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Hi, I am considering meeting this guy on CL whom I have talked for sometime, haven't met though. I am thinking about meeting him as a guy first before inviting him to my place.
Wondering if someone else have dated someone on Craigslist. How was the experience. Did it last for one night or you dated that person?
Always thought it was a bad idea myself.
I'll bite. I did, once. I met this couple. They were unusually literate for CL "shoppers." We had drinks, convo, and then migrated elsewhere. It was a fantastic evening.
I was expecting re-engagement, based on how things went. In fact, the lady of the couple claimed that I had forced her to "re-up her effort in the beauty department." I was flattered, and eventually she and I went shopping together for an afternoon. Nothing salacious. I was lead to believe that he had been okay with our trip, but near the end of the evening, she mentioned something about him being in a bad mood. After we went our separate ways, there wasn't much more contact. He must have perceived me as a threat. Sad, because I'm respectful enough to only be considered a serious threat to encourage her to buy a lot of shoes. Oh, well. It was great for a second.
The moral of this is that there are perfectly non-psychopathic people on CL. What percent they are? Hard to say. Caution is always a good idea. And let someone you trust know where you are going. Be smart, go with your gut, and I'd tend to think that chances are you'll be just fine.
Good luck!
Let me be one of the first to warn you to be carefull...that is a shady seedy place. Be for I go and tell you how bad of an idea this is I will say I HAVE met people from craigslist in the past (way past). Inviting a stranger to your house will open the door for future stalking...( jusssayin) You SHOULD meet in a public place first take and take your sweet a$$ time...just be smart REAL SMART...I used to tell a potential guy or cd friend that me and my other cd friends were all hanging out at a friends house and he was welcome to hang out with us ALL. ( This was a lie....to see if he had the balls to show up in a room full of cd's) and when he showed up he realized I was a smart gal protecting myself. Just be carefull...that is sooo not that way to go in 2014. I met 1 cd friend from there but she is a space cadet....and well....i wont kiss and tell on the rest...be smart
As has been mentioned, PLEASE be CAREFUL, CAREFUL, CAREFUL! I recommend a public place to meet, first. And maybe another couple of times, too. I'd chose a bar, or the like. Have a drink, but not too much, and judge for yourself. If you choose to meet them in private after that, I'd also let someone know about your plans. While this seems like a private encounter, you should share all the information you have about the suitor to a trusted friend who knows the details of any private meetings just in case. Morbid? Perhaps. Your safety is paramount, though.
I had a cd friend who did this......Quote:
Originally Posted by TessInJxn
My girlfriend does this a lot. She is more than capable of defending herself. Don't expect repeats or often even a real date. One night stands? Yes. Romance - probably not.
There are a LOT of chasers on CL.
If you've had a literate email exchange with the guy, and he hasn't sent you a pic of his junk, in the world of CL he's way above average.
Yes, meet him man to man first.
At a shoe store,
if he is a gentleman, he will buy you a pair of heels.
You can wear them on your first date........ or you can just score a pair of heels
I would meet at a neutral place like at a coffee shop. Then only after you have a read and feel confident
about the person you invite them over to your house. Today, caution is the word to remember.
Rader
It all depends with how you roll. If you are street smart and can take care of yourself, like Paula Q's friend and other CDs, than it is a fine resource for dates. If you have any hesitation or concerns about it, it probably isn't your cup o' tea.
No matter where you end up dating, safety first!
I don't trust anyone on the the internet, another reason I don't give away my location.
I have heard too many horror stories about meeting people from Craigslist, so I would never do such a thing and would advice everyone the same advice.
Yes I have, and I've met some cool guys that way, but you have to be sooooo careful: as some of the other girls have already pointed out, always make the first date for a public place like a Starbucks or public tennis court (I've posted pictures of myself in my tennis dress and dared guys to play with me) and make them send you a picture of themselves above the waist before you consider a meetup. Only then exchange email addresses and cell phone numbers, and it's a good idea to get to know a guy that way before you agree to go out with him. Even with those rules, expect to be bombarded by sickos. You have to be ruthless in separating the wheat from the chaff.
Yes, be careful!
Define "DATE"..lol Whatever you are looking for,don't do it at home!!!!
Honestly I wouldn't waste my time. It's a seedy creep fest on there. If you are going to meet him DO NOT BRING HIM HOME! Not until you know him well at least. Think like a woman would when meeting a guy for the first time. She's going to be very cautious. You should be too. How long you have been talking to him has no bearing. Creeps will do whatever they can for as long as they can to get what they want. BE CAREFUL!
I've done it before but you have to be very very very careful....dependig on what you are lookinng for you can have a good time but honestly is not worth the risk, there are much better options
Oh Lord why would you even consider CL?
Recipe for disaster I would think, just join a trans group and forget about being so hard up to use CL.
Never in a million years!
I also want to add that CL encounters vary geographically[?] In that someone rural with a CL for that hub town and it's surroundings can be quite different from a big city..In most cases,your CL date just wants to "get off"..if not with you,than with the crack ***** on the corner if she is cheap enough..And perhaps you don't "want what she has"... Not saying there aren't a few good people that post,but like Tracy and Barbara said,not the best way to go about it..
This is actually an over-generalized snap judgement. There are actually lots of nice and respectful people who whose CL, because they may not know of other resources such as trans groups. The key is being able to discern the different types of folks on the siteQuote:
Originally Posted by Tracii G
Funny story: My cousin who's really close, more like a brother and knows nothing of the real me, was chatting up this girl on CL, and even exchanged pics with her, phone calls the whole nine yards. He drives a truck and decided to meet her while out on a run to Cali. turns out she's a Tgirl and he didn't know it till he met her lol. Btw he's an ultra conservative southern boy, and was NOT amused.
