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Would she probably understand and get use to the idea pretty quickly ?
My SO wears manly PJS because she says they are way more comfortable.
So I doubt any woman could argue that a pretty Olga or Shadowline Nightie is not super comfy to wear and that since she wears manly pjs I should be able ro wear somewhat feminine pjs.

Has anyone tried this argument, if so what was the reaction ?

Also how long do you think it would take before she even stopped noticing you floating around in the Nightie ?

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I don't know, Robbiegirl, but I am very tempted to find out.

This past week I had to travel for business and had to dress "business casual," which meant dress shirt and slacks (and of course panties and a low-key cami underneath). Because it was my first overnight travel in over two years, I celebrated by buying a new nightie for the trip. I must say that wearing my new nightie while ironing my drab business clothes in the hotel room was a totally new experience; so was shaving while wearing the nightie.

I am out to my bride of 31-years since February. Much - but not all - of the conversation focused on the comfort and colors of lingerie being more to my liking than traditional men's' clothing. While she seemed open - we are still establishing our own comfort zones with my dressing; so far panties are OK 24/7, as are casual tops and camis as long as they "could" be also viewed as passing for drab. Other lingerie was mentioned, but not specifically addressed. Beyond that, it is unexplored territory, with a general "DA" of "don't advertise" outside home. Because I shop for panties at Lane Bryant for the two of us now and I have often bought her lingerie over the last 30+ years, she knows that I know my way around the ladies' department and that I will shop in public. I shop in male mode.

Just before bedtime on the day I returned home, my wife showed me a new long top that she said she might actually wear as a nightie. She did leave it on the hanger for that night. What wanted to say was, "What a coincidence, I just bought a new nightie for the trip; want to compare?" But, I was unsure what her reaction would be and mine was still in the dirty clothes bag and did not look it's best, so I kept quiet. I do wonder if I should wait until she wears her new nightie, compliment her nicely, and then test the waters. Any thoughts from the group? Too much too fast?

Actually, my very first CD experience was jokingly putting on a gown not unlike #2 to amuse my then girlfriend - later my wife. She thought it funny at the time, and asked if I liked it. I said no - but I lied.My wife knows I find it too much fun and arousing to dress like this, so I know she wouldn't believe me now if I said I just wanted to be comfy. She would probably be amused at first, but enough would be enough in a short time.

My SO has been pretty accepting. In the beginning she said no wig or makeup, but then said it?s fine. I think she knows I have an addictive personality, so she helps me reign it in. On the nightgown, I?m sure she?d be fine with it except that I?ve only worn pjs a few times to bed and a nightgown would be too much. I?m panties only.

We had the gender discussion before we got married but it was still a surprise to her when I started wearing XS VS PJs. The satin red PJs were quite feminine!
We talked about it and set down ground rules. She was OK with growing my hair out and wearing panties. We had to talk again if I wanted HRT.

Marion

I?ve been lucky enough to wear my gf?s babydoll nightie here and there. She suggested it. It?s a lovely feeling. I like the one of the left. I prefer the longer length as otherwise I find it rides up too much at night.

In my case I have a boyfriend, I wear beautiful/romantic lingerie to bed most nights (satin pjs otherwise) and he loves it, so no issues here. :)

She wouldn't believe me. She knows I can't sleep in shirts and don't wear PJ's, so she'd know it was just because I wanted to wear the nightie.

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She wouldn't believe me. She knows I can't sleep in shirts and don't wear PJ's, so she'd know it was just because I wanted to wear the nightie.

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same, i could have written that ^^

There was no argument.
Actually she suggested I might like wearing a nightgown years ago and she was absolutely correct. I've had Olga's and others and love them. I prefer them in the cooler months and a chemise or baby doll in the warmer months.
I'm so glad she made the suggestion.

