I can say is straight men are lame!

last night my wife and I went out to the Friday drag show at our local club. We always stick around and dance afterwards. The club that has the drag show is of course the local "gay bar" and always has an hoping dance floor with a good mix of people.

Around midnight we decided to go grab a snack up the street. On our way there we noticed one of the old clubs we used to go to was reopened so we decided to go in.

Now this was a predominantly straight club, and all I can say is straight men are lame!

Honestly, in a club full of millennials a 53 year old transwoman should not be the only GM on the dance floor! :eek:

I actually find that quite sad! Of course, I am a 68 yo male who never learned to dance so I would not be out there! LOL Hugs Lana Mae

Some of us actually pose a physical hazard to others on a dance floor.

I don't know. I've been to straight and gay clubs here and in Asia. I can't count the number of times my T buddy Cindi and I were the 1st ones on the dance floor. Dressed or not!:thumbsup:

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I am one of those types because I can't dance at all.
I have slow danced enfemme with a few guys recently and faked my way thru' it.

Well I do have to admit I was just as lame as a straight guy, except for some Moshing in the 90's, I rarely danced and would only slow dance at that. The past few years before I came out I danced more at parties but we never just went out dancing like we do now. My wife has said if she knew all it would take was me wearing a dress to get me to take her out dancing we would have done it a long time ago. As I literally dance circles around her now and have more stamina.

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I am one of those types because I can't dance at all.

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I hear people say that all the time. I can't dance, my wife and I have even took lessons and failed. We like to say I am rhythm impaired and she can't be lead. But I look at it like this now... First off look at any busy dance floor, the majority don't know how to dance. Some music is easier to dance to than others. I need a pronounced and relatively fast beat, high energy music. Sometimes I have to close my eyes and listen for a beat I can concentrate on. When dancing I am looking up at the lights, or over everyone head not at anyone around me except my partner. One time a GG that really knew how to dance complemented me on my "dancing face", the motion she made as she said "It just looks so..." makes me think she would have said "blank".

Wow, ladies! I'm somewhat at a loss right now. You poor folk!! :D I mean, sure I didn't dance as a kid cos I felt awkward, but by 14-15 years of age I'd decided to hell with that! :dance: I've been dancing without self-consciousness (albeit badly) for the 33-34 years since.

In fact it's one of the biggest sadnesses of my wife's disabilities that she and I are no longer able to dance like we once did. :chained: Sure, we can kinda dance together with her in her wheelchair but it's hardly the rhythmic foreplay it once was.

Again, I would never claim to be a good dancer, but I'm a happy one and that's more than half the battle. It's also the part that can't be taught.

Maybe a generational thing. I don't remember dancing being a big thing when I was a kid (late 80s/early 90s.) Other than some moshing I don't remember ever dancing per se, we would just kind of stand around on a dance floor near someone and move around.

My former girlfriend (a baby boomer) once wanted to go ballroom dancing like she did when she was young. I, being gen x, was like... umm... I have no idea how to do that. She said guys knowing how to dance was common back when she was a teenager.

Vickie, you’re talking about the HEYDAY of dancing at gay clubs. Late 80’s early 90’s you’re talking vogueing and whatnot. I was a little more of a early to mid 90s kid as far as my club life but the gay clubs were always the place to go for dancing back then. At least in my neck of the woods.

I’d also like to add that learning to dance is a great way to learn to move more like a woman as well.

What millenial needs dancing and other meatspace social rituals when smart phones are so much more enticing.😗

You have to grow up in the right neighborhood. Back in the 1960's everyone danced to rock and roll. Additionally, my social group was blessed with a young Greek woman who introduced us to line dancing. If you got the right culture men will dance with men. Now being aged and falling apart slow dancing is about it.

I have always felt self conscious when dancing but not when I'm crossdressed.

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You have to grow up in the right neighborhood. Back in the 1960's everyone danced to rock and roll. Additionally, my social group was blessed with a young Greek woman who introduced us to line dancing. If you got the right culture men will dance with men. Now being aged and falling apart slow dancing is about it.

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I grew up on rock and roll! That's real dance music. However, u can't move the same way in 5" heels. So, modern, slow, boring EDM is more suited to hi heels. And, what Micki said is true. One T club had mirrored walls. I would study my dance moves for hours!:daydreaming:

Plus, guys can't dance alone. But, GG and T girls can!:D

Roberta, if you saw my dance moves, you would not want to see me on the dance floor. Truthfully, my wife loves to dance and I do go dancing with her all the time. I love it when she is happy. So despite my pitiful moves, I make it out there.

