Is driving while dressed a fairly safe way to get out, at least a bit?
I'm not ready to go take a walk anywhere, however I think I'd be brave enough to try a little drive. Has this worked for others as a step along the way?
Thanks, Gail
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Is driving while dressed a fairly safe way to get out, at least a bit?
I'm not ready to go take a walk anywhere, however I think I'd be brave enough to try a little drive. Has this worked for others as a step along the way?
Thanks, Gail
Unless you have a very recognizable car, it's pretty low key. Any little steps to give yourself the courage to get out more is worth it! At worst, you might get stuck next to some giggling teenagers at a red light.
Yes, in my opinion it is a very safe way to get out of the house those first few times. Good luck and enjoy the view from the outside of your house.
Just be careful where you put you keys when you get out. I laid mine on the consul between the seats to hang up a tag on the mirror then when I got out the person that pulled in next to me pulled in a little close so I had to kind of twist a bit to get out and close the door. After so doing, I discovered that I had closed my skirt in the door and to my horror my keys were still on the consul. Fortunate my wife was there, but she was laughing so hard, it took her a while to find her clicker in her purse.
For your drives going out take a guy bag with you to have in the trunk in case of car trouble ect. Just extra piece of mind. ( throw in some baby wipes or something to remove makeup) Enjoy!
As long as you are careful. This is how I started at night those many, many long years ago.:battingeyelashes::)
It's a good way to start, if you drive a car, you will be seen by people in SUVs or trucks, but I like to show a lot of leg when I drive. Good luck, be confident and act normal.
I agree a great way to start and to get that smiling face out there ;) and I second on the driving a car not quite so noticeable...I learned that one the hard way...when I started really dressing, at the time I had my Porsche convo. And was trying to catch a summer breeze. A group of teens on sea island pulled up to the light with me at the causeway. I hear one screaming about my car and wanting to see it up close...thank goodness I could drive and put up the top...was quite a scare, lol.
Now, I do it with the top down.........hummmmmmm....that sounds.....fun.
Ms. G
Driving while dressed is a great start. My first trips out were first around my neighborhood then going farther and farther. Soon I was cruising down the interstate en femme and loving it.
pack an emergency kit of drab clothes for flat tire, etc. My truck has a tool box and the lid blew up on my first drive requiring me to get out and close it.
Yes, it's low risk. But be careful driving a stickshift in high heels... the clutch is murder. :)
If you see a disgruntled mob with torches and pitch forks keep driving cause odds are there not after you. I know there are a few bad apples out there and that CD's and other TG people all run the risk off verbal abuse or worse. But, the chances are that you have a better chance of winning the lottery.
As others have said be prepared and drive save. As keep a pair of flats in the center console/glove box cause driving in heels is dangerous.
What a perfect moment for the car alarm to go off!Quote:
Originally Posted by Krystenw
If you go out for a drive and don't want to be clocked, leave the convertible at home and avoid this type of outfit. But really, you almost have to grab people by the hair to get them to notice how you're dressed out in public. In forty years of gender blending I've had few unsavory incidents.
Sure, why not.
Probably the lowest of risks, all people are watching are the road and other cars.
Me, I'm looking at the girls on the sidewalk as well.
That is a little riskier. :)
Keep your eyes on your driving, keep your hands on the wheel, keep your filthy eyes on the road ahead.....
No I haven't got "Seven pretty girls sitting in the back seat".
I... um, Anita drives quite often. If I'm on the road making a trip by myself she usually does most of the driving. I try to do the traveling at night because she is extremely shy but she does have a ball doing it. She will even stop and get out of the car from time to time but not for long, she feels self conscious about her short male styled haircut!
In fact, she drove home from work yesterday crossdressed as a male:eek:! (i was under dressed).
Probably one of the lowest risks for getting out...pull into a gas station and fill up while you are at it.
I did that a LOT when I was younger. The hardest thing for me was to stifle my paranoia and not keep looking around when stopped in traffic or at a light. Pay attention when en drab to how much you actually look around while driving, the try to do the same while out and about in your Carmen Miranda (hat tip to Carla) outfit.
