Educate me

Is being a SISSY or SUB a bad thing when you are so wanting and willing to do that?

Why would it be a bad thing. If you enjoy it and your not hurting anyone then nobody should care but you.

My submissive side definitely comes out more when I'm dressed.

I feel this the same way. When in female mode I become submissive and desire to play a female role. However, it seems to be like the old paradox: what was the first chicken or egg?

If it's what you want and you share it with willing partners why would it be bad?
Everyone has things they like or like to do. I'm sure many of us enjoy things that someone would consider bad, but if it hurts no one then what the heck.

That’s your personal choice.

Yes! It is! U r a very bad girl, Stacy, and must be punished!:sad:

Now, bend over and take your spanking like a lady!:o

I think this falls into the category of consenting adults. What like-minded people do together is their own business.

A fully consenting adult can do what they want with their own person/lifestyle. The question that always concerns me is how much consent someone with a submissive personality has freely given to a dominant partner and how capable they are of rescinding consent if they desire to do so. People stay with abusers all the time fully knowing the are being abused.

Hi Stacy I hope it's not a bad thing otherwise my wifes idea of a perfect marriage is sending me straight to hell.

Amy x

Being a sissy is a wonderful thing. It is bad if you are a sissy and you suppress her.

Not bad at all, so long as you don't apply those labels to others indiscriminately. For example, I never consider myself sissy even when I dress, as I'm still a man ready to do man things while wearing cute clothes. As to being sub (or dom) I can enjoy either but those involve bedroom activities.

Oh, and what Doc said! :laughing:

I?m not particularly fond of the term or larger subculture of ?sissies?, but to each their own.

It really is to each their own with this and many other things within our community

Stacy, If that is what floats your boat, go for it.

as long as you don't associate 'sissy' with femininity

The general agreement seems to be that if you enjoy it, and as a consenting adult, there's no problem. I would pay attention to my conscience, though. Feelings of regret/remorse afterward would at least be a signal for a serious self-examination and deciding where you want these feelings to go. It may be just good fun, or it could be something to avoid in the future.

As someone who is sexually active with a great boyfriend I don't consider it a bad thing at all. ;)

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Originally Posted by audreyinalbany

as long as you don't associate 'sissy' with femininity

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Ditto. Nothing against submissiveness, but in the context of dressing as a female, associating the two reveals problematic conceptions about the role of women in society. I'm not judging, just acknowledging that fact (my dressing too is largely based on gender stereotypes I grew up with).

Not bad at all. I started as trying the sissy or sub type rolls. As I have grown and learned along my journey with experiences my desired role while dressing has changed. Try. Like it? Do it. Don't? Try something else. Today I am of a dominate roll while dressing. It's truer to my authentic self because to me it feels right, natural, comfortable. Back in the day I would do or try anything to dress. I had lot's of fun and found my way through it all.

Hi Stacy, not so sure about being a sub as I don't think I'd like to be submissive, but Sissies appear to "undress" in the most beautiful, colourful, delicate and frilly underwear.
How can that be bad, it looks like so much fun! :battingeyelashes:

If it's a bad thing, then my desires, although unfulfilled, will get me in trouble. If my wife were to ever get on board with my cross dressing to the point of being supportive, then I'd ask her to let me be her sissy and sub. But, that is pure fantasy in my life. Heck, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be either a submissive or a sissy. If you and your partner enjoy those roles, go for it.

For the most part, if you're not harming anyone, there's nothing wrong with doing something you like.

Ngl?this site has done a 180 in acceptance or a least tolerance of the term ?sissy?

Stacy,

I have fought long and hard about my submissive sissy feelings. A few years ago I decided to simply accept that's what I love about my feminine side. Not all feminine people are submissive, both GGs and anyone on the feminine spectrum. That's OK. To quote a very old and over used term:

I'm ok, you're ok.

We do what we need to do to satisfy our urges and desires. Of course, only when it does not harm or involve those who don't want to be involved. I have found there are MANY who are like minded. Just like you and I.

JenniCD456

Geena said it as would I. The pink fog can be controlling.

Sissy and Sub each have their own range of definitions and some of those definitions are things I don't personally find appealing. But, the biggest obstacle is not deciding "Who do I want to be?" as much as "How do I find someone who finds me to be appealing or desirable?" There are people out there who would find either to be attractive mating choices, but the pickings are slim.

My personal opinion is that many of us who let our SO's give us our boundaries are by definition "submissive" or "Sub". The boundaries are not always clearly spoken, but the underlying message is often clear when any affirmation or intimacy is withheld. I feel much less submissive when I choose what I want rather than what she would "allow".

I really enjoy dressing as a sissy in a big puffy pink dress with all the frills and make up I fell comfortable that way but I have never been submissive to anyone as I am somewhat a manly man that loves pink beautiful dresses I don?t judge anyone as I don?t want to be judged so if you are comfortable being a sissy then sissify yourself and if you like to be dominated then embrace the submissiveness and enjoy being yourself

I think it's an expression of "Humiliation" Masochism. HEY, nothing wrong with that. Being subjugated and humiliated is a well known "Turn on" for MANY people. In this case we are using exaggerated female clothing. Other forms may involve bondage, whips or "Pony Training", etc. I find it slightly erotic enough myself to understand, but not really be into it. As I have mentioned before, there are several different factors that drive Crossdressing in different people. In my case, I am an "Escapist" taking a "vacation " away from myself. finding both relaxation and a quasi-erotic "High" from breaking the "connection".

Sissy and Sub are just another two labels that people use.

Why do I say that, well as an example, I can remember when the word gay just meant happy.

If consenting adults choose to use them and they both agree on what exactly those terms mean.

Enjoy and be happy.

Hi Staci :hugs:, If you want to call me a sissy when I am dressed , That is OK with Me.

No problem here as long as your self-esteem is not in harms way

I would agree with most that the sissy or sub side of things are not inherently bad. I have a sissy side sometimes which my partner participates in. I will say that Natalie is not a sissy though. I even refuse to use that name when in that head space. They are different sides and when I am Natalie I want to present as a woman. An equal to my partner, not submissive. But if your primary motivation is sissy in nature, I don't think that is wrong.

But, I do feel like that sort of thing is more sexual in nature which means one must be careful as to who they engage with. Basically, don't force it on unsuspecting people. That is the line I draw anyway. Crossdressing or exploring gender identity is not something I feel I am forcing on anyone. It is just me trying to be me in a normal way, just dressed differently. Sissy or sub space is something different enough that you shouldn't expose it to just anyone.

No not at all, remember where you are. This is a great group of people here, you included.

I've been walkabout again, but back.
I'm thinking that it's the full and complete acceptance for ME.
I haven't seen any other way to work this!
So, FROCKED UP it seems to be.
And NO I won't suppress HER as she is me.