If your a CD in a marriage or relationship are you in a dictatorship?

For example I was at an adult store and this startling and funny scene happened.

A man and woman married couple walks in and goes to a certain specific section of the store with a certain Genre.
The wife Rush's off exiting the store leaving her husband there behind.
he walks to another section in another genre and browsed the videos before she rushes in .then his wife comes back in to the store and yells "what, you are not allowed in this section". He nervously knocks down videos in that forbidden section his wife set.
The patrons at the store freeze and things get quiet.
They both leave but we know he is in trouble
Everyone had great curiosity as to what section he was not allowed in.
People over several days go to that section satisfying there curiosity including the store worker.
Most people thought he was in the transgender section but he was not,it was the (Blank ,I refuse to disclosure because its a distraction from the story) section.

Another separate story I witnessed and got some advantage from.
A crossdressers wife discovered a in the closet CD's stash of wigs,heels,women's clothing, makeup, photos and silicone breast forms and butt/hip pads and she through them out of the car on the freeway on ramp.I heard the anger and distrust plus more from this event.
I retrieved it 12 hours later and those were the 1st silicone appliances I ever owned.the wig was such that it made me look better then I had ever with the wig I had already had.

If your wife does not like your taste in
music, clothing, cross dressing hobby, smooth or hairy chest/arms/back/legs/bikini area,eyebrows, nails etc...

Do you comply fight it are compromise?

If not things might get Ugly.

not in my marriage. It is an equal partnersip

We (wife and I) compromise. Her only request is that I leave the leg and arm hair alone. Other than that, there are no other limits to speak of.
She told me tonight that I'm shopping for myself tomorrow when we go girl clothes shopping, for the both of us. Not sure I'm ready for that yet. But hey, her rules...:)

Marriages all require compromises. But, very few r 50/50. I would think a working 60/40 compromise indicates a happy, successful partnership!:thumbsup:

Most I know r like 70/30, or worse!:doh:

I'm curious why u r afraid to mention which section of the "adult store" was "forbidden"? I mean, u can say: dildo, porno, gay, and BDSM here, I believe. U just can't go into the details!:o

I learned early on not to care if it got ugly.
I learned no matter what I did it was going to get ugly anyway.

In my marriage It is an equal partnership. My wife has no problem with my dressing.

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Originally Posted by Lindabrown

For example I was at a adult store and this startling and funny scene happened...

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Don't we know you from someone else before???

Like, who comes up with stories like this? Happening across a stash of violently discarded everything-one-needs-to-CD stuff? Endless adult store antics?

Never mind, someone beat me to it earlier today...

(from another thread)

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Originally Posted by Nikki_P

welcome back Reinasblack.

did you ever open your cross dresser boutique?

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Been in two adult stores in my life and wasn't impressed with either one and in one the people just seemed creepy even the girl running the cash register was creepy.

Some men want to be bossed around by their wife. Some women want to be bossed around by their husband. Who an I to say they have a bad marriage? Love is deaf, dumb, blind and stupid, but maybe that is why it works!

My wife is very loving and accepting of my CD'ing, but I admit we have our compromises.

I have found panties in my time, once on the path just outside a laundromat, and the other time was in a park where teens would go to do...you know want! So what is the big deal about not saying the section the guy was in at the adult store.

Not in our marriage,we treat each other with the same respect,50/50 relationship

I can't help wonder what section he was in... if it was the gay section, well....

How did you know there was box(es) thrown out on the freeway? Did you hear it at the adult store as well? It would be one heck of a dumb thing for a GG to do anyway, the fines for littering highways start at $500.

In all seriousness, some people allow themselves to be bullied (or worse) by their spouse. Maybe she has something she can use against him if they divorce.

I could see them being thrown out along with some of the contents on the freeway.

I did not hear it at the adult store cause it was a separate event on separate day and year on the freeway and not in the store.
A separate story/scenario all together years apart.

It was late at night and she was angry at him for Cross dressing. She felt it was cheating and dishonest. She thought he was a sex worker, gay are bisexual . It was passionate anger so she was not thinking about fines. She was in raged.

Many men are in the closet with cross dressing because some women think its gay,creepy,embarrassing, immoral,against there religious beliefs and some just can't except a feminine man even sometimes.

I am not telling what section he was in that made the guys wife mad in the other story/scenario. Its just a distraction. He was not in the Gay section though, I will say that much.

That leaves the
Lesbian, interracial, smbd,transgender, fetish,specialty's,amateur, sex machine, midget,plus size/plumpers,fantasy and much more....

You know, if I were a cynic, which I'm not, it would seem to me that the OP is talking about observing someone else when in fact it was themselves but I'm sure that is not the case.
By the way, assuming the others assumptions are correct in that you are also the member previously known as Reinasblack (which is a huge leap of faith in their detective abilities), I think it is protocol to merge your new account with your old account.

I would not Leap are Assume if I where you!

I know people like that but not us. We are equals and treat each other that way.

We are also equal. and respect each other.

Rayleen.

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Originally Posted by Lindabrown

People over several days go to that section satisfying there curiosity including the store worker.

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This is the part that has me confused. Did this story spread like wildfire and have legs enough to last several days? Do the same people keep coming back? If new customers arrive two days later and hear of these exploits, do they even care? Care enough to try to figure out what section he isn't allowed in? In my humble opinion, it all just seems weird...

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Originally Posted by Lindabrown

A crossdressers wife discovered a in the closet CD's stash of wigs,heels,women's clothing, makeup, photos and silicone breast forms and butt/hip pads and she through them out of the car on the freeway on ramp.

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It saddens me when people open a car window like a trash lid just to use nature as their personal garbage can.

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Originally Posted by Rayleen

We are also equal. and respect each other.

Rayleen.

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So right, Rayleen. We may not agree with everyting we read in these threads, but can still be respectful of everyone. Have a great day, sisters.

All I can do is that there is no divorce in a dictatorship and if a person is unhappy with their spouse, there IS an option so any misery is of your own choosing.

Yep Micki I agree if the marriage isn't working one can always leave.
Oh and Lindabrown all this sounds like you are the man in question or are you asking for a "friend"?

I haven’t had a similar experience. I did however find this thread from last year which reminded me of this one. I’m sure it’s just a coincidence:

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums...ht=reinasblack

Fortunately I am not in a dictatorship, sometimes


I think I am in fairyland.

I am quite often in Fantasyland.

My wife runs the show "Resistance is futile"

My wife and me did everything together, it was a 50/50 relationship.
We even went shopping together. And she was OK with my dressing.
Rader

Marriage is a partnership and a compromise. That doesn't mean everything is 50/50. I take (and she gives me) the lead in some things according to our relative strengths (finances and yardwork for example), and I yield to her in other areas (decorating, and uh ... everything else. haha)

I am meek and shy. My wife dominates the relationship. She does all the heavy lifting. For years I was just the tallest kid in the family. Kids moved out, so now just the two of us. DADT relationship. She pays the bills and her checkbook always balances. If I want something--it takes persistent asking and wheedling.

I've noticed throughout my lifetime that there are deal-breakers in all marriages, both from the husband's and wife's point of view. And the deal-breakers are different for everyone.

We should none of us judge, especially when it comes to someone else's sex life.

I’ve been a part of two long marriages totaling nearly 40 years. Both ended in divorce. I can go on and on about what went wrong, but so much more was right. We seemed to share common core values, we had similar aspirations, and often worked well together on common problems and challenges.

Neither marriage was remotely a dictatorship and each of us remained free to make our own decisions.