it was always a dress or skirt. Blue eye shadow days. The fun part was the lingerie then bra slip panty and long legged panty girdle with hose. Women and girls wore nice clothes often.

Today it is much more casual. I ware blouses or tops and shorts most of the time. Seldom a dress except long lounge wear for around the pool. I think that several of the women around the area don't even own a dress. Most of the men don't own suits. I don't really miss dresses.

I wear women's jeans while in male mode so when Patti goes out she usually wears a skirt and sometimes a dress. With the hot weather finally here, I love to feel a cooling breeze on my legs, even if I am wearing pantihose. Real women should enjoy their femininity as much as I do.

Hi,

Hmmm, okay well id have an issue with this, Oh dear .....iv tryed for a few years now & i took two years to learn makeup , clothes , so i could look normal or as said like .....a real woman...... yea okay ill wave that , any way i tryed did health & beauty with 6 other women had makeup done by two lovely makeup women did it all. Jos helped with its not right get it off & start again, or those clothes are .....ooops, gone.

Jos was with me when i brought my first wig, she thought it was good, & buying clothes, well i did anyway for her, yes iv a good eye for = that looks great...on you.... hey i did not say on me.

Now all , well , most anyway would look lovely on others okay... on myself , well okay ill concede yes, oh even the shoes, now whats left does not count, as you know, i should just stop now & say thats it, well thats how i feel anyway. oh yea i went with some of our people on saturday night Edwardian members 25 of us, yes was lovely nice food & a lovelyy time out , oh yes all dressed up. well i thought they were . well a picture was taken of myself & one of my friends said it looked lovely.

Oooops thats when i start getting embarrised real quick. so iv not seen it ...yet.... oh heck. So do i dress as a normal woman. i think so. do i look like a normal woman. now was there another ? ...no... okay no i dont look like a normal woman never will , i am one, just im not happy with my look . as they say you cant or ( wont ) make a silk purse out of a sow's ear , you know i think they be right,

...noeleena...

I am regularly told real women don't wear pantyhose (that is a big one!), real women don't wear skirts and dresses everyday, real women don't wear a skirt suit to the mall, real women wear pants most of the time, etc. etc. That might all be true, "real women" might not wear nylons or whatever... but "I" do, "real women" might choose not to wear what I do, but "I" choose to because "I" like what I am wearing.

I dress first and foremost to please myself... if I am not pleased, why would I bother dressing up, I would end up feeling the same as I would dressed en drab (and being en drab I do not have to worry about being read, which restroom to use or being pulled over dressed and all that nonsense.)

While I'm out I like to dress on the "pretty" side of blending in. I might, for example, wear a bit of "bling" while shopping - not a lot and not enough to draw attention to myself. The idea is to "pass" if I possibly can. I try to dress as other women would in the same surroundings, possibly jeans & a top under a jacket on a cool day. I'm not going to stand out as being the only woman in a dress if I can help it.

Indoors is something else. I like to experiment - mix & match whatever I have. Some of the combinations are vile. :)

Lately I've had the help of a GG. Her advice has been great. When I go out to the mall or anywhere I notice what the ladies are wearing. At my age ladies don't wear mini skirts, seamed stockings or 5 inch pumps. As much fun as that might be I'll leave that for another time.

Yes FelicityMay, dressing like a real woman is certainly very important to me. I want to look in the mirror or look at my photos and see a woman, not a crossdresser. That's when I am happy with myself. It's not that I need to go out in public and pass, although I'd love to. I only need to convince my self that I have become a woman, that there is nothing I see that is male.

Hi Felicity May, I don't go out dressed but when I dress I like to look as feminine as possible
whether I'm dressed to the nines or just casual I want to see a lady looking back t me in the mirror
not just a guy with a dress and a wig in hi-heels.

I try to dress like a "real" woman my age (or a few years younger but that's still "old"). Of course I can't pull off some of the things they wear because I have a male body and some body hair. I have to conceal as much skin as possible.

What I don't do is dress like a hooker. No six inch heels, no short miniskirts, no overdone makeup, etc. I think that's the mistake many crossdressers make.

Hi there one and all.
I do dress as a women 24/7 but i dress from the heart and i do pout makeup on and i dress for the day. I think that we or me shod dress to in press just you for get the rest if you fill happy you are happy.

i think i know what your getting at and kinda felt the same about what ur asking . women dont go to prom everyday so why r there so many crossdressers that feel the only way to feel female like is this extravagent dressing . yes it feels good an looks femanin but females dont get made up everyday they were confertable clothes most often and the ocatioanal dress up unless there in a buisness setting were they have too be in dressy clothes its just a bother . ive seen gorgeas women dress down seven out of ten days rather than be fashionable its really funny when u get down too it and study them . sometimes men just pick up on the really pretty side of women and dont focus on the hohum side i guess . kinde like when u get a tux and where it for a formal event then the next day your in lounge pants an a t shirt .

We can dress in a plethora of ways both up and down but if we exude femininity and have confidence it will be evident regardless of how we dress Hon.:battingeyelashes::)

I tend to like the librarian/office gal look myself but I would love to go out in a nice evening dress someday. My main goal is to be passable and if I feel naughty i'll wear it under the "normal" gal clothes :) but I try not to stick out when I dress

Am not sure i fully understand what it means to "dress like a woman." Just kidding, i understand. I think for me, the key is to dress appropriately for the occasion/location. As an example, when SO and I go grocery shopping, it would be inappropriate to wear the same clothes i wear when i go clubbing - unless of course, am going grocery shopping at 2 in the morning on my way back from clubbing :battingeyelashes:

Now, when i do wear skirts and dresses, i also wear hose as i think it really enhances the formality of the clothing. Frankly, that is how the professional women in my practice dress.

If wearing jeans or leggings, i tend to wear open toed shoes so no hose. I do like the more exotic fabrics such as leather, PVC etc. When i wear those its also appropriate such as clubs where wearing that kind of clothing is appropriate.

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Originally Posted by Emma500

Absolutely. It feels fantastic to be completely dressed in womens' clothes. Knowing that the clothes you are wearing are genuinely female clothing is incredibly exciting. Emma

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EMMA I totally agree but mostly relaxed casual, jeans, capris, shorts with tops and tees etc. Not really in to dresses or over the top dressing just, blend in, casual female. I do get a lot of things at thrift stores, not just genuinely female clothes, but broken in by genuine female can be exciting also.