I sometimes get called "miss" when dressed as male,probably because I have long hair and long nails.Anybody else have this experience? (By the way I take it as a compliment!)
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I sometimes get called "miss" when dressed as male,probably because I have long hair and long nails.Anybody else have this experience? (By the way I take it as a compliment!)
I occasionally get this because of my long hair. I just giggle to myself when that happens.
when im clean shaven i do,thats why i disguise myself by wearing a mustache
Been on hrt for about two years now and have hair past my shoulders that I wear in a pony tail when I have to dress male. I get can I help you ma'am all the time!
I get it more often than I used to, but I have long hair, earrings, and tend to dress a bit androgynously. It doesn't bother me in the least!
People process their best guess at your gender early in the encounter and it takes quite a bit of contradictory information to make them change their subconscious minds. With me they see hair and purse and that says "female" to them.
I have been called "miss" a time or two. I was clean shaven, wearing earrings, women's eyeglasses and women's shorts. I can see why I was "miss"-taken. I loved it.
Since I have both ears pierced and wear some pretty diamond studs in each, I get some side ward glances at times when I'm out in drab. But this happens mostly when I'm freshly shaved, as I have a somewhat feminine look to my face when I do. Then, sometimes I let my beard grow out quite a bit (I actually find I get a really smooth shave when I do - great for those nights when I dress) and I see people looking at me occasionally with a rather puzzled look. Is he gay? A crossdresser? A whatever? (LOL).
Anyway, I've decided to let my natural hair grow out, so I'm sure the looks will get more prominent in the future. Especially when I paint my toenails and wear sandals.
yes, i have very long hair, long nails and pierced ears also,
and get called miss and ma'am a lot, it use to bother me
but now i enjoy it and just smile...
I've been called "ma'am" a few times recently while in male mode. I'm not sure why, because I don't look particularly feminine without my wig. But I love it when it happens.
It's happened to me a few times in the past. I don't know if it would still happen because I no longer present as male. Maybe one day I will go out in guy mode just as an experiment.
With my bald head, broken nose and scars.... Not a chance. :(
I'm pretty beardy in boy mode, so that mistake doesn't tend to get made for me ;)
Unfortunately, no... not a chance. Being tall, broad-shouldered, and having no hind-end doesn't lend itself to confusion in boy mode. Also, like Donna, I have been on the receiving end of an impromptu nose job. Lol
You've got a good problem to have!!!
Not likely . . . still very guy. Perhaps as my hair grows out and my beard shadow lessens with laser but even then . . . not likely.
Hugs
Isha
I wish :)
I tried once to pass as a male but failed and this was too a sales person whom I had done business with countless times lol.
The long hair often gets me ma'amed
Happens all the time. However, I do dress non-gender conforming, wear colorful nail art all the time and long drop earrings. So it has become expected.
Richelle
I have long hair and painted nails, so I get called "ma'am" or "Miss" sometimes.
I'm to the point where I occasionally get disappointed when someone calls me "sir"
I have been on M2F HRT for almost 4 years. I have D cup breasts and wide hips, along with long hair. So I get read as a woman a lot of the time. However, when I start talking, the feminine illusion disappears as when I talk I sound like a cross between Johnny Cash and Joe Friday of Dragnet. I do not want to alter the pitch of my speaking voice. And my singing voice is suited for the deep bass parts of Russian choral music.
John
Happened to me all the time when I was in my teens and 20's. I only wish I had the. We've to go out sees as a girl back then.
Once from behind and it was a thrill
and another time just after a great makeup job.
Otherwise not
When I was a teenager I had long hair. My friends and I where out late one night. A cop stopped near us and walked over to check on what we were doing. I got out of my friend's jeep, and the cop kept referring to me as ma'am when asking us questions. My friends made fun of me later, but secretly I loved it!
With my long hair, earrings in both ears, clean shaven face, hands and arms, longer nails with clear coat, ladies jeans, booties or sandals you would think I would get Maam'ed a lot but not really, I think others feel better to say nothing than insult me. Although it wouldn't.
