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I wondered how many of you actualy are "reluctant" to go back to "male mode" when your dressed ?? :rolleyes: when you have "dressed" and been like it for awhile, do you dread the thought of having to change back to your "male" self +? OR is it just something you do & dont worry about ' the time ??
perhaps you wish you could remain "dressed" for alot longer than you do, but know your time is restricted to how/when you can dress, and that annoys you ?
i would have to say yes . i really enjoy my time after all i dress for fun and pleasure . my life doesn't allow me much time so each time i can i want to get the most out of it .:2c:
I do feel a reluctance "to go back to male mode". I find that I generally dress in the evening when the days chores are done, unexpected visitors are not likely, and I am a bit tired. This I do because my wife, though supportive is uncomfortable with my being en femme. It is a lot of work to make the change, and it seems that the time passes too quickly, and I must return to my other self. I'd love to spend a few days dressed, but that is unlikely to happen anytime soon.
Hi Angie! Gee, that's a good question. I know and accept the responsibilities I have in my life that require me to be my male self. I get a respectable amount of time to cd, and really can't complain, but it is a bit sad when it's time to change. I know I could easily stay dressed for days, or even longer, if circumstances allowed it. But, the chances of that are quite slim. I wouldn't say it annoys me, I've come to terms with the balance I need to keep. Still, can't help but fantasize about what it may be like to dress as Suzie all the time...:heehee:
I would like to stay in femme mode longer---am always reluctant to change back
Yes, I find it annoying to change back. Always a bit of a letdown.
Usta be Angie but now I have a different outlook. I was being Sal too much and was getting off balance. Now, I've turned it around and really look forward to becoming Rich again. They are both a big part of me and I would be denying who I am otherwise. That's just me though and you know I'm an odd "duck" anyway as far as being a CD goes.:happy:
I feel sad and disappointed when I need to change back. I seem to wait until the very last minute and then rush to change for fear of being late to where I need to be and just wishing I could go as I am, one day maybe!
Dana
I hate to go back to drab. In a nutshell, I am just more at ease in a skirt and heels. As I have mentioned in other threads, my wife is dead set against my cd -ing, so I have little time to be dressed and comfortable, thus I just savor "the moment".
I'd love more time but I also don't get upset when I have to change back.... It's my life, or my style of crossdressing.... Hit and Run....Just In Time... hehe And I also enjoy my male time as much as I do my female time..... Wierd huh??
Karren
I'm always somewhat reluctant to change out of my fem clothes.
It's to the point with me now that when I have to be Charlie, I feel like that's when I'm CDing! Just a carry over from when I thought I had to be and present as a man, so I now play the part of Charlie at work. Not hard, done it all my life, but now fun and without the pressure I felt before to be "one of the guys". In other words I'm Lily playing a part that happens to be a guy.
I'm also dread changing back to drab. I enjoy dressing and don't want the time to end.
Sienna
Its intresting to see , and read how alot of you feel more "comfortable" dressed, than as ur male-self :o & you can tell by ur posts that there is some reluctance there for going back "into" ur male gender :o
I would stay staci all the time if I could I hate the change back to Bill
But then I look forward to my next time dressing
Angie, I can only speak for myself as just about everyone here is different. All my life I was confused, ashamed, angry, living in ignorance and denial about who I am. I have finally found out the truth and freedom for the first time by coming to the understanding of me. It's an on-going process. I know I can't wipe out years of the above in the less than the year I discovered the truth, and started to accept me for who I am, but I also know that life is too short to spend the rest of my life in those negative emotions. My tag says "comfortable in my own skin", and for the most part that's true now. Who I am goes beyond how I dress. Yes I feel more comfort in fem clothing as it feels right, but I don't need the clothing to define who I am at this point. I'm me regardless what kind of clothing I wear. To me, it's an inside job, so I am O.K. wearing my nails long and polished, earrings, mascara, purfume and alot,for a "guy", of jewelry even as Charlie, but even still I know those are just trappings I use to express my inner self, and are really not neccessary. But as I said, that's just me.
Love and xxxx, Lily
Yes, especially when it is for something trivial like going to the store to pick up a few items. I've almost been tempted at times just say the heck with it and go out and do my errands en-femme as opposed to changing back into male mode. Jocelyn
I enjoy the time I have but know that I can not let it interfere with my everyday male life.
Disappointed maybe but happy to get what girly time I can.:happy:
i hate changeing back as i enjoy my fem side, so two and a half years i chose to live full and it's the best thing i ever did
I know I have my momnts. My life keeps me busy enough that my chances to dress fully are few & far between, so there are times when I'm reluctant to change back, but there IS another side. A few years ago, I had the opportunity to spend an entire wek as Lauren. Believe me when I say I was ready to go back into guy mode. It's a LOT of work to keep that up on a daily basis for me, so I was ready to not do it for a while.