Roberta,
A very good point , at an open Xmas party I danced with several attractive women while their male partners were more than happy to prop up the bar .

Lana,
You are missing some fun, last Friday night at our summer ball I spent most of the night on the dance floor .

Sherry ,
You're so right , I can't remember the last time I saw a guy by himself on the dance floor but a GG or T girl will often attract others to join them , I love it especially if I've chosen the right shoes and can wear them all night .

I step on my dance partner's toes. Better at propping up the bar

I'm a dancing fool that can easily embarrass anyone I'm dancing with. That's why I don't get on the dance floor. If I get out there it's all over!

I have two left feet and neither of them work when it comes to dancing. I have tried, but know my limitations. My wife's feet have the same problem so we get along just fine because neither of us want to dance.

I finally found something I can post about. I've dreamed about going out dancing and I have at times, but I always felt self conscious because I didn't know how to dance in a feminine way. I am well on the way to solving this issue and so I thought I'd share since so many in this thread say they can't dance.

Believe me, I couldn't either. Zero rhythm. Didn't even really know what to do with my body.

I have this dance club very near my house that I've been to many times en femme. They're accepting and I've never had any issues there, though it's not a gay club. It's actually in the southern burbs of Houston, very far from the gayborhood. But I only danced there when I was with my ex SO, who was very accepting and we'd dance together. Now that I'm flying solo, the thought of getting on the dance floor is quite intimidating.

So about 4 weeks ago, I was watching youtube videos about club dancing for women and came upon a set of videos that I really liked. The teacher was sweet and the lessons were very rudimentary and explained really well. And it felt great each time she'd complete a lesson she'd say, "Good job, ladies".

After watching a few of them, I decided to invest in the complete course. And then every day after work, I would do a lesson, then put on some dance music, position a large mirror where I could watch myself and practice an hour or more, fully dressed.

Girls, I'm telling you seriously, I have transformed my dance skills in just 4 weeks. And I'll tell you, I am such an uncoordinated mess, that each new lesson, I thought, "I'll never get this." But I just kept practicing slow and then speeding it up. And when I'd add the hand styling, my hips would forget where they were and I'd lose the beat. But I just kept battling through it. Now I can do every lesson, including the "girly bounce", which I thought I'd NEVER get, with ease.

I'm not sure how they feel about links in here so I'm not going to post one yet but if you go to youtube and search "girly bounce", it's the first result. And that will lead you to where you can purchase the course, if you like. I highly recommend it.

I haven't gone to the club yet, but I'm definitely ready. And I'm still practicing in front of a mirror about 5 days a week to develop that muscle memory.

That is a really good idea Duana, and not that difficult. honestly I am sure I look like a fool out there on the dance floor but for goodness sake I am already our in public in a dress it seems kind of silly to to embarrassed to dance. As for the girly bounce I find that came easy. It was second nature to add a little bounce to my dancing to keep the breast forms in motion :p Makes my wife jealous :p

All I can say , as a straight male, is... If I'm out in town, which is a rare thing, I admit, I'm in Drab and I'm dancing. Why else would you be there girls.

I actually have had nightmares about dancing. Its a weird phobia I guess.(real shame as my wife LOVES to dance) But I've often imagined that enfemme I could enjoy it. I admit I'm weird.😬

You don't want to see on the dance floor anyways :)

I'm a child of the 50s. Then it was waltz and fox trot, which I did quite well, even some of the dances of the 20s (they were fun!). As dancing changed, I tried to waltz to a rock and roll beat. Didn't work, but I could do the twist pretty well. Waltz and fox trot now only at wedding receptions, by request, with a bunch of seniors who have replaced joints.

So true lol the last time I went dancing in public it was for my birthday on Halloween so naturally the dance floor is mixed with all ages and genders.

My girlfriends 11 year old was surprised that I know 95% of today's dancing. My mom taught me when I was around 5 years old and I only recently stopped due to my disability.

Even if you have ZERO rhythm it's not about that. It's about enjoying the vibe and the person you're dancing with. Even the music becomes less important compared to the "moment", and I'm a musician.

