under dressing how many people know?

Jamie's post (Would someone recognize you if you were dressed?)

Made me think how many of us have been recognized and not know it??? For the members who underdress (like me for the last 42 years), have bent over showed some lace panties without realizing it? Of course unless someone who saw you out or caught glimpse of you lace panties would have to tell you. No one has told me I saw you at the mall or asked me where you out dress like a women shopping?? I have however slipped up and showed my lace panties. At a family holiday (many people) my daughter who knew of my dressing, told me I have to be more careful (which I have been since) she told me the color of the pair I was wearing that day. So based on odds I think (without knowing it) 42 years at less 42 people have seen my panties. Just a fun question

I have been wearing panties 24/7 for over 7 years now and as far as I know nobody has accidentally seen my panties, my Dr has but I always wear black Jockey bikinis there.

Same here. I've been wearing panties 24/7 for probably the last 20 years or more. As far as I know the only one that has ever seen them is my wife. I'm very careful to not have them peek out when I bend over.

I wear panties sometimes. Bending over can be hazardous and is the most likely time someone will see. Personally, I don't care if someone sees. Of course, my wife knows and does not object.

In my opinion being "recognized" has another meaning than seeing you crossdressing. I don't consider underdressing as crossdressing just because it involves something that is more commonly worn by women. But your behavior is a much greater tell than underdressing. In other words, do you tend to react to things in a way that is more characteristic of females than males?

The general public expects people will follow the general behavior patterns society expects based on your sex. Clothes, whether outer or under do not change your perceived sex unless you are very good with makeup, clothing style, etc. Even then people notice little hints that most have - face shape, size of hands, hair patterns on the body, and many, many more. That all follows physical appearance. But female-like behavior is the final straw in deciding both sex and gender. And if you show female-like behavior traits, it doesn't matter one bit what you are wearing you will be perceived as being at least among the weakly feminine females.

I wear panties 24/7 and for the last year I wear a bra whenever I go out in public to keep the girls from bouncing too much. It’s a Bali pull-on bra with no cups and flat fabric so no shaping). I’ve never been outed.

Hey Charla, what is a pulling bra? I thought I knew a fair amount about bras but I never heard of a "pulling bra". Thanks, Sherrii

Frequent under dresser here. Mostly on weekends. I wear a vest over my shirt and I have no worries about bra lines showing. Tucking my shirt properly avoids panties showing out. I enjoy it and it feels wonderful.

My wife and that is it.

Underdressed,no. I feel confident that I wouldn't give anyone a clue to what lies beneath. I will wear Mom jeans while shopping with a cami top or bra covered by a polo and never get a second glance. May do it tonight as I need a run to Kroger.

I wear panties every day, I don't think anyone has seen them but not sure. I also wear pantyhose, and thigh high stockings sometimes. I don't think it would bother me if any caught a glimpse.

I have gotten in the habit of wearing panties under my bedtime boxers for the last few months, and all day under my boxers on my days off. So far, no comments. Warm weather may curtail that fun, but currently in a cool spell -- hooray! Was almost caught last night -- with the spouse away, tried wearing just the panties to bed and even donned a silky nightgown. Woke up at 4:00 and just headed down to use the bathroom and saw my youngest daughter (23) heading back to bed. She was so bleary eyed and drowsy, and not wanting to see dad in his (assumed) underwear so looked away in the darkness. Her reaction, or lack thereof, makes me pretty sure she didn't notice a thing. Whew!

I have been wearing panties every day for over 5 years. The ladies at the waxing shop have certainly seen them but not one comment(drats)! Once I visited my Dr and ended up needing a shot which had not been planned for I had no choice but to drop my pants for the shot and I was wearing a pretty pair that day. The female nurse did not comment on them.

Hi Connie :hugs:, I have been wearing my lite control panty girdle 24/7 for about 12 years now ,

Only my:love:Wife knows, >Orchid**o:daydreaming:o**

Panties 24 / 7 last 15 years no one has said anything my gf is great wiht it. Bra when i can wear a sweatshirt over it to help hid it. Someties i wear a bra just under a t shirt if going out of town

I've been underdressing for 60+ years. Back in the early 60s I was wearing panties under my tight, from eating too much,pants. My boss told me to stop and back up. I'm sure he suspected what they were panty lines. He never said anything more about it.

