If you Directed a Movie with a Cross Dresser as the Central Character what

Scenes and/or situations would you want to show in the movie to show the joy and guilt we experience ?

Would you want to show some of our first experiences ? Experiences of being caught and punished ?

Would you want to show a mixture of both positive and negative experiences with women ?

Would you want to show the inner conflict of when to tell the women you love about your cross dressing ?

We often criticize the media, so here is your chance to create a movie with drama and humor that would shed some light on our lives.

So what are scenes or situations you want included in the movie ?

Thanks

I’d probably wonder why I was remaking The Danish Girl lol.

Good point Micki.
The Danish Girl covered most of those aspects and did it very well. I must say that it certainly touched home with me. I felt her guilt and fear, her desires and her dreams.

I'll have to watch The Danish Girl.
That being said, I would take stories from here and build characters. Maybe do a lot of the growing up stuff.

I think if I did this I'd have a character who did something other than cross dressing. I'm thinking of a detective or a special agent who got caught once at school, learned how to avoid being caught, and then has a very complex life as both someone who crosdresses for pleasure and at the same time uses it as disguise. Then of course he falls in love with the wrong person, or vice versa.

Great thought Rhonda !

The movie would be better if there was a strong plot and the main character just happened to be a crossdresser. In other words a normal person who just happened to enjoy crossdressing . Could have some flashbacks to when they were young.

Yes Joyce to add some humor would definitely include some of the humorous stories here of clothes shopping and dealing with S.A.s

I'd make the character witty, beautiful, courageous and heroic. Someone to make the muggles envious. I wouldn't dwell too much on the minutia of crossdressing. That is really only of interest to us.

"The Danish Girl " was about a transsexual, not a crossdresser. I'd take a cue from "The Drew Carey Show". IIRC, Drew's character's brother was a crossdresser. The interactions were sometimes comical of course, but never sensationalized. My production would normalize gender nonconforming people.

Aunt Kelly is on to something. As horrible The Drew Carry Show was that one season with his cross-dressing brother was presented it in a positive way over all. Except for the fact that him getting together with Mimi eventually "cured him".

https://youtu.be/IdfjFo5uc4Y
Pretty much been done with Danish girl but DG was so boring and depressing I never could finish watching it.
Boy meets world is just a better movie IMO plus the star is an actual trans girl.https://youtu.be/IdfjFo5uc4Y

If I were to direct a movie about a crossdresser, I would have the movie begin with the main character being well educated, a doctor, and well respected in his community. He gets married, and that would be the first we learn about his crossdressing. His wife believes she's been deceived by him, and he tries to explain that this is something he can't explain or understand. He has always believed it would just go away. This isn't something he wants. His wife soon learns that she was never deceived, but he is deceiving himself. She understands that he is a good man, the best she's ever known. She doesn't believe his crossdressing should devalue him. She starts encouraging him to crossdress in the safety and privacy of the home. She recognizes that crossdressing seems to benefit him, reduces stress, and makes him happier. He is just a better person for it. She then becomes angry at society and the norms it imposes on males. She then tries to find other crossdressers in her town, and makes it her mission to gain respect and freedom for them. Her husband tells her that he doesn't think he can maintain his status in the community and tells her to end her mission. Facing increasing resistant she modifies her plans, and focuses her interests in volunteering for a local charity. Then she gets an idea on a fundraiser. She organizes a womanless beauty pageant to benefit the charity. She manages to convince the sheriff, a pastor, the high school principal, and other respected members of the community to volunteer as contestants. Her husband is also a contestant. In the end, the womanless pageant is a great success. All the contestants are glam. Her husband gains a new prospective on his crossdressing.

I think the main character would be a preacher dressed right down to necklace and earrings with a cd wife for support and a congregation evolving into acceptance and by the end of picture those that don't convert will be the minority

Confucius,
I sounds more like the theme of , " The new girlfriend " a French film .