Best,
Rhonda
For me, the hardest part of going out dressed is getting from the house to the car and then out of the neighborhood. Once clear of the house and neighborhood, driving has a pretty low risk of being recognized unless you have a pretty unique car or personalized license plate.
Remember, you have to get back into the house as well and you don't know who might be parked out front waiting for you so you might want to change back to male mode before you head home.
Carla you are a roit:lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by CarlaWestin
Yes, that's how many of us first ventured out of the house. And take that emergency boy-clothes pack, with some makeup remover.
I did the dress up and driving thing a long time ago, and it didn't work out quite the way I wanted. I took my sports car instead of the truck, late at night figuring less traffic. And....wound up with some guys following me around in a pony car that kept trying to goad 'the blond in the hot sports car' into racing them. I did manage to eventually ditch them, but you never know what you're going to have to deal with. Yeah, they probably would have wanted to race no matter what I looked like, boy or girl, but who knows what else they might have on their mind.
Yep driving is a great way to get out!
Along with all the others it gets my vote along with the very sound advice about taking a boy bailout kit. Regarding the "not ready to go take a walk anywhere" can I suggest that your first tentative steps could be from your drivers door to the boot (trunk), either take something out or put something in and then back again? Done in a shoppers car park or a quiet lay-by it'll be short and sweet but boy will you get a rush. Get yourself together before you drive off! Tiny steps like this are how so many of us began but be warned, it can be addictive.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gail Marie
Its a great way to get for your first time.
This is the only way I go out. I underdress then put the rest on when I in the car away from home. I don't do the whole nine yards only putting on the women's clothes and shoes. It's pretty safe to do never had a problem. I did get a strange look and then a smile for the women at the toll both.
Its totally safe.... as long as you don't get in an accident.... or run out of fuel on some abandoned highway.... near a mental hospital... in a storm... or get pulled over by the police... or get abducted by a UFO.... totally safe...
I still love to get out and drive around ,but like Linda Allen said, the hardest part is getting out of the driveway and you never know who might be coming to visit you just as you come back.
Karren you are a beacon of sunshine!!! LOLOLOLOL
This may help with your self conciousness..
When was the last time you look a someone driving a car and see if they may be a CD?
Forget about it.
My only word of caution is that at this time of year you might find there are more police out looking for people coming home from Christmas parties who might have had just that one drink too many and doing random checks.
Unless you live next to the mall, it is the only way to get to it while dressed :)
Leann
It was a bit scary the first time I drove while as Miki, but I got over it quickly.
I drove dressed from San Jose to Sacramento a couple of months ago and had to stop for gas. I drive a Porsche Cayenne and had a hard time getting away from the questions about the car. Other than that, OBEY THE RULES.
Unlike being caught DUI, there is no DWC ("Driving While Crossdressed") infraction equivalent in effect anywhere that I am aware of ;) . I was even stopped once at a random DUI-style spot check while en femme, and it ended up being a total non-event.
Still, there's always the outside risk of encountering a Dukes of Hazzard/Smokey and the Bear style member of the constabulary while out driving even in these more enlightened times, so why take any unnecessary risks?
Consequently, while I tend to be a rather ummm..."spirited" driver when in "guy" mode, "Leslie" is always on her best behavior and follows all of the traffic rules to the letter to ensure that she continues to fly under the radar - literally! :eek: :heehee: :doh:
This was one of my greatest fears before I joined this forum nearly two years ago - especially of having to deal with police officers. Every once in a while someone will share another story of a non-event encounter with a police officer, or with other members of the public. Just remember to stay calm and honest no matter what happens, and it should be just as safe as driving in guy mode.
Miriam
You'd be surprised how easy it is to be anonymous in a car. My first drives started at night. Darkness rules. Later...many baby steps later, I 'graduated' to being a day driver. Like someone else said, if you are in a GM town and drive a non-GM car, people know. If you're in a foreign car town (outside of the rust belt) and drive an American car you might stand out. I say, when in Rome.....
In some states, the plate rules. The smaller the town, the more people 'round these parts know who drives what. It wasn't until I met a friend in the supermarket (in drab I was) and he said hey I thought I saw your car over.... people know. I now engage in stealth driving. During the day, sunvisors are down and cover the side windows. Sunroof is closed and I wear dark sunglasses. Then get out of small town as fast as I can. ah hem... within the speed limit though.