I?ve been able to wear bra and panties and forms to bed the last year or so?. But mostly under a Victoria?s Secret night shirt or similar with an occasional maxi type nightgown in modal fabric? my wife has definitely felt my bra straps and clasp and the other night snuggled for a bit with her head touching my form on my left side?. Nothing ever is said. and I always sneak to bed before or after her so she doesn?t see me (more out of my own shame probably but I tell myself that I?m ?sparing her? the sight). Haven?t tried anything too satiny yet but I will :)

She would buy me the nightgown.

Same here... buys me gowns, panties, clothes...

She has bought me nightgown - even one or two sexy ones (not instant acceptance but we talk and learn from each other)

I always wear a nightdress, and interestingly enough it was at my wifes suggestion. After I had had an operation, I was finding my male pjs a little bit uncomfy, she suggested a nightie, and thats all I have worn since. Even took a plain coloured one when I had another short stay in hospital for further surgery.
Before the store closed down, we both used to buy identical nighties from BHS, but were careful not to wear the same colours at the same time. Now I tend to buy from Marks and Spencer, and prefer the ,longer styles.

Kayegirl,

Who doesn't like a nightdress or nightie..way to go girl.

Also congrads on your 1,000th, its a milestone.

Davina

Pretty sure that her response would be that me not living here any more would make her sleep better!

Well - since we sleep in the same bed, she knows what I'm wearing to bed.:heehee:

I've tried PJ's before. For some reason, they really bug me and I can't sleep. So - it's either nighties, or I'll have to sleep in just panties.

BUT - I don't think that arguing "you wear PJ's, so I should be able to wear nighties" will get you anywhere. In fact it's likely to just get her angry.

My wife is accepting and has bought me nightgowns. We have matching nightgowns. And most nights I lounge around in a pair of L'eggs Sheer Energy STW pantyhose, nightgown and ballet flats. Yes, I am very lucky as my wife understands I am wired a little different

As I have related many times my wife and I are in a deep "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" since the mid 1980's. Before that, we had incorporated nighties with hosiery and garter belt into the bedroom scene; a little kink with mutual benefits. It wasn't until our three year old daughter yanked a bra out of the bottom draw of my armoire that "The Talk" ensued. In her mind it went from a little sexual kink to emulating a woman; "If I wanted to be married to a woman, I would have married a woman!"

For medical reasons my wife and I sleep apart. That allows me to sleep every night in a nightgown or, like last night, in a bra, panty and full slip. If I were in your heels, I would approach the issue by snuggling up to her in bed when she is wearing a slinky soft nylon gown (my preference) and telling her how you like the feel of the material. Maybe, she would suggest that you buy one or you and her could buy one when shopping together. My wife and I did that before "The Talk" issues arose.

My only outlet is to wear a nightgown or slip to bed. I have 36 nightgowns. (Yes, I know I have gone into retail therapy.) If I was you, I'd try to break the ice by staying away from an overly feminine nightie. My wife offered me, when she was disposing of nighties that no longer fit, her white peignoir that I had bought her when we were first married. I also have a similar pink peignoir we bought together for me. I have a nice selection of Shadowline nylon nightgowns that I love for their softness. They are not overly feminine; my opinion, not my wife's if she were to see them.

Maybe, she would take the hint and enter a discussion of the type of nightgown to buy. Don't try to become overly feminine at the risk of her losing her scruffy man in her bed.

When the weather was colder I simply bought a couple of satin nightshirts and began to wear them to bed. Nothing was ever said. In the warmer weather we both tend to shun clothing in bed.

No, she wouldn’t buy it. She knows it might make me more comfortable going to sleep, but not actually sleeping.

I have slept in my birthday suit for decades now. I find it the most comfortable. Not that a long, silky nightgown wouldn’t be fun or feel sexy, just that I would get potentially tangled up in it or extra heated. With that said, I have slept in a long nightgown before when she was out of town, but all in all I still prefer my birthday suit.

She never sleeps in lingerie or silky gowns, so no “matching” opportunities there, either. Even if she wears a silky item to bed temporarily, she always changes to softer more drab sleepwear before falling asleep.

