Traditional female roles

Not being misogynistic here, but at least here in the USA the push is still alive and well as to traditional female roles. Being women do the cooking and cleaning men are the bread winners. Right, wrong, whatever, it?s still very much what is. The question I have do find yourself a crossdresser falling into the more feminine roles. Consciously or unconsciously? Myself now a caregiver a lot of stuff the wife used to do now falls to me. Not long in the past I found myself taking on things around the house and shopping that I would have passed on. Looking for makeup for wife. Watching the mostly female dominated cooking shows on PBS to learn more about cooking different things. You get the point. That brings us to Thanksgiving, I hate cooking the turkey, but I really enjoy doing the meal for others and entertaining the guests. Of course with all the feminine touches. How about you?
Hugs Rochal

I did a lot of caregiving for my wife before retirement but after retiring seven years ago, I became pretty much a full time caregiver. Certain parts are not bad but I suck at much of it. I've done 100% of the grocery shopping for decades. I do 90% of the cooking but it's definitely not gourmet. More short order. Not that great at cleaning either but manage. She kept a very nice house when she was able.

I don't think the role is so feminine for me. I dress femme at home daily and don't do special for the chores.

I was also a carer for my late wife, and later when living alone for a period, I had to do all of the household chores. Now with my second lovely wife, we split the duties between us. She tends to do most of the cooking whilst I do the cleaning, amongst other kobs. One task that I find strangely theraputic is the ironing of fresh laundry.

We were both full time breadwinners. Therefore, we both had to split the chores. There was no male or female role.

Being poor and living on my own for most of my life, I had to know how to do everything. If I didn't cook I'd starve. If I didn't know how to fix a roof I'd have leaks everywhere. If I couldn't fix a home heater I'd freeze to death. Some clothes were too expensive for me so I learned to sew and made my own. I learned how to garden/small farming for food. I'm now learning what wild plants I could use from the woods in case the world goes belly-up. Had to do unspeakable things for money. Being alone makes one forget the feminine/masculine ways of life. One has to find a way.

In my life there is no such thing as feminine and masculine chores. I had to learn to do everything I needed in life or I wouldn't survive.

Ever since my wife asked me to quit work and be her full time wife I do everything around the house. Before that I always did about 90 percent.

Chrissy, sounds like you and your wife have the perfect arrangement I would absolutely love being my wifes full time wife.

This strikes a chord with me. I find the push over the last few decades by feminists to push for men to partake in household duties more is one sided. No matter how I dressed, I cook, clean, shop for groceries, etc. However when the tables are turned and there?s maintenance to be done, the better half is no where to be found. It?s a very lopsided standard in my world. Something as simple as cleaning the car interior. If I didn?t do it, my wife?s car would be a rolling pig stye. She has never cleaned it. And who always cleans the nasty parts of the bathroom. Anything below counter level.

Now if I could dress and cook, clean, etc, I would feel much better about it. Vent over.

I do the vast majority of cooking, food shopping, cleaning, and all car/home maintenance. My wife does the laundry - apparently I don?t do it correctly - but I do the ironing. I pay some bills but she has taken over most financial management.
We started off together with a more even split of everything but slowly evolved to where it is now. Not sure exactly how that happened. She became more successful career wise, so I did have to take on responsibility for everything including taking care of the kids as she traveled a lot, so maybe that?s where it started. Anyway I?ve been happy assuming more of the traditional female roles.
As far as Thanksgiving it?s kind of funny because for a couple times a year, like for Holiday parties, she cooks the entire meal, so everyone assumes she cooks all the time.

Cooking, cleaning, laundry,sewing, shopping, childcare, decorating, entertaining, adult care giving, I have done them all. In pants or in a dress. Stereotypes are just that. Stereotypes.

Men or women should be able to do what they need to do or want to do, wear what they need to wear or want to wear, within the bounds of justice and morality, tradition be damned.

I have always been able to complete shared responsibilities but I like to do the laundry, clean the house, and cook both inside and grill outside for most of our meals. Dear wife is the one responsible for bills and financial stuff. I am also in charge of outside lawn care and repairs. We both share our duties as grandparents with our 5 month old grand daughter. We have her three to four times a week. Feels natural to us.

No. I live alone now. So, I cook, but nothing that takes over 15 minutes. My cleaning is so bad I can never find anything and my daughters and granddaughters won't even enter my house anymore because of the dust and spiders!:doh:

I'm SO JEALOUS of those of u that put on a maid's outfit and want to clean house!:eek:

Before retirement I never did the household chores. I just worked too much and my wife handled all those thing while I maintained the outside of the house/property.
Now that we have retired and I dress nearly daily I do so much more about the house. Laundry, cleaning, cooking and now for the holidays, helping her decorate. I enjoy all these things as much as anything else and I feel I've arrived where I always wanted to be. I've become the "average woman". No longer just the show piece, the model or the fashionista. I'm now just like most other women and I love it.

My wife and I have shared work equally from the start, be it housekeeping cooking or repairs, even the autos. It was just who had the most time or got to it first. We raised our kids to be the same way.

