Could you handle living as the oppisite gender full time?
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Could you handle living as the oppisite gender full time?
yes i would love it, i love when i feel and look like a women, i would love to dress 24/7 for the rest of my life . ifeel more like myself talking a and being withother girls hugs lynda
I have been living as a woman 24/7 for over 10 years now and I love it. :)
I'm not sure but I would love to Try it some day most I've gone was from Friday afternoon to Sunday night.
In short, no.
But more than that, sure I could handle it, but that is not me. In trying to do so that would be like trying to live as a man and conforming to that genders culturally defined norms. It is not me to do that and it would not be me to do the same thing as a woman. I see my gender preferences as existing somewhere in the middle. Interesting enough, for a long portion of my life, I couldn't mentally handle doing that either.
I've been in the world for the last two years, and there is no going back. I am the girl I was born to be, and will let the world know every day.
Bobbi
No doubt that I most definitely could. In an instant! Not only could I, but I would prefer to. I don't think I would have said that a year ago, but that was then.
I would have to say no. There is just so much more to my world than my time as the opposite sex. If things were dfferent if my life had gone a different direction than it did and my circumstances today were different I might have tried doing that. There is just to much man in me to be Sarah full time.
Today, I can and do. I've been living full time as female for about 18 months now, and have been quite happy doing so.
For 3 years before that, I lived 120 hours/week as female - work and church were spent in "boy mode" and barely even then.
When I was 20, such a thing would have been almost unimaginable. Back in 1976, transgender males were not treated kindly at all.
Even going to an women's college as one of 25 males, I feared discovery and it's consequences. I worked on stage crew and had to deal with carpenters and welders (doing carpentry and welding myself). It paid tuition and I couldn't afford to lose the job.
I was attacked 2-4 times a day in elementary school, twice a day in Jr high, and was assumed to be gay in high school. Even though I wanted more than anything in the world to be able to be a girl, to be able to go to school as a girl, to be able to play with my girl friends at school, to not have to pretend to be a boy, I couldn't even talk about it with my parents. They knew, but what they didn't tell me was that the "cure" for someone like me, back in the 1960s, was shock, torture, and lobotomy. I didn't find out about it until days before my father died, after he told me "Be yourself, even if that means being Debbie".
I would say yes as I have since last January.
Handle it...yes. But I have to qualify that. I have no reservations about living day to day as a woman. I've done it for weeks at a time. But there are parts of my life where I'm less sure about being accepted....that would include my wife, who has really grown less accepting, along with some extended family members and business associates.
What does that mean exactly?
Just wearing the clothes and heels? Having to wear make-up? Having to deal with the unequal pay?
If I look at my GG friends.. most of them don't wear the stereotypical feminine clothing or heels. Only a few wear make-up.
So, I don't really know how to interpret this question... :confused:
I would say no, more or less for reasons like Sarah summarized.
Assuming I was born as the opposite gender; sure why not? 50% of the world's population seems to be able to manage it.
If I had a female body I could live full time as a female. 50% of the population does it every day. Getting up every day and trying to disguise my male body as female? Probably not. Too much work and not 100% effective.
In a perfect world, without any and all of the judgmental , stereotyping, categorizing, prejudice, biased, etc involved? I could and would do it just to have the experience of doing so. Trouble is? Life is what happens when you make other plans! The Titanic PLANNED to sail from Great Britain to New York, but didn't quite make it.
There are progressive parts of the country where one could do so? But they are the exception and not the norm ~ and even in those areas there's your 10% of azzhats, that believe its their God given right to set others "RIGHT" to their way of thinking and seeing things, all the while they themselves are the less mentally, emotionally, psychologically , and spiritually un-evolved persons stuck in strict binary logic and perception.
its not for me
Simply, no. In a way Tiffany is an expression of part of who I am and doesn't represent the whole being. She reminds me that I have deep intimate feelings that I keep and that others around me could have the same and should be treated as such. Dressing is a time to reenergize the soul as it is time out of my everyday life to let go of the things that have weighed on me.
Although it is therapeutic, it has taken a lot of soul searching to realize it is an outlet more than a direction.
Hi Candice,
I would have to say "no". As I explore this portion of me further both personally and through therapy (or counselling if some prefer that time better), I realized that I do suffer from some minor GD in that one my identities is definitely female and she needs to express herself openly for me to feel complete. However she can never go full time as my male identities (e.g., husband, brother, soldier) are also very strong and would feel out of sorts causing chaos (my mind gets very busy and no not in a psychotic sort of way, just confusion). So I would have to return to being boy to establish harmony once again.
