Sex Question to all CDs from a curious GG

Hello everyone,

I apologize in advance if this question seems intrusive, I really don't mean to be rude, but I am making an ongoing effort to understand CDing, specifically as it relates to my husband.

My question is this: Do you feel that CDing is part of your sexuality? For example, my husband, a CD, would prefer to be submissive in bed, "serving" me, as it were. I think most people would agree that has traditionally been the "feminine" role in sex, so I correlate that desire with his dressing in a way.

I wonder if this is very common, or if there are CDs out there who, when it's time to have sex, just "switch", rip the clothes off and have at it, enjoying what society tends to think of as the "masculine" role, the "taker."

So often, I hear, "it's just clothes." I know that for my husband, that's just not true. There is definitely a desire to identify as a woman in bed. How about for you all?

Best wishes,

Kali GG

Well when I dress my gf won't do anything sexual with me, but that's alright I'm just happy she's handling me dressing as much as she does. I personally enjoy being submissive, whether it's when I'm dressed or not. But at the same time I can be more dominant too.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kali GG

There is definitely a desire to identify as a woman in bed. How about for you all?

---

Yes, I'd go along with that. I'd even say I 'have a headache' most of time as well.

Well here goes,I am TS non op which means i feel and think like a woman more than a male.My gf is still confused but has started to understand that I fall in the middle in bed. I enjoy the night when she takes charge and is in complete control,but i also let the male side rule also.It is a fine line some night.What makes it worse is that she is more than 15 years my JR.I think it confuses her some nights and she has started to assume a more domme role.Not your whips and chains type but the more aggressive type,and it is some times very exciting to say the least. I think what your SO may be wanting is to experience something similar.Dont be afraid he just mite open up to you about what he wants.THen it is up to you to decide what he gets. And for some of us they are not just clothes they are our life line,our sanity at times.

Hmmmmmm. Sex? .......ohhhh SEX! I remember that now!! Hehehe.

Nope. I was always been the maleish one. But then again.... I've never had sex while dressed enfemme!

Love Karren

Hi Kali.............If I could make love to my wife dressed up, I wouldn't mind playing either role. I just know that it would highten the whole experience. To all you GG's. If your not sure how the sex would be, try asking your partner to dress up, you might awaken a tiger wearing little Bo Peeps clothes.
TaTa for now
Sandy

So the threshold question is "Is CDing part of my sexuality". But from your message, I gather that what you are really asking is: "Does CDing translate into a desire to take on a feminized role during sex?" - with the implicit assumption that a "feminized" role necessarily means a submissive one.

OK, now that I have hopelessly confused the question, for me the answers are "Yes", "I don't know", and "Almost certainly not."

Yes - CDing has a definite sexual aspect to it. For me it's not explicitly sexual, but profoundly erotic.

I don't know - I do not bring any sort of gender-shifting roleplay to bed, as my wife has made it pretty clear that she would not be interested. So I really have no clue as to whether this is something I would wish to do...

Almost certainly not - if I did assume a feminine personality during sex, I am quite sure she would not be submissive. Erica's just not that type of girl.

Does that help? Or should Erica stay away from the keyboard for a while...

Erica

for me, I love being treated like a woman in bed....

Kali, I looked back through your posts to try to get some context, and here's how it looks to me:

What's going on now in your relationship is his exploration of his forbidden side, now for the first time accepted. He's probably interested in nothing other than that, right now.

This exclusive emphasis will probably pass, and I would suggest that you encourage it to pass by perhaps showing him this post, or expressing to him that you have no interest in exclusively playing the role he's asking you to play.

It would certainly help if you could also say that you could be interested in playing that role sometimes in the context of a relationship where you felt comfortable with his masculinity, but I don't know if you can say that. If not, I think the prognosis is grim.

I am speaking to you and your husband's case specifically - in answer to your question about whether all CD's are like your husband, I do not think all CD's are alike, we're pretty diverse. On the other hand, your husband is not alone.

