Bossy wife

My wife is more comfortable about me dressing than I am. She always questions why I am putting guy clothes on when I could be wearing my favourite items.
Example, we are on holiday and have a semi private balcony and pool outside our room,
I am outside sunbathing in just a pair of panties.
I come inside and put my guy swim shorts on and she looks at me over her glasses and asks what am I doing. The pool cleaner is outside. So what, he will not care she shrugs.
He probably will not but I am not ready for that yet.
If I was fully dressed with wig and lipstick then maybe but not as a guy in panties.
She raised her eyebrows and looked at me disappointedly.
There was me worried she would react this way because of me dressing not by choosing not to dress.
What a problem to have.
She is the best.

Who else has an over supportive wife or partner?

OMG Verona sounds like your wife and mine were separated at birth.

Good luck where this might lead you

Amy x

Thank Amy,
I am the one who is uncomfortable when getting dressed in front of my wife.
She loves the new me and us.
She prefers being around Verona or V as she calls me.

It is a nice feeling being supported and encouraged. It feels like I have fallen in love all over again.

My wife gets disappointed if I don't come down dressed as Tanya or if I do she will sent me back to put make up on

Perhaps your wife prefers that she be the dominant one and you be submissive to her?

It is very helpful to know what your wife prefers in relationships.

My wife preferred that I be dominant. She liked the way that I made decisions.
I'd order meals for her in restaurants when she was in the little ladies room.
She wanted me to do that. I'm sure I always got it right.

But, it was important that I listen to her and get her input before making decisions that involved her.
Crossdressing in public obviously applies!

She appreciated that I didn't waste any time wearing VS PJs to bed, and we quickly set ground rules.

It is quite possible for submissive to be the one in control.

Marion

Verona, my wife is not bossy, but is accepting. I find that I stop myself from dressing while she encourages me to dress.

Verona, your are one of the lucky ones thats for sure.

I would not call her over supportive. You are fortunate to have a wife who accepts this part of you, perhaps even more than you do.

You have a great wife Verona

WOW V, you are one lucky girl most of us can only fantasize about your situation.

Thank you ladies.
I feel so grateful not just from the support of my amazing wife but from the love and kind words from all of you. X
Hugs V
Xxx

For me that would be a lot of pressure to perform. I am a rebel and always has. If my wife insisted that i dress every day I would stop dressing. Maybe......

I'm so fortunate, my wife and I have always from the beginning operated on a 50/50 basis. We discuss everything, and if there is a split vote, she defers to me. Yet, I rarely use the deferral to my advantage, but rather re-address the situation a couple of days later. It is possible to have a win-win situation. Yes, even in CD'ing. Give in one area to get in another area.

Verona, you are one of the lucky ones! My wife is very supportive as well and will from time to time tell me to go change into Kitty. We have been married for 32 years and seem to usually agree on most things. CD'ing is the one thing she is more comfortable than I am and it helps me accept this part of me.

Supportive, helpful wives are fantastic and I?m so fortunate to have one. She, too, suggests I wear things or more. Helps with makeup. So appreciated. A keeper.

I am certainly glad for y'all, but I have to be honest and say I feel a little down after reading about all these supportive wifes. It must be just fantastic.

Suzie

A good relationship is hard work.
We used to shop for "stuff" for each other until we realized that wasn't worth all the effort put into doing that. So we stopped doing that.
We had a fight and she made me buy something. Then she realized what she had done.

We went together on outings nearly every week for many years, until her health no along allowed her to travel.
Trips did get shorter and shorter. We found places to visit in-state.
Actually, I had my own health issues so we started with short trips. And made longer ones as my health improved.

Marion

I must add my story to this discusssion because I too have a wife that is totally accepting and supportive of me dressing en femme and presenting myself as a woman in public.

We enjoy frequent outings for grocery shopping, running errands, dinning in our favorite restaurants, or other such things. We are so comfortable in public that we often take an entire vacation or holiday period as "girlfriends".

My wife is not bossy, but she enjoys out time when we are pretending to be "girlfriends."

Bottom line: We just have fun. Can't get much better than that.

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For me that would be a lot of pressure to perform. I am a rebel and always has. If my wife insisted that i dress every day I would stop dressing. Maybe......