I know, seems weird but then again we are all different. :battingeyelashes:
Hugs
Isha
Could you handle living as the opposite gender full time?
Geez, this question is deviously simple and complex at the same time. So, this would mean that in my life right now, from this point on, I present as and, expect everyone to view me as, female? At this point of my life, I am positive that I can handle things way more severe and challenging than this. I can sure think of other things that could happen that I could handle that make the thought of living as the opposite gender a walk in the park. Do I want to? I really don't know. Say an unfortunate, one-in-a-million reaction to a medication set off an irreversible hormonal change that made me female and necessitated an eventual total surgical completion to stay alive. I would certainly be more emotionally prepared than the average cis male. I would probably just dress androgynously most of the time like most GG's do anyway.
So, to answer the OP question.
Yes! Yes I could.
No, I don't think so - I really enjoy being Jean for a few days when the opportunity presents, which I do wish was more often, but I also enjoy my male side and there are a lot of parts of it that would not be compatible with my female persona.
If my dressing wasn't restricted, I'd be sort of stuck with the best of both worlds :)
If it was just me, I think so, at least I would give it a shot. But hard to tell until you try it. In current circumstances, probably not as I would loose my SO. But this may be the fork in the road I am at anyway....
Nope. Not full time. I enjoy taking off the wig and the bra too much. Also, I am a full time man and part time woman. Full time would ruin it!
In a word, no...my masculine instincts / feelings are very strong...just as I felt out of balance (but didn't understand why) with my femme side suppressed, I think I'd go crazy with my masculine similarly suppressed. Like many others being able to express myself en femme is a huge relief...and above all, fun! Being a girl 24/7 would be too much.
That would not be a problem Candice. :)
Dana has pretty much summed up many of my thoughts. Today I'm retired and live almost 24/7 except when I have to be out in public or with family or friends which is a very small percentage of my life. Living the way I do is second nature and taken for granted by me and and my wife. There would be many "IFS" for me to fully transition. IF I had the money, easily blend into society and without any repercussions of any sort, I'd say yes. It's not the clothes or what's between my legs, it's me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dana3
Cheryl
A weekend might be a laugh, but full time?
Psssh, f**k that with a pointy one.
I could not cope with the beauty regime daily, I'd have no time for anything else LOL
Seriously though, no. It would not be fun any more.
Not a chance. I'm a dude. I like being a dude. Sometimes, I'm a dude in a dress but that is nothing like living as a woman. I couldn't take the pay cut either.
Sometimes I wonder whether I am attracted to CD because I do not have enough opportunities to do it. I suspect given the chance to do it as much as I want, anyway I want, the thrill may simply disappear. I don't know, but that is what I feel.
If the girl I see in the mirror matched the girl you see when looking at me then maybe. But my frame and size do not allow it. I can never look like a genetic girl not even close. You know that whole lipstick on a pig thing, it applies. Vicky is an escape from reality, she always has been. I have been dressing in one way or another since age 9. My male side is definitely the dominant factor in my life. Accepting Vicky has been the most calming thing I have ever done though. She has put the bubble in the middle
I would love to be able to be Tina full time.....for 3 or 4 days. Then male for 3 or 4 days. Then Tina....etc. That would give me complete immersion in both genders for a period of time and yet still give me the satisfaction I gain from life in each gender. It would be even better if my two gendered selves could live in two different cities, just far enough apart to really separate my two selves.
I could do it, but I don't really need or want to. I am pretty much the same person regardless of how I dress. I could go to Wal Mart dressed and I have, or do errands but I'm a little lazy at times at its just as easy to throw on a pair of shorts and a tee shirt.
My guy side has a pretty cool life. I love it. My girl side shares in that life.
I think some of you have got being able to handle and wanting to mixed up
The OP askedNot do you want to live full time.Quote:
Could you handle living as the oppisite gender full time?
No I don't think I would. Cross dressing would loss its thrill which is why I like it. I have spent 3 to 4 days fulltime and at the end I was tried of it I wanted to get back to being me, which is interesting since that is what we usually say when we are dressed. Although I do understand why some do want to transition and maybe if I was younger I would go that way.
I suppose I could attempt it, but I would have a very difficult time doing so. I love having a foot in both worlds. Too many important things in my man's world.