Yesterday I ran errands in a women's tee shirt 36C bra under it. No one payed attention to it. Today I wore a 38B cup under a blouse and no one paid attention. I've been out to friends and neighbors for years.

I dated a girl when I was 18 who use to buy me panties to wear but , not pink or laced.

I under-dressed in my early 20 until the day I saw a girl I hadn't seen in a while and she gave me a big hug.
I was under-dressed with a girdle and bra, I don't know if she felt them but, I stopped under-dressing after that!
She knew I cross-dressed in the past but at that point I was in the closet!

Connie D50,

Good question. I’m not sure if anyone other than my doctor has seen my panties. My bra however, more than I am comfortable with though not sure how many. I am curious if someone has seen how come they didn’t question or ask me.


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Michelle

At least one doctor, two CT techs, and an ultrasound tech from my visits as a patient.

Wife, mom, mother in law, sister in law all know. Other than that, no one I am aware of.

Been under dressing most of my life when I have to present in male mode, which is most of the time since I was married in 1994.
If I am doing male chores, not so much.
I have gotten my wife to accept me wearing satin high waist panties do to a dry skin condition and at times, shaper panties to contain a slight hernia condition I both kind of play up.
She seems not to mind my Jennifer Aniston "Beachscapes" perfume I wear everyday.
I wear satin camisoles or Dago-T's and silk shirts that are of a unisex nature.
I wear jewelry in any form of presentation, rings and guy bracelets or watch but don't have my ears pierced yet.
If I dress in male mode while underdressed, I like to wear nice clothes in nice fabrics and styles....a snappy dresser. :battingeyelashes:
I love wearing a soft cup contour bra when wife isn't around under a sweater or coat and pantyhose or garter and thigh highs in the winter, under my polyester dress slacks.
I have Italian hard sole heeled unisex shoes that sound like high heels when I walk.
I do get extra glances once in a while, mostly by curious women who tend to check me out.
I normally talk in a muted tones and an pretty demur for a husband whose fingernails are long and I wear clear gloss nailpolish 24/7.
I am pretty sure women spy my lingerie more than guys by the smiles I get with women I interact with when the wife isn't around.

Have been wearing panties for many years and my wife obviously knows of my under dressing.

My female neighbour also knows.

When she spotted me bending over while cleaning my car outside my house one day, she called me by my wife's name and at first I couldn't figure out why she was confusing me with my Wife as we are very different in appearance.

The penny dropped, It was just her way of letting me know that my panties were peeking out.

I wear panties, ESPECIALLY when I am in a suit and tie..... To me I am giving *society* what they expect while staying true to myself! My wife knows, and have been spotted before by others, but when a comment is made, I instantly quip back with "Yes, their panties....I lost a bet to my wife" ;)
I only wear bras while dressing, during the week at work, I wear a compression shirt to hide my natural man boobs. While I love my breasts while dressing, I HATE them in public as a man, and that's solely from YEARS of gawks, stares, comments, etc. The guilt, shame, confusion of being a closet crossdresser was hard enough, but public pools, gym class, and the like I have always dreaded. With the help of my wife, I am getting better accepting my body, but it's still a work in progress after all the years of dread and hatred.

Think after 6 decades of hiding stuff I would be good at hiding under dressing? Do not think that anyone ever noticed what I was wearing under my male clothing unless I wanted them to see! Many times I have been out enfemme wearing male outer clothing and visa versa. So I do not count that. And I now do not count my boobs because there is no hiding them and could not care what anyone else thinks of my body...

It was a typo - I meant “pull-on” and not “pulling”.

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Hey Charla, what is a pulling bra? I thought I knew a fair amount about bras but I never heard of a "pulling bra". Thanks, Sherrii

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Sorry! I meant to type “pull-on” and not “pulling”.

I have no idea how many people know, but I DO remember one incident at work:

Unexpectedly, one at work we were taking up panels from the raised floor and pulling electric cables. Well - squatting down and leaning into the hole caused a "reveal" to my co-workers.
They didn't actually say anything, but the nervous "I saw that" laugh said it all.
Nothing came of it and life went on.