I appreciate, in some small way from my side of the fence, what you are going through, and wish you well. You are welcome to contact me or my partner CherGG privately if you wish.

to all who have replied so far. I realize I wasn't totally clear: My husband and I have never had sex while he was dressed (although he would love to), I didn't mean to imply that we had. I just noticed his general submissiveness in bed and wondered about the possible relationship to CD.

I know any time we talk about gender stereotypes like "masculine" and "feminine" there are always bound to be as many interpretations of that as there are people...so I'm not trying to suggest that I agree with the traditional view of things...just trying to get the big picture and sometimes to do that you have to make generalizations.

Thanks again,

Kali GG

Do not mistake submissiveness for someone who likes an easy life.

Choice A: Lie back and have your brains shagged out.

Choice B: Use muscles in your stomach and arms that haven't been used since you last had a jump......and then hope you get your timing right whilst getting friction burns on your knees.


Yeah...I'm submissive.:D Mostly after 4 pints.

As you have already seen there are some of us that would welcome the submissive role, and some that do not. As for myself I am also into BDSM (whips and chains) and I am a Top. I have no desire to be submissive to anyone at any time. It may surprise you (it did me) just how many men are into being submissive. In the BDSM scene there are a lot of submissive men. I say this to let you know it is more common than you may think. Hope this helps.

I have never had the thrill of having sex while dressed, but I would love that.
I mostly HAVE to be the dominant one in bed, try to get to be more dominant, so I can be more submissive. She really don't ( "KNOW WHAT TO DO" ) is her quote to me. Wish she would treat me like a woman, just one time, I think I would love it TOO much.
Niki

We have sex with me dressed and I love to be submissive but have no problem with sex when I am in the male mode. My wife loves to treat me like a woman when I am dressed and I love it. I guess what I am trying to say is we like it both ways and we both get turned on by it.

Like Janelle, we are involved in BDSM. My adora is submissive to me, however, she can be quite dominant in bed, at times. This is fine, as our relationship is not just D/s related, but also includes a full Vanilla relationship.

We have sex while she is dressed, and also while she is not.

The simple answer is that she is both submissive and dominant in bed. Magnificent it is!

Annette

Cross dressing is what some of us guys do for a VARIETY of underlying psychological conditions. While some guys may have a "Fem side" that needs expressing, and all that goes along with that, others, like me, are "escapists" who CD to ocasionally GET AWAY from our normal selves AND/OR "the pressures of masculinity" Itself.

In our case (escapists) it is generally not a "sexual" thing save for the normal hetro attractions to aspects of our own "converted" bodies.---The primary motive is to "to entirely get out of ME" for a while, and de-stress.

Other non sexual CD motives may be the thrill of "risk Taking" (discovery) or curiosity.

I have yet to have sex while actually dressed, but yes I do enjoy more of being the "giver" in terms of sexual pleasure rather than the "taker." Maybe it's connected to my transvetism, maybe it's not. I don't really care why.

I have never had sex while dressed as a woman, however, I was always the submissive one in bed. The problem was compounded because my ex also was not overly dominant in bed, we ended up in a relationship where she was very scornful of me because I did not do my manly duties and initiate sex. My ex was brought up to believe the man was always the initiator.

I wanted to initiate the act, but my self confidence was always real low. Although my ex wasn't dominant in bed.....she was very dominant in all other aspects of our marriage and yes, she certainly was the one who wore the pants while we were married. :straightface:

I do not know if I agree that crossdressing is related to sexuality. Certainly many CD's want to be submissive in bed and many want to be dressed in erotic clothing when making love. For myself I can feel like a woman no matter what I am wearing or if I am being dominant or submissive. The man in me never goes away - if it did I would have gone the SRS route and that would not be fair to my wife. If I remember I believe Peggy and I talked about this same issue as it relates to our life together in the Secret Lives of Women - Married to Crossdressers presentation on WE on August 15 at 9 PM CST. BTW to dispel some incorrect rumors the producer of the upcoming segment on crossdressing talked with five couples before choosing two couples for the final filming. Only one of the couples told the producer that they did not want to appear in this filming and they were from California. The final film is 50 minutes with two couples sharing the 50 minutes after commercial time.