Me personally I couldn't. I like the thrill or the build up and planning as much as anything. Because I don't get to do it a whole lot it seems to make it that much more exciting when I do get to dress. A couple three days is enough for me
If was born female? No problem... Otherwise...Probably not.
Nope - no way. Maybe for a weekend, after a professional makeover. But I am truly a dude at heart - a big ol' tall fat dude who likes sports, cigars, being sloppy and occasionally feeling pretty ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Candice Mae
Could you handle living as the opposite gender full time? This sounds like a simple question, but like most things in life it can be more complex than it initially seems. For some one who is a cross dresser (I'm assuming that this was directed mainly to cross dressers however I'll still answer it) it probably is fairly simple, however for some one like me even understanding this "simple" question is more complex than it appears.
If like me you were born genetically one thing (physical) but perceive yourself as the opposite gender (mental) this question is far more complex. Is the question can you live the opposite of your genetic make up, or is it the opposite of your self perception?
If the question is could you live opposite of your physical self full time my answer is yes, I feel that I could. If the question is could you live opposite of your mental self full time, then even though I've done it for a large portion of my life I would have to say no, which is why I've started the process of correcting the mismatch between the physical and the mental.
I guess the simple answer, which I made more complex, is that my answer would be yes and no.
If I had to for some reason I think I could. It's not something I would choose of my own free will.
Love it! Me too...though for me it's whiskey and cigars lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Julie Denier
At the moment dealing with my CDing is getting harder when it should be getting easier !
If I could take the two routes to get to a happier place one would be a non CDer, or the other was to live full time I'd take it !
It's not a question of wanting to be male or female it's what would bring me more happiness ! Lets face it many of us aren't handsome hulks or raving beauties, presenting male or female we will fit into life somewhere !
Interesting question. I think I could if I were 100% female. Having two close GG friends I know life as a female is not all satin and lace and there is a lot more to it. Still I think I could d it. As Krisi said 50% of the population does it. Besides if I were a genetic female what other life would I know?
no, could i do it? maybe, could i handle it? probably not. Marsha is a part time escape and fantasy person that has become a part of me. i like her, but she is not ready for the world. and neither am I!
Not sure if I would want to. I'm not so sure that I would want to give up some of the things and people that I have.
If I was young in today's time with the resources that are available and no responsibilities and relationships, I might a completely different answer.
Candice,
COULD I handle it?? Of course I COULD if I had too. I think I could even enjoy it. What's the alternative?
Would I choose living cross dressed 24/7 over my life now? No way.
But If had no other choice, I could do it & would make adjustments accordingly.
Hugs, Connie Marie
Could i handle it? Maybe, maybe not. Being lifetime single, and 60, I would have a tough time handling all the getting hit on by men..or women. I doubt if i could handle doing all my dirty, hard, greasy, agonizing car repairs, and bicycle repairs, and other fixing things, in a dress and wig. And, getting made fun of, or yelled at, and branded a pervert. I would say i lean toward "No." But, if I had to, I would sure try to handle it, and enjoy some of it.
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Originally Posted by Candice Mae
Thanks! I take bourbon :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Renee Elise
Wow tough question, Could I handle it? Yes if I had to, that being said would I like to no. There are things about both my male and female sides I love and need. If I was female all the time I think I would crossdress as a male sometime.
People who know me as Susan know I love long pretty nails and if it was okay for a man to have long pretty nails I would be at the nail salon this afternoon getting acrylic nails in a red or hot pink color. That being said I also spent several days cleaning my gutters and roof and getting my house ready for the winter. The last thing on my mind while I was doing this was Susan or dressing and I would have destroyed my nails. These are the things I do as my male self.
I really do need both sides in my life. Now one of my friends asked me if I won the lottery how would I change. So here is my answer if money was not an issue in my life. I would get laser and electrolysis, I would get my ears pierced (still may do that now), get my eyebrows done and maybe grow my hair and of course acrylic nails, and I would spend more time as Susan. Instead of a day or 2 a week I might be Susan for a few weeks at a time before going back to my male self.
The key is to find out what makes you happy, what you want your life to be. I am lucky as it only took me 40 years to figure it out.
Could I handle it? Yes, I believe I could. Especially if I were genetically female. Would I want to? Not with the physical body I actually have (with hair loss and all), because it's too much work to do everyday, 24/7, to look the way I would want to look.