She'd know I was lying!:straightface:

Because I get tangled up in them and they ruin my sleep!:doh:

This is exactly the way i tried to start. At first she was passive about it, but after seeing me in it multiple times, things turned south very quickly. We're rebounding currently but rebounding does not include time for Brit.

Before I stated wearing lingerie, I slept naked. Once I started wearing panties, I wore them to bed. The first time she caught me in bed with a nightie and stockings, she made it known she didn't want me wearing them to bed again. Things evolved, things changed, we talked, and I've been wearing panties, nighties, bras, and forms to bed every night since the first of the year.

Would she buy it if I told her I sleep better in lingerie? No! I've always been an extremely deep sleeper. My BIL says I could sleep on a picket fence. The fact of the matter is, I sleep poorer in lingerie lately. However, I attribute that not to the lingerie but rather to the death of a wife of a good friend and the likely death of my wife's best friend who seems to be losing her battle with cancer.

I think that my wife might possibly let me sleep in the garage, only because we don't have a dog house.

It's more likely that she would let me sleep in the street.

Robbie, I suppose that you would not like to be BS'd and manipulated yourself? So, why do it to your beloved wife?
You could tell her that you'd like to sleep in nighties, and answer her questions honestly. I know it isn't easy. But it may be more than all the imaginative shenanigans you otherwise invent to try to reach your goal.

I already wear a nightgown many nights so there is no issue. She fully accepts it.

Actually that is exactly what I told my SO. She actually helped me pick out my first nighty. Then I bought a long night gown and it feels wonderful. She's fine with it now, she pretty good about everything she just doesn't like seeing me in makeup. I can wear my dresses, panties, bra, jewelry and even curl my hair just no makeup while she's around.

I have worn panties for years now, as I had been told to wear support hose for poor leg circulation long time ago, and soon after moved to panties which were much more comfortable under the control tops due to the lack of extra material in the fly area. About 10 yrs ago my GP advised me to "take care of my expanding breast" so I started to wear bras as well, all with my wife's blessings. More recently, about 5 yrs ago I started to wear camies to bed for sleeping in, as they were sleeveless and more comfortable than the tee shirts I had typically worn and usually pitted out overnight. I found these at the Cathrine's stores which are not closed but available for online ordering, and have at least 4 of these now, as they wear forever it seems, and are really comfortable (most of my panties are from there as well). Not sure wife would accept the next step of going to a longer length sleep gown, but maybe when it turns cold again, I might suggest it??

I have zero chance of something like that argument being successful. Zero.

Sandi

I have an absolutely gorgeous long silky long slip I wear to sleep I don't have to say anything. This is pure pleasure

My wife bought my last two nighties. I wear one to bed almost always. Oh and they do help me sleep.

Up front I can appreciate your male crossdresser logic: quid pro quo, right?

Oddly enough I often felt that when we're asleep what difference would it make to my Missus should I doff the boxers and partake in more satiny panties and pj set. Apparently it makes a lot of difference for her so I don't do it, not even panties under male boxers.

My wife lets me do quite a few things re: dressing so it is appropriate to respect her wishes on sleep attire. The key word in your proposal is: argument. This one I willingly choose to avoid :straightface:

This was initially how my wife started me on the road to almost full time dressing by asking me to wear pantyhose/nylons to bed to keep her warm this then progressed to nighties to which I now have at least 20 some of which are matching with hers and am required to wear them every night I must admit that on the extremely rare occasion I am not fully dressed for bed I now do not sleep as well so there is definitely some truth in it I guess it is what you get used to.

My wife has know about my crossdressing from early on in our relationship. It was new to her in the beginning but she has been very accepting. A few years back I switched to VS pink silk pajamas in the winter, long sleeves and long pants and stopped in the summers. Just last year I switched to a short nightie in the summer and now I sleep in a nightgown every night.

Side note: I?m going on a guys trip this weekend and I won?t be sleeping in women?s wear for the first time in at least six months.

I'm still laughing Steffi - Hey... I have carpentry skills and would build a free doghouse for a wanton sister.