Robbie,
I wouldn't make the point of whether the character was TG or TS it means more to us than the public . There are some vey succesful TGs/TSs in business now it would be lovely to see their story made into a film drama . I feel the media have made too much of the seedier side of CDing maybe they should make more of the exceptional people we can be given the chance . OK some background story of the hurdles that had to be cleared to achieve their goal .

I would think all of those things would be up to the screenwriter not the director. What's the one thing the story's about in the first place?

I have a Movie script (Three actually) Not a Crossdresser, but a Female to male (effectively) Transgender. It's "Space opera" Sci-Fi where the Protagonist, a HEROIC male, starship Captain ends up turned into a WOMAN when an attempt by the bad guys to horribly kill him by scrambling his DNA, is botched, leaving him a WOMAN instead. STILL, "he " is devastated and thinks his life and reputation are over. Duty and discipline, however, FORCE the Captain to confront his foes and free his former crew from Slavery---even if "he" must die doing it.-----The Captain finds out that a WOMAN, has her own strengths and advantages and can be just as heroic as a man. She realizes she is the Same hero she always was, but only in a "different Package." (Scripts based on my "The Last Frontier" series in the writer's section) ------BTW, I AM a Director. I am scheduled to fill in for a director on a feature shoot in a week or so. Unfortunately NOT on MY Scripts though.

"The Danish Girl" was a very moving, poignant, sad film, but one that I thought was spot on. Perhaps more for a transgendered audience than a crossdressing one. No slight intended, but a lot of the events portrayed really hit home for me.

"Just Like A Woman" (1992), was a great film that portrayed a crossdresser and the perils of being such. A highly underrated British film. Link to a synopsis: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104576/

"Ma vie en Rose" (1997), is a heartbreaking tale about a very young transgirl, and her bewilderment that everyone around her is horrified that she identifies as a female. Link to synopsis:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119590/


There is even a YouTube channel, called "CrossdressingLife", on how to 'make' your boyfriend into a crossdresser.

The above films are all serious, or mostly serious, attempts at portraying the crossdresser/transgender life. The YouTube channel I mentioned, is maybe less so, and more driven towards fantasy/fetish. And there are many others: "Priscilla of the Desert", "Transamerica", "Boys Don't Cry", and a bajillion "she-male", "Ladyboy", and crossdresser porno's out there.

If I were to make a film portraying the 'real' life of a crossdresser, I think I would focus on the loneliness, and the feelings of shame that are pushed on the average crossdresser. I would strive to dismantle the negatives of the obsession.

Thanks for the links and thoughts Jodie.

yes, Ressie you are right I guess it would be the screen writer.

What would be amazing would be to try and also tell the story through the eyes of the women in our lives.

Great post

I think I would make it as positive as I could. Maybe I crossdresser with a real supported family, from the SO, children of the CD, parents and bothers & sisters. Of course real life situations which include negative experiences but the base supports.

Another scene I thought about was having the boy have to play a girls part in his all boys school play and show his reaction to wearing girls clothes compared to how the other boys reacted.

I don't believe every boy who ends up in a dress or tutu joins our team so I would like to somehow compare and contrast their reaction to the situation.

The main character would be a positive role model that would also be a crossdresser. The crossdressing would be shown in a positive light with none of the crude jokes about crossdressing or women.
The show could incorporate flashbacks about growing up and the struggles.
The crossdresser should wear appropriate clothing for the situation. If working in a business setting then business attire or grocery shopping jeans and a nice blouse.
In many scenes the fact the fact that the character is cross-dressed does not even have to be mentioned.

Lea, you actually brought up a key question that I have not resolved yet.

Would the crossdresser be in the closet or would she be out and about trying to pass ?

Just for fun...

I don't know about the story line itself, but I think I'd be putting in lots of 'fantasy' segments, followed by the reality of the situation.