Hugs,

Melanie

Is CDing part of my sexuality?... Usually only when my wife and I are making love. Am I submissive? Only when i'm on my knees and kissing her stockinged feet. I have a huge fetish for nyloned feet and stilleto heels both mine and hers. We often make love while we're both in hose and heels. As of late she enjoyes it as much as I do.... I hope thats not too much information.....Me wearing make up, jewelery, or acting femenine in her presence is a big no no and I respect her limits. When i'm alone and dressed fully en femme its more of a dominant / self assured comfort thing.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by nettiereno GG

Like Janelle, we are involved in BDSM. My adora is submissive to me, however, she can be quite dominant in bed, at times. This is fine, as our relationship is not just D/s related, but also includes a full Vanilla relationship.

We have sex while she is dressed, and also while she is not.

The simple answer is that she is both submissive and dominant in bed. Magnificent it is!

Annette

---

Ditto to what Janelle and Nettie have said. Trudi is "only" submissive when en femme. This does not mean my husband is *always* submissive in bed, absolutely NOT. <grin> We both are what is known as a "switch" in the BDSM community (meaning we can walk both sides of the road, so to speak, in the "scene" arena). We both have very dominating personalities in our day to day lives: we are both Leos.

I do not dominate "him"~but Trudi is submissive to me. Confusing to be sure, but it affords us a nice variety and balance in our lives, both in and out of the bedroom.

In answer to your question, yes there is an element of submissiveness in the boudoir when Trudi is dressed~in the manner of wishing to "service" me as you so eloquently put it. :) But this is not always the case.

Hell, I ENJOY being pampered occasionally! If this is not your cup o tea...grab him by the ears, flip him over and growl: We're gonna do this MY way tonight! (and watch him grin from ear to ear!)

P.S. It has been said, by my oh so wise Husband: "Dominance is the ultimate act of submission." Think on this. The dominant partner is responsible for the well being of his/her submissive. So who's taking care of whom?

As a dominant, if it pleases me to "service" my submissive, is that not my right to do so if it brings me pleasure? Perhaps your husband is more dominant than you think. <smile>

I would very much like to be the submissive. My wife is very traditional though, so we are very vanilla. I feel the feminine fits me better in or out of bed.

I have to say that I enjoy combining both the masculine and feminine energies when being intimate. I enjoy the feelings I get when intimate with a woman, and also enjoy being submissive and receiving pleasure from her as well. The clothing has always been erotic for me as I am very tactile and sensual. I like it on her, and me as well.......if we both are in beautiful sexy lingerie......well.....WOW. The main thing is to enjoy eachother and find what you both get pleasure from. I think I like pleasing my lover better than being pleased...making me a servant type I guess. I can think of nothing more intimate than being two girls together. Good question, and the best to you and your spouse. Greta 0.02

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Melanie R

I do not know if I agree that crossdressing is related to sexuality. Certainly many CD's want to be submissive in bed and many want to be dressed in erotic clothing when making love. For myself I can feel like a woman no matter what I am wearing or if I am being dominant or submissive. The man in me never goes away - if it did I would have gone the SRS route and that would not be fair to my wife. If I remember I believe Peggy and I talked about this same issue as it relates to our life together in the Secret Lives of Women - Married to Crossdressers presentation on WE on August 15 at 9 PM CST. BTW to dispel some incorrect rumors the producer of the upcoming segment on crossdressing talked with five couples before choosing two couples for the final filming. Only one of the couples told the producer that they did not want to appear in this filming and they were from California. The final film is 50 minutes with two couples sharing the 50 minutes after commercial time.

Hugs,

Melanie

---

EXCELLENT point Melanie! This is so very true with Trudi as well. It was very confusing to me at first, until I caught on to a very subtle sign that lets me know, no matter how she's dressed, if she's feeling dominant or submissive.