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I agree with the maybe part, but there are times when I wonder if there's more rebel inside or more of our favorite "Amy". Since my wife is not and will never be Amy's wife, it's not something that I need to worry about.

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What a problem to have.

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Love that! Thanks for sharing Verona!

Isa

That is true to some situations, when we are in stores and if she sees a nice pair of fem shoes in size 10 I will tell her not to bother not to get embarrassed. She doesn't care what other people think and believes we shouldn't loss out on our dreams to make others happy. On most occasions I'm more shy and reserved then her and in your situation I would have probably had come in to. Mostly not to make an uncomfortable situation for you and the pool guy.

While my wife is not pushy she has always preferred my girl side.

I'm not envious of your supporting spouses! You're envious!

ok, now seriously. I'd love to have someone IRL to talk with about it and go through all the stuff of CD-ing. I mean two female colleagues of His are attending in next two months 3 weddings and they talk a lot about dress and shoes and handbags and I would love to join these talks so badly, but I can't :(

Also He doesn't have anyone in His life He would want to talk about me yet alone to show me. The worst thing is His two best friends are great girls, who might be accepting me. The caveat is, that one of them is His ex. They broke up and even when it hurt they stayed on good terms and are great friends. And the other girl is their common friend from different stages of life.

Susie - just an fyi you?re not alone in ?feeling down? regarding these amazing SO situations. However as I?m sure you agree at the same time sincerely happy for those that have those relationships! We will enjoy vicariously!

We should be thankful of our supportive wives, even the bossy ones, or specially of the bossy ones.
I guess some of us, even with supportive SOs, have some guilt or shame associated with dressing and having incentives from someone we love makes a lot easier.

Mine is constantly in a pink fog! :)

Sounds like a great situation! I'm still navigating things with my wife, I'd love for her to love my dressing.

What a lovely problem. My wife is so accepting and thinks I should wear my black leggings out more. Yet I am just not hat ready to mix guy/girl mode as of yet. It's either all or something underneath.

It has been a couple of weeks since I last dressed fully, still underdress daily with panties and occasionally tights. Bought lots of new outfits and extras including padded underwear to give me more lift and shape, a corset and new wigs. I can not wait to have a full day of dressing.
My wife and I are also going to a meet at a hotel next month with other cross dressers. This will be my first time outside to meet others. I?m so nervous and need to perfect my look. My wife is more excited about the event than I am. I want to do it but terrified at the same time. X

That is such a great situation to have. Having a partner who accepts or tolerates is maybe more than a lot of people get. But having one who is fully supportive and encouraging is getting even further. Obviously some of us have that but to hear another who has that type of relationship is very nice to see.

My partner is fully supportive and encouraging as well. She is always willing to let Natalie come out and she has been exceptionally instrumental in every outing by simply suggesting it be a "Natalie" weekend. And even when I don't think I look great, she is always complimentary and has often helped with makeup as necessary. She is far more patient than I likely deserve.

Interestingly, part of the reason I still have long hair is because of her. And, while we haven't discussed it much, I have a feeling part of it is because of Natalie. She has basically refused to allow me to cut my hair short! Not that I really want to (I started growing it long because guy me likes it and it was long when we met) but it is still wonderful to have.

Last night, I was wearing leggings and a top... I started to change to take the dog out and my wife said, "stop! Don't worry about it... Seriously! Just do it.". I did and the world continued to spin! I'm so lucky!

I recently started a new relationship. My new partner has been strongly encouraging me to "be my Authentic self'. It's to the point where I am starting to realize my own anxiety and internalized transphobia is my only real limitation.

I can only wish my wife were supportive. She's accepting and never complains about my dressing. As mentioned before, the only real ground rule is no friends or relatives discover Heather. I'm fine with that.

Natalie, I would love to grow my hair long, that would be amazing to not have to wear wigs. But I do love my guy self too and love my short hair. I think I will ask my wife what she thinks, I know she lis only attracted to me as a guy, not as a girl.

Verona, I think that is a big thing with the idea of growing long hair: you have to want it in both guy and girl mode (for those of us who swap between the two anyway). I don't think it is a great idea to try to grow your hair long if you don't want it in guy mode as well. I will admit that part of the reason I have it long, beyond my partner not wanting me to cut it, is because of Natalie as I have thought about it being a little too long for day to day life. So I can understand not wanting to have to deal with it all the time.