For example, She's about to walk into a room full of strangers:
Cut to People shouting, laughing, breaking out the torches and ropes - the more over the top the better...
Then jump back to the 'real' moment where she walks in, and nothing dramatic happens at all.

you could then flip the situation:
She is chatting with someone, and they say something nice - like "You're looking nice today. New outfit?"
Cut to fantasy segment of scenes of long romantic walks, dining in restaurants, fireworks - again the more over the top, the better.
Then jump back to the 'real moment where she just smiles, says "why thank you!" and life just goes on.

This could be a way to illustrate the conflict between "head space" and the "real world"?

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Originally Posted by Robbiegirl

Lea, you actually brought up a key question that I have not resolved yet.

Would the crossdresser be in the closet or would she be out and about trying to pass ?

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I picture a butterfly coming out of a cocoon. A struggle for understanding in the beginning which the flashbacks show. Then out and about and accepted.
In most of the movie the fact that the character is cross dressed would not be pointed out or have any dialog about it. It is what it is.

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Originally Posted by Robbiegirl

In other words a normal person who just happened to enjoy crossdressing

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In western society, 'normal' people don't just happen to enjoy crossdressing. It takes a very strong urge to do it, to get us to cross the gender line and admit to ourselves and/or others that we feel better crossdressed as women.

There have been several movies, 'Just like a woman', and the aforementioned Danish Girl as two examples. There have been others.

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I sounds more like the theme of, " The new girlfriend " a French film

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Ah. That's the one I couldn't remember. It's now available on Amazon Prime for $3.99, but it's hard to find. A routine search didn't show it anywhere on Amazon's prime site. I had to go to the IMDB listing and click the Amazon link to get to it.
Here's the IMDB listing for it, the Amazon link is right under the headline pics. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3184934...1?ref_=nv_sr_1

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As horrible The Drew Carry Show was that one season with his cross-dressing brother was presented it in a positive way over all. Except for the fact that him getting together with Mimi eventually "cured him".

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That's not necessarily too far from reality for some of us. Change our situation enough for the better, and our minds can apparently push the crossdressing urge into the subconscious. I know that's not the politically correct thing to bring up, but it does happen. Trouble is, just admitting that it can happen to a few of us, might imply that it's a remedy for all of us to the rest of the world, who thinks that they can beat it out of us if they just try hard enough.

I've seen all three movies mentioned above, and some of them, I even own. I'll provide just a short description of the first 15 minutes of each movie.

In "Just Like a Woman", the protagonist is just a crossdresser. At the beginning of the movie, his wife comes home early from a trip, and guess what she finds when she gets home before her husband can get home and clean up the house? She kicks him out of the house immediately. The protagonist rents a room from a divorced (widowed) woman, under the condition that he is not allowed to "entertain" any women in his room. She sees the same "woman" coming and leaving the room often, and then discover her tenant's secret.

In "A New Girlfriend" ("Une Nouvelle Amie) the protagonist's BFF girlfriend gets married, but unfortunately, dies as a result of complications of childbirth. It turns out, that her BFF knew that her husband had "certain propensities", but she kept that secret from the protagonist. The protagonist inadvertently discovers "the secret", and is shocked, shocked, shocked. But, she eventually decides to support the widower in his adventures.

In "The Danish Girl", his wife is an artist. She asks him to put on a dress so she can paint some of the background with a real model, and use the woman who ordered the portrait for mainly the face. As I think you can guess, wearing a dress awakens some latent feelings in the husband. As a couple, they start having fun with this together, and they then see if anyone in their social circle can figure out who the Danish girl really is. If I recall correctly, the husband is initially treated as just a crossdresser, but as the movie continues, being just a crossdresser becomes somewhat constricting.

All three were great in different ways.

Movies such as Priscilla Queen of the Desert, have made crossdressing (well at least in a drag sense), a lot more fun and accepting for the average person. It has spawned Priscilla Parties, which have a crossdressing theme, although the idea is to go over the top in your dressing. For the average crossdresser who is struggling to be accepted by family and friends, it hasn't done much at all.
As for a movie, I would like to see Clark Kent transform into Supergirl or Wonder Woman, but that is just me having the hots for Wonder Woman.