She has worn a gold chain with a crucifix ever since I met her. If my husband comes to bed, (regardless whether en femme or stark nekkid) without that chain, I know "who" (or which aspect of the person I love so dearly) I'm about to get frisky with! :evil: :dom:

When I mentioned this to her, I think it came as a surprise. Not even she had realized she was doing this. It's become a very endearing signal for me, over the years. :love:

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kali GG

My husband and I have never had sex while he was dressed (although he would love to)
Kali GG

---

I can't help but ask that if you love him and want to be with him then why haven't you had sex while he was dressed? I know you realize how much he wants that.
Understanding the varied and probably complex reasons behind this will lead you to the next level of understanding cding and your relationship with it and with your husband.
If your open to new experiences (especially sexually), love your husband deeply and approach life with curiousity and playfulness then your going to have the time of your life and more orgasms then you will ever want.
If not then you'll have something else.

Just something to think about, no need to answer

Kali,
Like the others here, I can't answer for your SO. We're all different, so I can only tell you how I feel.
My wife and I have enjoyed pleasing one another without either of us being overly dominant or submissive, we just go with the flow and do whatever we feel like doing at the time. I love it when she wears anything sexy to bed, but sadly she rarely feels in the mood now. I'd also love it if she'd accept ME dressing sexy for bed. She knows, but can't get over her inhibitions. And if we were both dressed, it'd really blow my mind. In any of those three scenarios, I expect I'd feel no more dominant or submissive than if we were both naked.
I've also tied her up a few times before bringing her to orgasm, which I suppose is dominant behaviour, and I'd love it if she'd do the same for me, which I suppose is submissive. Sadly, I think my renewed interest in CDing is turning her off any sort of sexual activity with me at present, and I'm not rocking the boat because I love her dearly, and we have a great life otherwise. I'll just keep trying to win her over, and I suppose that's also submissive.
I hope you can get something useful out of my ramblings!

All the best,
Tony

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Karren Hutton

Hmmmmmm. Sex? .......ohhhh SEX! I remember that now!! Hehehe.

Nope. I was always been the maleish one. But then again.... I've never had sex while dressed enfemme!

Love Karren

---

I have never had sex while dressed en femme either, but when I fantasize about sex while dressed en femme, I fantasize that I am the feminine partner even though my fantasies involve my SO (my wife). In those fantasies, I imagine her taking a dominant role. When I am not en femme, I definitely take the dominant, traditionally male role.

Sex!?

It's been so long since I've had sex, I can't remember who gets tied up!





Hugs

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kali GG

Hello everyone,
My question is this: Do you feel that CDing is part of your sexuality?

I wonder if this is very common, or if there are CDs out there who, when it's time to have sex, just "switch", rip the clothes off and have at it, enjoying what society tends to think of as the "masculine" role, the "taker."

Best wishes,

Kali GG

---

It's part of my sexuality but not the whole thing, through out my life my gender balance has been like shifting sands and even when not dressing noticably it has always played out in my sexuality

I used to be more Male and be more assertive in bed, even when my partners were being very dominant but over the years as I've become a little more comfortable with who I am I don't bother with the pretence of trying to be male in bed even though I've never dressed for my wife

It's the one time I can open up and let my emotions out fully as it's something she actively encourages, although it even confuses me that I groan like a woman when I get carried away :eek:

In this corner... Prince Charming

In this corner... Submissive CD

Sexuality is so complicated isn't it? I mean, the male is supposed to do this... and the female is supposed to do that and we have procreation.

Now that that's settled, what we really have is two people who have proclaimed their love and desire for each other.

Setting aside the "roles" the "Victorian Age" assigned to each of us by our birth sex, we as human beings have aspects both masculine and feminine within us. Not some, but ALL of us.

