Is it wrong to be turned on when dressed.

Well, I am sure some of you girls have felt the same. I dress a couple of times a week sometimes more and it always makes me feel really sensual.

I usually have a moment of doubt before, thinking, "I'm tired, do i really want to go through all that effort", but then I say to myself,' come on this is what you are, do it' and then i paint my nails and that's it I'm hooked and here we go. I always love the whole dressing up moments. The shaving my body, putting on my lingerie, especially if it is new. But when it comes to make up, there is something about that whole thing and when i put my lipstick on at the end I get a twinge.

There is just something about doing the whole thing that makes me feel sexy. I know that I have to do it and it isn't just a sexual gratification thing because I often dress just to be dressed and when I do, I usually sleep with my stockings and panties and a teddy. I love waking up and feeling those wonderful items next to my body.

I have often thought that I should ware my lingerie under my cloths when i go to work but haven't yet. I know that there are many people who do and one day i will but there is something that always stops me. Who knows, the thought of being in a car accident or something and then being found out, which is silly really because one part of me wants everyone to know that I cross dress and the other thinks that It would be detrimental to my custody arrangements with my daughter.

Anyway, I still feel very excited when I am dressed, which isn't a crime and I am sure that there are many others who feel the same.:battingeyelashes::o:brolleyes:

Lucy Lou xxx

Wrong? No

But Verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry silly. Humans don't have the capacity to control what turns them on.

Or OFF. [In the case of GGs] Worrying or obsessing over something we have no control over simply does not make sense.

The Reality is... Love does not conquer all despite many here who insist it should.

Lastly, the majority here obviously put the O phase behind them with the passing years.

But some don't.

Lucy Lou wrote: "Is it wrong to be turned on when dressed?"

For myself, I see the first part of the question... "Is it wrong to be turned on..." my quick answer is No. I acknowledged that I'm a sexual being and arousal is part of being me and I like who I am. So naturally if I add the next section of the question... "... when dressed?" my answer is still No. Why should what I wear make a difference? They're just clothes, male or female.

Now I will tell you I don't feel that flush as much now that I dress full time. These are the clothes I wear everyday and so it seems normal to me like I used to feel waring male clothes, if that makes sense.

Before I went full time I under dressed everyday, wore female under clothes. It did acclimate me to not being aroused as much.

it is funny that you made the comment about drumming or drummer because that is what I am, A drummer, and a good one at that. Lucy Lou.xx {:

Hi Lucy, How can it be so wrong if it feels so good.

Good point. it does feel good so 'what the hell.' Thanks. lucy xx

Is it wrong to be turned on when dressed?

No, it happens to me every time.

I think western society in general has made crossdressing a bit of a taboo. But this is the same societal norm that has vilified homosexuality as well. and we see how those norms are being turned upside down now.

I think if you enjoy doing it, aren't harming yourself or your loved ones then why not dress? and hey if you can be turned on by it too so much the better.

Not at all!

In fact, if dressing guaranteed getting turned on a lot of macho men would be getting pretty and their wives would be cheering them on!

It's save a lot of those $10 little blue pills! :)

Sadly or luckily, that tendency tends to wane with age. Dressing is decidedly non-sexual for me.

Lucy, I'm 70. Which means some of my friends r about that age, too. All of us agree, when u get older? ANY sex is good sex!

I've been getting excited looking at Sherry in my mirror and pictures for 16 years. It doesn't happen all the time anymore. And, I wonder if I'll still want to dress if the time comes when she never turns me on?

When I first started dressing i got turned on all the time. Now that I am older, it only happens occasionally. If it's not hurting anyone enjoy it.

I am choosing not to dressed unless i am really in the mood, i don't want to lose the thrill. I get turned on when i plan to dress and as i am dressing, but when i am dressed it tends to make me feel relaxed and sensual and less likely to go finish myself off.

I have worn delicates under my man clothes but now, because it IS actually a sexual activity for me, i don't do it at work and when i am being Dad, simply because it isn't appropriate. I don't want to turn myself on sexually around people that are not similarly motivated/inclined/predisposed/consenting.

I don't want to overcompensate for a long history of self-repression by taking yet more energy from other important aspects of my life. So i won't be playing chess with my friend tonight en femme, even though he would probably be cool with it, because me being turned on would distort my ability to relate to him as a friend as he deserves.

One day i will meet a Xdressing chess player, i would even stoop to backgammon,cards or checkers.

Tanya, I am a cross dressing chess player, also backgammon and scrabble. I'd try to thump you no matter what either player was wearing. I play lots of games with my grandchildren, but I am not out to them so I'd only be underdressed...