I don't think my dressing has any bearing on my role in the couple, but the question is actually complex, it's an egg and chicken riddle. If I exhibit traits that are traditionally associated with female roles in our society, is it because I crossdress, or do I crossdress because I had these traits in the first place? Or are all of these things stemming from an inner self that resonates more with traditional female gender roles? Or is this all nonsense and we are simply complex beings that pick and chose based on so many variables that it's futile to try explaining it...

95% of the female role is covered by yours truly. After more than a quarter century the genetic she in the relationship has figured out..well that she is the messy one.

As my dear wife becomes more and more disabled, I've become the husband, wife, nurse, housekeeper, laundry service, cook, etc.
Lawn care and auto maintenance we pay for, but if it's inside the house, I'm it.

There does seem to be a common thread here in the chores we do.
I always have enjoyed grocery shopping. I always used the same store and knew where to put my hands on everything that I used in the kitchen. I often knew when things were a good buy or not.
My wife would just go around and grab off the shelf never looking at the unit price.
I was more frugal.
She never really liked to cook so it was good that I took an interest. When cleaning became too much for her I took that on as well.
You never know what you will miss until she has gone.
I still look after myself and the house but spotless cleaning is not a necessity unless I have visitors, then I am like a whirlwind with cleaning and polishing. That is the only time I am really motivated.

In our home, my wife does the traditional female chores such as cooking, laundry, and cleaning. That said, I have done those chores and have nom issue pitching in from time to time. I do the traditional male chores such as car maintenance, lawn maintenance, and interior maintenance and repairs. She doesn't ever do those things. We both have a background in banking and accounting. I spent about 12 years doing those things before I got into sales. She spent her entire working life doing that type of work. Because she spent so much time on computers as a school district bookkeeper, she wants nothing to do with maintaining our budget, recording checks, etc., so I keep track of our finances on computer spread sheets. On those times I vacuum the house, I generally enjoy doing it wearing a dress, and all that goes with it. I can cook. but rarely do. I've also told my wife on many occasions that should she not want to cook, dinner out is a fine option. We do dine out every Friday evening.

I'm the alpha male in the house, and do whatever's needed, however I'm dressed. The other day I was working on the truck in leggings, would have been a skirt but my brother-in-law's visiting. I'm the breadwinner, the fixer, the lumberjack, the primary driver, the pilot, and usually the cook and dishwasher. I can run a vacuum cleaner or washing machine in pants or a skirt with or without fishnet stockings. Clothes can't change who and what I am.

I never did any traditional female type chores. However, my wife has been sick for about six months and all those chores now fall to me. I cannot say that I enjoy them.

It?s a good thing that although outwardly and to everyone I am very male, I?m not the traditionalist wanting a tradwife which many in our church expect. My wife is in her chosen career, very well educated and paid accordingly which until recent years was a significant amount more. I only completed high school so have just worked to pay the bills. Some recent promotions for me as our kids are now older with less care needed I have reduced the gap, but she is still much higher.
She does do the traditional inside chores while I do outside, her cooking is very much heat and eat. I do the cooking for entertaining or when we have something more elaborate, I am also the baker for work treats and in a very female dominated workplace.
My kids enjoy when she goes away for work, although they miss her, my food is always more glammed up than the normal meat and veg with some of my specialties with ingredients my wife does not like.
I would happily be the housewife, while we could do it financially but she wants a husband that works. The short countdown to retirement is on.

My wife and I split domestic chores evenly. When she volunteered one day a week at a local non-profit, I would dress fully to do the housework. Now, with her acceptance, I wear panties, bra, and a gown whenever I am in the house no matter what I’m doing.

I have to agree with you. Very fee women do traditional male home chores or maintenance around the home.

My wife and I share the domestic chores. We do not "assign" any particular chore to one spouse. What needs to get done, gets done. I do the majority of meal preparation and cooking. My wife does not drive due to a depth-perception problem, so that chores has fallen to me. I retired first, so I did have ample opportunity to accomplish more domestic chores during the day. That also afforded opportunity to spend the days she did work attired a la June Cleaver: dresses, hosiery and heels and all the proper undergarments. With advancing age limitations the outside chores do fall upon me. When both spouses are retired, each has lots of time on their hands. That's when the marital troubles can arise, when one spouse does not lift a hand to help and do any chores. How many marriages are in turmoil because the husband and wife both work, but child care and domestic chores fall on the wife while hubby pops and cold one and watches sports? Or takes off to hang out with his male drinking buddies?

As my Wife has been on O2, 24-7 for 7 years now, We are both in our 80's ,her Breathing problems has me taking on so much more of the choirs.

I do what ever i can to make her life better, She still does the Cooking & Bowls Duckpins once a week, She is worn out when she gets Home.

I just finished changing the Bed Sheets, We are two Months from our 62nd Anniversary,

Many moons ago, before we walked the aisle, we spent many enjoyable hours just chatting. We?re both first borne, with very traditional midwestern families. It?s during one of these talks that, with great trepidation, I told her of my little hobby. Actually, she was kinda fascinated and didn?t see any problems (whew). During our working years, we had no problem regarding who did what. I?d occasionally cook, she?d occasionally mow the grass. It worked for us. If it ain?t broke, etc. In retirement, things haven?t changed. We pretty much help each other. Get ?er done is our call, then play, rest, etc.