Masculine does not equal strength any more than feminine equals weak. Marriage by it's very nature is a mutually agreed submission, one to the other. If we need rules for our lives, including our sexuality, we know through history and theology that the Stronger shall serve the Weaker and that both will benefit greatly. So who really serves who?

If one is weak whether it be in body or Spirit (will), then is it submissive or "feminine" if they serve, or is it a matter of natural selection?

If one is weak, yet hides the insecurity and lack of grounding with a domineering or bullying manner, is that masculine?

On the other hand, if one is strong in both body AND Spirit, and chooses to serve, is it submission? If so, is it feminine... or is it masculine... or... does it have a gender at all?

People sometimes fall in love with the role they picture their partner in rather than the living, breathing person they accepted as their mate.

If your CD husband doesn't give you pleasure by "taking his pleasure in you", (Prince Charming) then shame on him. If you don't take your pleasure in your CD husband and express your needs and desires directly and clearly to him, (feminine prerogative) then shame on you.

Societal roles are assigned to give us the right to "judge", this is "right", or this is "wrong".

Given the choice, would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?

The choice IS yours.

Love each other first and always.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kali GG

Hello everyone,

I apologize in advance if this question seems intrusive, I really don't mean to be rude, but I am making an ongoing effort to understand CDing, specifically as it relates to my husband.

My question is this: Do you feel that CDing is part of your sexuality? For example, my husband, a CD, would prefer to be submissive in bed, "serving" me, as it were. I think most people would agree that has traditionally been the "feminine" role in sex, so I correlate that desire with his dressing in a way.

I wonder if this is very common, or if there are CDs out there who, when it's time to have sex, just "switch", rip the clothes off and have at it, enjoying what society tends to think of as the "masculine" role, the "taker."

So often, I hear, "it's just clothes." I know that for my husband, that's just not true. There is definitely a desire to identify as a woman in bed. How about for you all?

Best wishes,

Kali GG

---

As far as that whole submissive thing goes yes i want it 1 cause it helps me to feel more feminine and 2 i think it would help explore more of my self but being dressed or not i do not think that changes it at all. I hope this helps....

oh yeah, and I can be either Decidedly Dominant, assertive and "masculine", or I can be Sweetly Submissive, servile and even receptive (feminine). Somewhere in between is who I really am. I am both masculine and feminine.

What I am first, is a husband, who loves his wife. I receive as much joy from giving her pleasure (sexually or otherwise) as I receive from her be it sexually or otherwise.

Hi Kali,

I can only speak for myself; dressing and sexuality are somewhat separate. Please before all the rest of the girls go off shaking their heads, really dressing for me is just being true to what I so deeply feel. Sexuality is mostly separate, but yes, I do so very much feel sexy when dressed. There must be some kind of paradigm there! Dressing is an expression of myself; sex is pure fun. My wife has not wanted to have sex with me dressed, she states that a lesbian relationship is not what she had in mind when we married, but she certainly knows how to excite me by treating me as a ****ty girl when we are having sex. When en femme I feel very sexual, when in drab I do not have the same deep feeling of pure being. Sounds confused, does it not? Really, being oneself takes you to such a fantastic place, all things seem better; reading a book, having a glass of wine, they all just are better when you understand yourself. Really girls; are you not a bit more relaxed walking into a room with your heals on and a short little skirt, in lieu of clunking in with a pair of logging boots on. And do you do feel a little sexier en femme than with a dirty teeshirt and jeans on? Kali, as for me, I am very submissive with a GG; how can one not be?

Hi Kali ,
when dressed 'en femme' and having had 3 girlfriend's who were pretty understanding about it,I definatley was the 'fem one.Two out of the three GF's really liked it as it made a pleasant change from my male self where I was the 'initiator' about 95% of the time or more.
Plus being the submissive,I found it really added to the entire experience for me and sometimes them too.Of course I wasn't the least bit suprised when 2 of the 3 GF's turned out to be bisexual.Maybe that has something to do with it,unless I helped cause it?,lol!.