To the OP's point, yes, even after all these years I can get turned on by dressing... If I want to, and I decide to slow down and really get into it. Especially when I am putting on the same kind of stuff that triggered me more than 50 years ago - stockings, corset or girdle, bra and slip. These days my wardrobe is a lot bigger than that, and most of the time I am just getting dressed without putting attention on my turn-on, but it is always there and accessible.

right, wrong...hmmm.
I dropped my motorcycle on I 405 and my wife was concerned that someone might notice that i was wearing panties...went through a series of medical tests where my choice of clothing was pretty obvious and no one really cared.
Trisha

After all these years I still feel turned on by crossdressing. The day it dose nothing for me is the day I quit, just that simple. But then I am a crossdresser and don't have any problem with that and understood it very early in the game.

turned on? oh, i have no problem being turned on dressing or after being dressed. i am turned on, but it's a funny way: i'm not sexually looking for a partner, but i feel very sexual--flirty and alive. i have outward signs of being turned on--the pokies in my bra and thankfully the tuck and tape keep the other in check. i smile, i flirt, i giggle, and i have a good time and all the time i'm very turned on and feel it--it's intoxicating, and i love it!
hugs,
lesli

I always have the light turned on when I am dressed because it is difficult to admire my overall beauty when in the dark. :)

If I had to make a list of what Cding does for me the turn on would be no1. I might just take some time now to complete my list I think by the time I've finished I won't want to wear drab at all !

For me it's taking the first steps in a pair of heels and stockings
When all dressed . I could walk for hours when done up . Love it

I have noticed recently that dressing has been turning me on " again"....nothing too crazy...but enough to make me notice I am a little bit excited.

Yes, I am turned on every once in a while myself. It just kind of adds to the fun in my dressing!!

I'm kind of getting turned on just reading this thread. There's something about the feeling of fem clothing and the look in the mirror that evokes this feeling. Wrong or right is a matter of opinion.

Dressing up used to turn me on a lot. Now that I do it more often, it just feels much more natural.

I feel sensual, sexy and very relaxed when dressed up.

If I buy new heels or new panties, usually, the first time I try them on, it turns me on but the effect quickly fades away.
That tells me that dressing up is not primarily a sexual activity for me but rather part of who I really am :)

xoxo
Kellie

Is it wrong? No :)

Do I feel the same? Sometimes... not always

Do other things turn me on? Often - and I don't have to be dressed for this to happen... :)

Is that all just a human reaction? You betcha! Only a crime if you flaunt your... excitement.. somewhere public, where you would justifiably be arrested...

Katey x

I don't think I have ever dressed without being aroused, especially by certain items, such as high heels, satin dresses, and lipstick. So maybe fetish dressing (which I suppose equals that which arouses us) is sort of a subset of crossdressing. I usually wear wigs when dressing, but they do not arouse me. Nor do pantyhose. It's all very confusing, but it's also harmless. Of course there is nothing wrong with it. We can all be turned on by different things. If it doesn't hurt anyone, just enjoy it.

A person's sexuality should never be a problem as long as it doesn't negatively impact others. If getting turned on while dressed was an issue, what would a person do who dresses most of the time? Never get turned on? For some it is because they are dressed. For some it is the process that actually turns them on. And for others, they just get turned on and happen to be dressed. I would say, don't over analyze it and enjoy it while it happens. As some say, it can wane as you age.

Hi Lucy Lou,

Absolutely not wrong to be turned on by dressing......well, only if it makes your skirt stick out when out in public. :devil:

The feel of satin/silk is where I started, so I completely understand your fetish side of this and each will have their own interest, be it the makeup, lingerie, stockings, etc.

Rebecca

Is it wrong to get aroused from cross-dressing? No.
Is getting aroused from cross-dressing a problem? It can become a problem, yes.
For instance, many cross-dressers cannot achieve orgasm without cross-dressing or at least fantasizing about cross-dressing. This is a major complaint from wives of cross-dressers. They feel as if they are not attractive to their husbands, or that their husbands are using cross-dressing to have sex with themselves. They feel as if they are reduced to their husband's second love, and they may consider cross-dressing as cheating. For more information on this topic please check out the following forum: http://www.crossdresserswives.com/revision/forum1.html

What a good thread. I always get turning on when I dress. It's usually when I first start, slip on a pair of panties and bra and knowing how much I love the transformation and the desire to be fem and wanted by a man. Dressing does take some time if fully dressing with makeup taking up a bit of time, It's about this time I start to calm down a bit as makeup takes some concentration also, but when I'm done I then start getting aroused again when I finally slip on my hose or thigh highs, a dress or skirt and finally some heels. If I go back to the first time I slipped on a bra and panty I was 10 years old and believe me I did get quite excited at that time but that's a different story. I've grown since those days but I always get somewhat excited when dressing and like someone said when I buy new lingerie I get really excited even before the silk hits the skin. I know many here are straight which is fine, but I'm not and when I dress I always think of dressing for a man who likes me fem and if that doesn't turn on a bisexual cd then nothing will. Love the excitement dressing brings on.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Personally I get "excited" most of the time when I dress.