Go out, have fun, let go!!!!!!!!!

I have to be pretty drunk to get in the mosh pit and thankfully dancing has nothing to do with slamming and at 49 one or two songs has me knackered

Lame! I am 54 and speaking of mosh pits... "I wanna shimmy shimmy shimmy till the break of dawn, yeah!..."

I am a pretty shy person, and it took me until i was in the military, to ask a lady to dance with me. Decades later, in my late 40's, joined a few singles clubs with dances, and did a lot of dancing, though still pretty shy. I tend to overdo everything, so did make a fool of myself at times, like Gomer Pyle dancing! I have never tried going dancing as a lady. At almost seven feet in heels, not sure if i would ever have the nerve to.

I am beginning to think the lameness is a Millennial thing... Last Friday after the drag show it was "Flashback Friday" with the DJ playing 80s-90s music. Being old and not really into dance music in the 80's and 90's the best we could come up with was Rock Lobster by the B52's. The DJ seemingly wouldn't play it, and was still asking for requests, after an hour had passed my wife goes up and talks to the DJ, and comes back and says the DJ said "You know that song is seven and a half minutes long?" I guess he was concerned that Millennial's cant dance for more than three and a half minutes at a time!

Eventually we talked him into playing it and it bought everyone onto the dance floor!

Gomer was a hoot when he danced

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I'm starting to question weather or not there really are any "straight" men
i'm on a few dating sites and it's all supposed "straight" men that look at my profile and message me
yet for some reason women won't go near me lol

When I am in Drab I like to do the Jitterbug, Lindy and Shag, but I'm just bored to death with the stand in one place, shuffle your feet, and wave your hands kind of stuff that passes for dancing nowadays. It's hard, however, to find a partner who knows how to do the stuff I like. I didn't like the music very much, but I loved to do disco steps back in the Dark Ages, too!

Sad to say, the demise of dancing, ( I'm talking about two people holding each other) was a truly generational thing. I grew up during WWII and learned to dance in the 50's. It was the Waltz, Fox Trot, Lindy, Jitterbug and then Latin phase entered with the Rumba, Cha Cha, and such but lets not forget the Polka. My dear Wife and I tore up a few dance floors in our time, just fond memories now. Thanks for the shoulder, Ladies.
Joanne

A friend used to describe himself as "a dancer trapped in the body of a tree"

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When I am in Drab I like to do the Jitterbug, Lindy and Shag, but I'm just bored to death with the stand in one place, shuffle your feet, and wave your hands kind of stuff that passes for dancing nowadays. It's hard, however, to find a partner who knows how to do the stuff I like. I didn't like the music very much, but I loved to do disco steps back in the Dark Ages, too!

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If you live in a decently sized metro area I am sure there are several Lindy Hop dancers. I have no problem finding Lindy events literally every day of the week.

Kayla,
You say that but it's lovely to see a woman sensing the rhythm , some people can stand still and still light up the room .

I must admit the last time I went to a dance , the DJ put some county music on and I grabbed some of the GGs on the dance floor and did , " Strip the willow " with them .

Barn dances have gone out of favour in the UK but I'd like to see them come back , no one dances on the the spot and they are so much fun .

Straight club, gay club makes no difference to me. I'm not a millennial, (that's for damn sure lol) and I'm not a dancer. Just never had the interest, and definitely lack natural talent for it. Just one of those things that doesn't appeal to me.


Karen

I remember, with anger, how my cousins and aunt laughed at, and ridiculed me when I was a kid at a dance. I have never forgotten it and still don't dance now at 72.

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Kayla,
You say that but it's lovely to see a woman sensing the rhythm , some people can stand still and still light up the room .

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What are you talking about Teresa?? It makes no sense as a reply to my post. I was pointing out to StarrOfDelite that if she likes dancing Lindy and the related dances than there really shouldn't be a problem finding those dancing communities in the denser urban cities. That was not a comment on the way people dance at all. Your posting is a complete non sequitur.

What you experienced is understandable. However, stop to think of how much power you gave your cousins and aunt over your life. You gave it to them, they forgot about it decades ago and you are still enslaved by it. It's time to take it back. Break free and go dancing. Tonight.

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I remember, with anger, how my cousins and aunt laughed at, and ridiculed me when I was a kid at a dance. I have never forgotten it and still don't dance now at 72.

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