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Would you say goodbye to this forum?
We've had so many members who have been long time posters that then transition and disappear, with some going as far as to state that they are leaving the site and crossdressing behind as they are starting a new life.
Others will stay, believing that they have value to add even though they have transitioned as their previous life DID exist, and their achievements and failings DID exist, so the lessons learned can still be shared.
Would you stay or go?
If I transitioned, I would probably stay because of all the supper I get from this community.
Fully being a trans woman means you are no longer a CDer but living as your true self. But I still think I would stay.
Good Question, Charlotte
I think I would stay. Others may learn something from my experiences.
I think I would stay, but once I'd transition I'd make it loud and clear that I'm not a CD anymore, because (and I gave it a big thought) I would go the whole nine yards including bottom surgery.
But I like this community and you've helped me in my dark times, so I wouldn't see any reason to leave.
I have been here so long that I cannot imagine leaving. Its part of my daily routine.
I did leave once. I think the period of denial lasted something like 18 months in the period following separation and divorce from my second wife. Then I realized I was only punishing myself by abstinence.
I would stay, the first thing I look at every morning is this site :)
Absolutely stay - why leave your friends?
I think I would stay. I'm a creature of habit. And this place is fun for me.
The fact that I'm responding to this pretty much answers the question considering that I transitioned over 5 years ago. Granted I don't respond much but then I never did unless I thought what I had to say had some useful meaning.
I would stay. I do not intend to transition, I am very much a CD'r. I find it interesting to hear that I am not the only one who checks in here first thing in the morning. I found myself in withdrawals while on vacation recently and not being able to keep up with the forum. I get so much support from all of you, I could not just go away. Hugs, Meg
I guess people in my circumstance might have considered being transitioned. I have been on estrogen for over 13 years, and acquired a feminine appearance, and I dress and groom myself like a woman (I do shave my face!). And yet I still consider myself as a man as I have a masculine bass (not baritone) voice. And as you can all see, I still post in this forum.
John
I?d stay too. Visiting here is part of my daily routine. I?ve learned things and have, hopefully contributed thoughts, ideas, etc.
I love this group, I can't image not visiting.
Hi Charlotte :hugs:, I feel like these Ladies are my friends,
I am coming up on 18 Years here,
Also there a lot of Great GG's here,
>>>>>>>>>>>>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**
I would absolutely stay, I love it here too much.
Never, but am I prepared for all the pain ?, no, would be amazing to just wake up transitioned, but fair play to those who have gone through with it, I would in a heartbeat, but its long road to go down. and yes I do know, I have a close friend that went down that road.
Its like Hotel California for me. Once you check in you never leave.
I would always stay connected.
I can understand why people would leave, "I'm not a CDer any more" would be a clear thought.
And as Marketa said, if I was doing it I'd want to go all the way, so I'd consider myself a true woman.
That said, I think I'd feel like I owed it to others who might be starting down the same path as me to still be around for support and advice.
So I think I'd stay, though maybe wouldn't be quite so frequent a visitor.
I would absolutely still be coming here every day, This site has been a huge part of my daily routine for 20 years
i can't see that changing in my lifetime.
But this will never be an issue for me, I have no desire to transition, I am happy with who I am.
I check in every day.
I am still here. I still enjoy the content but just have to keep in mind I no longer am a CD'er.
I'm transiting now I plan on staying to talk about the ups and downs of transiting.
Who can say how they will feel in the future. We can only be who we are. I can't ever see me transitioning now, I have so much as I am. To think I was desperate to transition as a teen and twenty something. If I ever did I like to think I would remain here. But that, as Mary Poppins would say, is a pie crust promise. Easily made and easily broken.
I am still here! I have transitioned without surgery and live as a woman daily! Here for birthday wishes and to give tips and advise as able! Love you every one! Big hugs Lana Mae
I agree with you Jane G, it's impossible to know for sure, as transitioning would obviously change my perspective and outlook on life. Similar to you, I would have loved to transition in my youth, but, not so much now, so I'll never know for sure!
If I were to transition, I would still come to this site. However, I have no plans to transition.
I think someone who is truly dysphoric might because they want to forget that awful part of their life. Just like they never want their old name to be used. Feeling a bit more adjusted myself, if I did transition, it would be because I want to. I would not have such issues about my past. I think that's why we might choose a similar name to our other name.Whereas I doubt someone truly dysphoric would want something even remotely similar sounding.
I still look at this site most days, but of course there are a lot of threads that don't really apply to my life any more.
And every once in a while there might be a thread talking about things in such a way that might prompt someone a little less forgiving to abandon this place, but you can find that in any community I suppose.
For example, you can see the term 'transsexual' here more than almost anywhere else these days, including in the title of the section that's supposed to be for us.