Does it turn me on? Yes! I have noticed that when I do it more frequently It can become more naturally, like I get use to it but at the same time I can become tired of it as well when I do it more frequently. So for me its more for sexual gratification... and it allows me to wear my number one item, which are heels!!! I get bored just wearing them around the house I need to dance, shoe dipping/play and walk long distance in them :-)

''If it make you happy'' nothing wrong wit it...actually it is more fun

Thanks to every one for your comments. I do get turned on when dressing but not all the time. I some times get a twinge when I pass a lingerie shop or see things online that I like. And as many of you say, it is not hurting anybody and I enjoy it so that is all the better. It is the feel and the look, so that is good really. Lucy xx

I agree with Adriana. After a self imposed respite from underdressing, I am back wearing my pantyhose, slip , bra & heels feeling very peaceful . There is nothing that feels as delicious as slipping into pantyhose. I will enjoy my peace, Mel

I think we all get turned on a little . I think it's the being turned on that got most of us started x

Hell-o Lucy,
Different "strokes" for different folks I guess. I don't know how long you've been CD'ing, or what your social situation is. Your certainly not hurting anyone, and enjoying yourself, whats wrong with that?
For me, the being turned on when dressed happened when I was much younger. Whether it's an age thing, or just being more familiar, and comfortable with my CD'ing I'm not sure, but those feelings don't occur anymore. Maybe my lipstick isn't bright enough.
Just enjoy your life!
Much Love,
Kristyn

It's what started me dressing up and what, after all this time later, continues to drive the irresistible urge to out to buy more lingerie, hosiery, heels, clothes and makeup.

I love to look at the dummies in lingerie shops. It excites me to imagine wearing all those. I sometimes walk specially down to market to look at that and it gets me hot.

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Not at all!

In fact, if dressing guaranteed getting turned on a lot of macho men would be getting pretty and their wives would be cheering them on!

It's save a lot of those $10 little blue pills! :)

Sadly or luckily, that tendency tends to wane with age. Dressing is decidedly non-sexual for me.

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Sadly the little blue pills are about 35 per now :(

I'm no expert, but the opposite. But I don't think someone that makes you feel good, and harms no one, can ever be wrong.

I don't believe it is wrong to be excited when dressing. It was got most if not all of us started. Now that I dress 24/7 I am not always excited but I enjoy being able to dress as I like each day

As I don't make any attempt to be passable as a woman, (I have facial hair and only dress for fun at home), my CDing is specifically geared toward arousal for me. Getting all dressed up for me is getting ready for some personal playtime, or playtime with my girlfriend.

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Originally Posted by adrienner99

I don't think I have ever dressed without being aroused, especially by certain items, such as high heels, satin dresses, and lipstick. So maybe fetish dressing (which I suppose equals that which arouses us) is sort of a subset of crossdressing. I usually wear wigs when dressing, but they do not arouse me. Nor do pantyhose.

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I agree entirely. Certain things [even alone] can arouse me, which pretty much identifies my particular fetishes. High heels, deep red lipstick, big eyelashes, painted nails. But not pantyhose nor many other items. In my early CDing years, when private time and place were limited and full dressing was not possible, these certain items would be sufficient. Combining them added to the excitement. When I had the opportunity to dress completely, I put it all together, including the things that don't by themselves excite me but are necessary to complete the total transformation, like pantyhose, jewelery, etc., and doing that maximixed the pleasure.

My answer to the question is: no, it's not wrong to be turned on.

I see "turned on" two ways. First, the knowledge that I am turned on by wearing certain things makes me want to wear them. Bottom line: it feels good, so do it.
Second, I am excited when I am in the process of transforming as well as when I am transformed.
So do I dress to get excited, or do I get excited because I am otherwise driven to dress?
Both, I think. Either way, it's OK to get turned on.

Dressing gets me very excited, there is nothing wrong with being yourself and enjoying it!! It's not hurting anyone so no need to feel bad about it.

Ditto to Nicole Scott's reply, very well said and I can see me in her words. She and I love the same type makeup and feel that arousal when dressed. Just seeing myself in the mirror and feeling those feelings coming from within is very natural.
I do sometimes just enjoy the panty hose underneath but when the whole package comes together it is an amazing turnon

I find I get most excited when I have not dressed in a while. When I am able to dress several times a week the rise I get is minimal, but the enjoyment is immense.

one of the reason i dress is for the turn on and excitement

I don't think it's wrong being turned on while dressing. I think everyone at some point was turned on by dressing and it fades with some and stays with others. The only time I get turned on while dressing, which I do 100% of the time at home but not in public, is if I'm putting on something sexy for my guy. I'm not really sure if it's the dressing that's turning me on or the idea that i'm about to have sex.