So yes sisters I am privildged to have had sex many times when dressed,it is simply mindlbowing!,not to rub it in or anything,I hope you all get to experience this some time soon.As for now I am 'asexual!,lol

Sex ?... what's that?

Hugs Sisters Everywhere, :hugs:

Melanie.

I am not submissive when in guy mode. When I turn on the crossdressing switch, I am the female. We have, uh, s-word, all the time while dressed. I can't understand it, but I even have multiple-female-type-orgasms while dressed, and at no other time. Even if it's not, it's certainly not the typical male "reaction" I known and loved all my life. This has only began about 3 years ago. I guess I've reached the height of crossdressing nirvana in that respect.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Nike

In this corner... Prince Charming

In this corner... Submissive CD

Sexuality is so complicated isn't it? I mean, the male is supposed to do this... and the female is supposed to do that and we have procreation.

Now that that's settled, what we really have is two people who have proclaimed their love and desire for each other.

Setting aside the "roles" the "Victorian Age" assigned to each of us by our birth sex, we as human beings have aspects both masculine and feminine within us. Not some, but ALL of us.

Masculine does not equal strength any more than feminine equals weak. Marriage by it's very nature is a mutually agreed submission, one to the other. If we need rules for our lives, including our sexuality, we know through history and theology that the Stronger shall serve the Weaker and that both will benefit greatly. So who really serves who?

If one is weak whether it be in body or Spirit (will), then is it submissive or "feminine" if they serve, or is it a matter of natural selection?

If one is weak, yet hides the insecurity and lack of grounding with a domineering or bullying manner, is that masculine?

On the other hand, if one is strong in both body AND Spirit, and chooses to serve, is it submission? If so, is it feminine... or is it masculine... or... does it have a gender at all?

People sometimes fall in love with the role they picture their partner in rather than the living, breathing person they accepted as their mate.

If your CD husband doesn't give you pleasure by "taking his pleasure in you", (Prince Charming) then shame on him. If you don't take your pleasure in your CD husband and express your needs and desires directly and clearly to him, (feminine prerogative) then shame on you.

Societal roles are assigned to give us the right to "judge", this is "right", or this is "wrong".

Given the choice, would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?

The choice IS yours.

Love each other first and always.

---

THAT is exactly what I would have said if I had thought it, and submitted it! My ex was Victorian, man on top, woman under, even though she considered herself a child of the 60s.
MY SO, who is incredibly compatible, was not especially comfortable when Wenda first emerged, but has come to regard her as a 'special' ie 'secret' friend. Wenda is definitely submissive to Jaya. In our other lives, we will probably be about 50/50. We have a 'maid's outfit' for Wenda when we go on holidays, and she has a strap-on which is something neither of us has experienced previously.
I think Nike summed it up very nicely, "would you rather be right or be happy?" If it makes (the both of)you happy, then isn't it right?
All the best:hugs:

Both with girlfriends and with my wife when married, and of course they knew all about my TV side, when we had sex I prefered the woman on top and I took what would be preceived by many to be the "female" role, she made love to me and not the other way around. I have never liked to take the lead so to speak and I detest the stereotypical male behaviour as typified in magazins, books, on the Telly and in Movies etc of "giving her a good seeing to" or "shagging the ar5e off woman" as they would put it as I , and any women with whom I have had sexual relations have always prefered the gentler and more delicate approach as I do myself. So yes, in a sexual context I am the submissive partner.

I don't mind kicking back and letting ner do some of tht love making but I play the major roll most of the time we make love.
Angie G.

From the studies that have been done on crossdressing, sexuality often is wrapped up in crossdressing -- particularly in younger life (i.e. teens and 20s). But it's a complicated picture.

The dom/sub dimension (also refers to as "top" and "bottom") is really independent -- you see both straight and gay couples where one partner is more assertive than the other, and it's not necessarily related to gender -- just as one partner typically has more of a sex drive than the other (again not necessarily related to one's sex).