Once I'm out of town, I feel free and travel where I please. I still take care not to line up at a traffic light with other cars.... no need to encourage the one in a thousand that are out to out us....
With everything, just be careful or develop a great case of the IDC 'tude. (i.e. I Don't Care).
Renne.....
I've done this quite a few times, too. Since I have close by neighbors, I usually just dress partially in order to get to the car and then put the rest of my clothing on in the car. And my wig. I've ventured to the Post Office, actually parking and getting out of the car and walking to the mailbox and mailing some letters. And that was in 5 inch heels! The next time I do it, I'm going to definitely be toning it down. That's a good idea about keeping some drab clothes in the car. I haven't done that, but I will be from now on. I haven't had any problems as of yet. It's just baby steps but, eventually, I aim to get out fully and actually have a destination to go to for an evening of fun somewhere.
And...watch out for those red light cameras.
You have to sneak away from your house as the neighbors might see you, likewise on your return.
Short trips are better; I for one am not comfortable at highway rest stops.
yeah looks like everyones got this covered already....just dont go too late at night either, and obey all traffic laws..
If you are comfortable with the risk of being pulled over and possibly questioned about being dressed, yes.
One thing to remember is to lock your doors, when you are inside and outside your car (especially at night); remember, women who are driving around alone are more at risk then a cis male driving around alone, plus you have the risk of a hate crime if a bad guy reads you. Unlikely to happen of course, but it is something women in my life have reminded me about.
I have dressed many times and went for a drive around town. Once I got brave enough to drive the 20 miles to Wal-Mart. Sat there for about 15 minutes then realized why I got a parking spot up front at 3 AM. They was closed so came back home. But it was still a great outing
Well I started dressing when I was 9 so by the time I got my license I used my car as my chance to get out of the neighborhood and dress fully and figured I wouldn't be noticed by anyone I knew I was about 20 miles from home and was enjoying every minute. People saw me and I saw them but I don't think they knew I was a guy wearing a mini skirt and halter top. Oh to be young again.
I was reading Renne's post about driving in day light (most start at night me inc.) and it wasn't until late last year I drove in day light; and you know what, it wasn't a big deal. Like the others have said, obey the rules, be a polite driver and in free flowing traffic then you're all but anonymous. You soon learn how to position yourself if queuing for lights if it's more than one lane so as to avoid the sideways glances but even if you can't, just look like you belong and move off carefully when the lights change.
Plan ahead; don't do as I did once and go out one night without enough fuel. As that turned out it was a good thing because it forced me to do what I'd been trying to build courage to do and that was buy fuel enfem at a self serve pump. Since then I've done it in day light, at a busy petrol station and do you know what? No-one said or did anything and I'm not the best at passing.
Once you do it then you'll realize that its easy peazy.
You will soon look for the next step in being out there!
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Originally Posted by CarlaWestin
I broke the ice this same way, driving around at night, then in the day, then venturing from the safety of the car to the unknown world of gas stations, malls, movies, restaurants, and art museums.
A pitfall you might want to avoid: too much coffee. Lest you find yourself like I did, far between public restrooms in rural Upstate New York, standing in the shelter of the car door, dress rucked up and complex female underwear all disarrayed, taking an emergency whiz on the roadside. Whereupon a pack of bikers blazed on by. I was momentarily panicked, until one shaggy dude flashed me the Victory salute with a huge grin. Then he gunned it and sped onward. And so did I.
Jackie 7's story is very funny. That can be a big issue, the bathroom one, not the bikers. Well, maybe the bikers too. Simply, wherever you decide to tinkle that you remember which room to use. Once, in a restaurant years ago, I walked all the way into the men's room before I realized that I was not dressed for the ocassion there. Luckily that was the first and last time I made that mistake. I may be Polish but I'm no dumb blond. About the driving thing. Don't speed and avoid and accident. AND make sure your good at driving in heels or bring flats for the drive and chnage your shoes when you get wherever you're going.
this is something i tought of too haha but my tought has tinted windows in it or driving at night
I have mastered driving my stickshift just as good with my heels as with flats. I learned quickly as, I don,t like being dressed without my heels.Quote:
Originally Posted by dawn03