Even with phone calls you don't know what you're gonna get outta the CL lottery till you meet them. Also be careful of not just the whole creepy meat market scene, as much as being set up for a bashing. It happens.
If you're looking to just "hook up" it's safer to socialize with the lgbt scene in a local club, or bar, imho.
Good luck and stay safe.
The way you are going about it appears to be a sound way of meeting.
Get to know the person without giving too much away.
There are some here with positive replies about what you want to do so I advise some caution any way.
For selling stuff, I've had mixed results. Initially (about 7 years back) I'd get a lot of normal folks. I sold a bunch of furniture to a group of flight attendants who had been living on inflatable furniture for a year. That being said, of late I find too many creeps on there. Just recently I emailed someone about a dress for sale and got back the reply "Are you a pillow princess," which after an urban dictionary search I realized what this guy really wanted! (and, I didn't bother replying after that) I would say: be very, very careful.
Never met someone IRL. Every creep I've ever responded to sent me a picture of his schlong. (or his schlort, in some cases) That was the end of that.
Not to paint everyone with the same brush, good luck, be careful, and sometimes you have to kiss more than one frog.
You should always be careful whether it's CL or the LA times, or EBAY. The horror stories that you hear about are the exception, not the rule. (that's a quote from a movie) But it applies to a lot of things. Like flying, or elevators. The percentage of things going wrong vs the times we have problems is minute in comparison. Just be prepared just i case.
I've met a few people through CL. Yes, there are creeps out there, but they're everywhere. I agree, caution is the key. If it doesn't feel "right", don't proceed. But I've had good experiences (knock on wood).
Over a number of years, i have had ads on CL. I have only met three guys in all that time. Most will not send an above the waist photo, and i email with quite a few. But, when it is obvious they want sex and lots of it, i back out. I tell them what i will, and will not do, and that usually turns them away. I met one of the guys two times, and it went well, but he decided not to see me again. I likely would not do as much as expected. Quite a few asked if i would host. NO NO NO!!!!
I wouldn't get on Craiglist looking for a date. I've heard too many bad stories. Even people buying or selling things have been robbed or killed. There have to be better ways to meet people.
Hi Leona, BE CAREFUL what you wish for.
Sorry girl but I would never recommend meet-ups arranged by any of the online services. Way to problematic, way too much history of really bad outcomes. Yes some get lucky and find a winner. Some are not so fortunate and put life and limb at risk.
I much prefer Trans group meetings where the venue is very public and the people there known quantities.
Please be very careful.
Hugs, Robin :bunny:
This is perfect advice for the procedure to employ with a CL users. I have posted my own personal on CL a couple of times, and each time have gotten an incredible number of responses. The full length clothed body shot and closeup face picture requirement probably eliminated 75-80%. I'd guess that 75% of the remainder were afraid to be seen in public with a crossdresser, so that when I actually got around to meeting face to face in real time, there were maybe 3 or 4 people out of a hundred responses. From that point on, it's no different than meeting at a bar or the local LGBT alliance social. Regarding Windycissy's comment about daring them to play tennis: I have found that as a physically fit, fiftyish Trans Girl, most of the guys who are in my age group have more reason to be scared of me than vice versa. Maybe expanding the screening process to include a requirement that the responders be in good enough shape to play tennis would be a good idea.Quote:
Originally Posted by windycissy
Well for me I have tried to meet Another CD on CL As I am not much into bars ( Sorry it is just me ) and local LGBT have not got a clue about any So I tried CL
have e mailed a lot more about helping other CD being a better CD Like how to dress and always meet in a safe place ect ect
the Only person I did meet was a bitter /sweet experience for me I gave a wig dress and heels to help but I guess I was to conservative or boaring if I may
have not talked since
I would like to take a CD shopping or sit down dinner I am to tall to pass but if I could help another CD pass as well as feel safe while she is out I would be happy for Her as well
Shopping Anyone ?
after all I do have a weakness for a nice dress or sweater and skirt to the knees with classic high heel pumps
Never met anyone, just seems too unsafe. I'm sure there's better ways of doing things, and avoiding the inevitable chasers that are out there.
I have bought and sold many things on CL over the years with no problems. Would I try to find a date there? No.
I've only bought or sold stuff on CL. The people i had met were real nice but sometimes not very reliable
I've never meet anyone from the personals on Craigslist. However I've had success with buying and selling. I even bought a car off there a few years ago.
Now, as far as online dating in general, keep your wits about you. If it sounds too good to be true it probably is. I don't like to use absolute statements but they can be necessary. NEVER give out personal information. If you need a phone number set up a free Google phone number. NEVER meet at a house or motel. ALWAYS meet in the open in public.
Online meetings can work and be fun and even rewarding. I was looking to make friends when I met a young woman online. The friendship worked out so well we're now married :)
Best. Idea. Ever.Quote:
Originally Posted by dana digs sweaters
More heels!
Steph
Personally I would struggle meeting anyone from Craigs list on this level. BE CAREFUL.
So true....any girl from this forum who I see post regulary...I wouldnt think twice about hanging out with...you are all ok in my book.It takes courage just to be here .Quote:
Originally Posted by lovetobedani
xoxo
CL can be dangerous enough just selling things, let alone meeting up with people for more personal reasons. That being said, I've posted twice on there just to gauge the response. It's like disturbing a hornet's nest. The inbox gets full real fast, but it's all just guy's looking for a quickie. I've never met up with any of them.