Underdress pretty much all the time and have done for many years now, not always a bra, but always panties, in fact I can't even recall the last time I wore male underwear and I go the the gym regular too. I like to wear a bra on weekends and when out shopping, I used to worry about it, but again the more you do it the more you realise that people aren't looking, either that or I have just been lucky

One of my GG friends knows that I do and she often asks me what I am wearing, she knows because I told her long ago, not because she found out

It is part of my life and it makes me smile

I underdress mostly everyday with mostly panties and pantyhose. My wife has told me a number of times to be careful when bending because she has seen the top band of my pantyhose or the lace of panties many times.
A few weeks back we went for a walk on a trail, there were bike rentals there and we decided to ride on the trail. I was wearing a bra and because I thought we were going for a walk I thought nothing of it. My wife was riding a head of me and there were a lot of bike riders in front and behind us. At one point I went in front or her and she told me to pull off the trail and stop. I asked her what was wrong and she said because I'm leaning forward on the bike and sweating my shirt is transparent and she seen all the bra and the flowery working on it and for sure everyone behind will notice it.
Well I couldn't take it of there so I rode the rest of the trail with the back of my bra in full view. I enjoyed the thought of it showing and after a while my wife noticed nobody said anything and she find of relaxed and was kind of getting a little thrill of seeing it to.

Up until the last 6 months I would underdress maybe one time per week. But being stuck inside during the pandemic, with little opportunity to fully dress (I normally dress when I travel, but travel was suspended), resulted in me underdressing almost daily. Usually just some pretty panties, but sometimes I wear a bralette under bulkier clothes during the day or under my t-shirt at night when I sleep.

I have been wearing panties and a bra for many years now. A few female co workers know because the the bra adjusters or my bra strap has shown though my shirt. But I don?t care anymore who knows. I just like being me

Well my wife knows. Then there's the hair dresser who put her hands on my shoulders and realized I was wearing a Cami. Oops!

I?ve been underdressing every day for many years. I have no male underwear, so underdressing is my only option. No one has ever commented, except one TSA agent who couldn?t figure out why my underwear was so tight. I just said "I?m wearing pantyhose." And he immediately apologized. My attitude is that my underwear is nobody's business but my own.

The same thing happened to me on a bike ride through our neighborhood. I wonder how many people driving by noticed. Nothing I could do about it.

Tracy

I have been underdressing for years. My wife knows and several nurses at the local ER when I had an incident.

When I travel by myself, I almost always wear panties and I know there have been a few times that there has been an unintended reveal bending over of getting things out of the car. And it has happened even when I have been shopping for panties and have bent down to check out the bottom rack for size 7. But I have never heard a comment from anyone and quite honestly, anonymously, I don?t care.

I'm in panties exclusively for the last 15+ years.
I'm never worried about someone seeing them as I never allow myself to be in that position. That being said I never showed my male underwear before I made the changeover. My pants don't sit at my hips and there is no plumbers crack available for anyone to view. It's just not a thing with me.

As a navy recruiter I was at one time called in to the office on a Saturday. I was at the time wearing a pair of red lace trimmed Vanity Fair panties. I went on in with out changing. Later I heard one of the other recruiters remark " we need to investigate what type underwear the "Chief" wears". So if my deduction is correct one or more of the office saw a feminine waist band peeking out of my trousers!

I don't have any men's underware. I would love someone to catch a glimpse........

hello Connie,
for many years I wore panties to work - plain back ones, admittedly.
did anyone notice? I doubt it.
luv J

I've been wearing panties every day for over 20 years. I have one pair of women"s boy shorts for doctor visits.

Early in my years of wearing panties, the waistband of a bright yellow bikinis showed at a family gathering. I was on the floor with my then toddler grandson and could tell my untucked tshirt was up. I reached back to pull it down and felt the obvious trim of my panties an inch or so above my shorts. Several people were behind me and could not have missed it. I never looked back to see reactions and don?t know exactly who was there, but sombody(s) got a glimpse.

My wife says she thinks her mom and sister saw my panties I was wereing under my male clothes on visit to her mom's house. I bent over to pick something up and put it on the table. Her mom then asked me to pick something else up with my wife's sister next to here. My wife told me later she could see the top of my panties and that is why her mom asked me to pick it up the second object to confirm what she thought she saw. I asked my wife if her mom said something, she said no but could tell what they were doing from the other side of the room. With that said I have caught my self by wearing lacy panties and then bend over infront of a mirror and seen the outline after I have came back for somewhere