This was kind of funny, and sometimes it depends on the situation or surroundings you are and what's expected. During the 2008 Presidental election I took my daughter and her friend to see Hiilary Clinton Speak at the nearby high school, thinking it would be historically important to do so. Well obviously there are a lot of people so they had shuttle buses and almost everyone on this shuttle bus was female, except for me. I was in totally guy mode, but with a long wool overcoat on, and I have really bushy somewhat long hair kind of like how that young Dorthy Hamill used to wear. I didn't think I looked female in the least, cept of course for the coat and hair. But got "Ma'am-Ed" by a cop because he just assumed I was female because I was on this women's bus to go see Hillary - made me laugh because I don't think he realized I was a guy period, even after he said it then saw me front on. Funny when stuff happens like that when we try so hard to pass, then fail at it.
In guy mode I do get "sir" a lot and I HATE IT, some places I shop though in guy mode they accept me at least as becoming a woman and treat me accordingly ☺
"Woo Hoo!" Validation! It's always nice when you get it and is disappointing when you don't. I feel bad when someone thinks it's going to insult me if they use pro-noun. Call it like you see it. If I'm offended? That's my problem. Not yours.
It was a few weeks ago a friend and I were having lunch at a Cattleman's steak house.
I had done my hair with hot rollers earlier getting ready so from the back its easy to think female with my long hair girls t shirt and jeans.
I was washing my hands in the bathroom when a 20 something guy walks in.
He sees all the hair and says OMG Ma'am I'm sorry,he walks back out to check the name on the door and walks back in.
Dude I'm sorry I thought I walked in the wrong bathroom.We both had a good chuckle out of it.
HEE HEE! Tracii G, that happens to me all the time! I just chuckle and say "No problem, Dude."
I usually say oh thats OK don't worry about it.
The funniest one that happened was a man and his two Sons came in and the Dad told the oldest one maybe 5 or 6 go use the urinal and the other wanted to go in a stall with his Dad.
The boy came over to use the spot next to me and he was looking me over pretty well.
I got done and went over to wash my hands and the kid was still doing his business when he asked this question "Dad do girls have wieners?"
The Dad said "no son they don'"t and the kid said OK .
I walked out thinking now that was weird.
In spite of my being on M2F HRT for almost 4 years I still live as a man.
As living as a man I use the men's restroom. It gets very interesting when I am washing my hands or drying them when some dude walks into the restroom. He typically checks the sign on the door and then looks at me, sometimes several times. And then I say in my bass voice, "This is the men's restroom!"
However, the most awkward time was when I was walking out of the restroom, and the wife of a couple started to step in the restroom, while the man was approaching the women's restroom. In the nick of time I had to call out in my deep voice, "This is the men's restroom" while pointing to the sign.
John
New restroom experience - I was approaching a men's restroom and some dude opens the door for me. Apparently he thought I was a woman. Now get this - I was entering the men's restroom. Go figure.
John
Weird coincidence... I was just going to start a a new thread when I see this one!
So I often get this on the phone... Maybe I don't need to worry so much about my voice when out dressed as I fear.
But SOMETIMES I do get misgendered (in a good way) when out and about as a male.
Most recent experience was yesterday morning at a work function (business breakfast).
My hair is short in a very typical short back and sides style.
I do not wear earrings or other jewelry apart from a wrist watch (masculine) and a wedding band.
I was wearing blue Levis 501 jeans, a black polar neck sweater, black lace up shoes and a black double breasted coat.
I was standing in a circle with 2 or 3 female colleagues/associates talking when a man unknown to me came up from my 3 o clock, entered the circle and said 'morning ladies'. He looked right at me a few seconds later and I could see a brief moment of confusion on his face, he nodded an apology or a hello and then the conversation continued. It would seem he clearly thought I was female.
I am 5'9" (or maybe 10" on a good day) and of normal build (albeit on the slighter side) for a male.
As far as I could tell I was wearing rather masculine clothes...
Maybe he didn't see me (unlikely) maybe I am more femme than I realise.
Either way I am not complaining it was a nice experience :-)