That said, our culture has traditionally associated "feminine" with "sub" (at least for the past 200 years, for centuries before that women were believed to be the more sexual of the sexes). So it's not suprising that a number of CDs seem to equate the two. And as Marla GG once asutely observed, there's a number of CDs who are "penetration curious" for a variety of reasons.

There's also the aspect of just laying back and enjoying "being done to" as Julie York alluded to. IIRC there's surveys that show the favorite sex act of both sexes is receiving oral sex -- which isn't surprising given that it is usually receiving pleasure.

Also, I think most many feel a lot performance anxiety that most women don't really understand. So if you're feeling a bit uncertain about your masculinity because of your crossdressing, you may be less traditionally assertive in bed. And if you're willing to step outside of the masculine role to crossdress, you're probably more likely to act out a desire to be the "passive" partner.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kali GG

my husband, a CD, would prefer to be submissive in bed, "serving" me, as it were. I think most people would agree that has traditionally been the "feminine" role in sex, so I correlate that desire with his dressing in a way.

---

I tend to prefer bottom, but I don't think of it as submissive. There are some physical reasons for my preference, which I won't go in to at this time. The major psychological reason is that I prefer active participation from my partners: you are more certain she wants to be there if she's on top.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kali GG

to all who have replied so far. I realize I wasn't totally clear: My husband and I have never had sex while he was dressed (although he would love to), I didn't mean to imply that we had. I just noticed his general submissiveness in bed and wondered about the possible relationship to CD.

I know any time we talk about gender stereotypes like "masculine" and "feminine" there are always bound to be as many interpretations of that as there are people...so I'm not trying to suggest that I agree with the traditional view of things...just trying to get the big picture and sometimes to do that you have to make generalizations.

Thanks again,

Kali GG

---

..and Your willingness to understand your "partner" is commendable , as long as You both feel safe in such explorations ( concidered-and thought out) Who cares realy ? I'm always hoping my partner would want more from me..sexually.... (an ego-thing?) a given...reguardless of gender conflicts eh ??
Being "right" sexually with a lover or partner ..gets complex...or does it ?? xx "K"

I've NEVER had sex enfemme! But it's a WONDERFUL thought!!:love:

It's always fantastic.
We've tried it every witch way.
Sex, surely, is about enjoyment amd pleasure, Do the washing up some other time.

hope that helps.

Pauline.

I believe that these are separate issues but closely linked. I am submissive by nature and would love to incorporate the dressing part into my sexual life. Forced femininity and submission, servicing my mistress, etc... are part of my fantasies. The dressing part of me is there all the time, while the sex part shows up every so often!

I would say that for me the crossdressing would definitly heighten the sexual responses. Although for as often as it happens around here I will take it anyway I can get it. And my wife will have no part of the dressing.

I wonder how many of us would be sexually submissive en homme as well, if we could get away with it...

I have never had sex while dressed, however I do enjoy both roles. There are times when I enjoy being the dominant one and taking the lead. I do find that if I have been dressing recently, I really enjoy having my wife take the lead and have her way with me.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Elena Ambasce

I wonder how many of us would be sexually submissive en homme as well, if we could get away with it...

---

I do it's easy, it's the easiest way to be yourself without being asked any awkward questions, and of course if the missus suddenly got the urge to feminise mean I'm not going to resist much lol

:hugs: Is cding part of my sexuality? I suppose it is. It does make me feel different but it doesn't make me act differently. I am the one who usually takes the iniative in bed but it is wonderful when my wife takes the iniative. I wish she would do it more often. I don't think this is a matter of domination or submission; it is a matter of intimacy and trust and the desire to be together.

I suppose it can be, thought I will admit my current realtionship is the first time I have ever actually told someone about me.

Thus far it seems to be going pretty well.

I have always been pretty adaptable in a physical sense. I see no point in defining specific roles for these things. Sometimes I like to take charge others I prefer to have my partner do it. These things of depend on the partner, but the key is to be spontaneous.

Generally I try in all aspects of my life to keep and open mind, why should intimacy be any different