-L
I have a few hours per night for the whole production, so I wish I had more time - like an entire night. But I'm in the minority here. For me, it's more like I'm an actor getting dressed for the stage: when the play is over, the costume and makeup come off. No regrets - there's always next time. :happy:
I don't dread it because sometimes it's just something I have to do, but I'd rather wear my skirts, femme form fitting pants and heels 24/7
So I did just that this morning. I wore a butt, leg hugging calf length denim skirt with 4" open toe mule type sandals with my top half as my guy self to take my kids to school today. It was soooo nice.
I can see a time in the next few years where heels, skirts and the above mentioned pants will be the things I wear daily. With the top half as a lady sometimes and sometimes as a guy.
I just hate the double standard where a woman can wear anything and its ok but a guy can't. So it's gotta change and the only way it will is if some of us just wear what we like either in full girl mode or in guy mode. And I'm going to start soon!!!
Kiera
The past three weeks I have had the opportunity to stay totally enfemme while my wife is out of town. I have yet to go out shopping or run errands dressed, but I do keep on my under garments. But that is gonna change the next few days if I don't chicken out. I enjoy the look and feel of being dressed, but going back to drab doesn't bother at all. Actually I have not given it much thought.
I dread it.
Jeani
I don't dread changing, I just don't change, giggle.
What I mean is, I've accepted myself as a TG person. I do "fully" dress, wig & forms, but when I revert back to "male" mode, it's just no wig or forms.
My every-day wear is all fem and "practical clothing". Jeans or slacks, if it's cold, otherwise, capries, shorts or a denim skirt, all with fem tops, sandals, earrings, purse and light makeup.
Since I'm always me, no matter what I'm wearing, I always present myself as the TG person I am.
I rarely CD unless I can dress fully, with makeup, and stay that way for at least a day. I recently had a break for almost a month, but apart from that I've been CDing quite a lot over the last 5 months or so. The last two weeks I've spent more time en femme than not.
Still, I do get a little melancholy when I have to change back to male mode, but I generally don't let it bother me. Besides, it nice to not have to work on my appearance for a few days. And to give my poor face a break from all that close shaving. :)
Most 'erotic' CDers generally feel a very strong urge to remove all feminine clothing & makeup as soon as they achieve sexual release, especially when they are young. But most of us older t-girls like to stay dressed up as long as posssible, once we've gone through all that effort to look & feel pretty.
Robin
ive noticed a few comments about some of you wanting to, but havent as yet gone out "en femme", would that also make it feel more "complete"?? :rolleyes:
Often I wish I had more time/opportunity, I feel so comfortable enfemme. My not-quite-understanding SO is going away at the end of the month, so....
we've actually just come back from a month in our Spanish house. The first two weeks were good, because my SO seemed to have no qualms, but then the old "I really don't like to see you dressed that way...." kicked in. So I'm looking forward to the first 18 days in May. Then I can dress how I want to, perhaps not all the time, but most of the time. I don't think I have the courage to go out of the house in a skirt, but I think I can do it in undergarments, girl's jeans and a big sloppy T shirt :).
I wish she could understand, and that it didn't create problems, because I so love her and everything about her.
Let me say I can handle being "him" because he has the credentials to make that nice check which I need, but I have to force myself to leave Em behind. I have even pushed the time allotted way too close just to be me a bit longer. I live for 6-12 hour blocks of time anymore. And I really like my me time to include public moments (okay...HOURS). So I guess the correct answer is ... what was the question again?...oh yeah, yes it annoys me when I have to do the F2M thing. A bunch !
Emily Ann
I would like to spend all my time dressed as a woman. If I had lots of money I would probably go for SRS, FFS and do anything to become female. I say probably because of my age and my family would definitely disapprove. They are having a hard enough trouble dealing with the fact that I'm leaving because I've recently admitted to them that I'm gay and I want to meet a man to be in a realtionship with. My wife is the only one who knows about the crossdressing and the wanting to be a woman. I told her this at the same time I told her I am gay. I'm only to reveal the gay part though and only to those who really need to know.
Living as MJ is would be great.
Bonnie
I started dressing up as a teenager, while still living with my parents & sisters. I was very secretive about it, and didn't conceive of going outside en femme. But when I left home & a GG friend dressed me up, she automatically assumed that I would want to go out. The thought terrified me, but she soon convinced me. It was nerve-wracking but very exhilarating. :happy:Quote:
Originally Posted by Iniquity Blonde GG
Since then, dressing up without going out would just not be the same. I still get a bit of an adrenaline rush these days when I first head outside en femme, 3 decades later.
If I've gotten all dressed up & for some reason can't go outside before it's time to go back to boy mode, then I do get quite annoyed. Even a quick walk around the block is enough to make the CDing "escapade" feel more complete than being stuck inside the whole time, like some kind of gender prisoner...
:hugs:
Robin
Bonnie thank you , but you are not much older than me and you can start hrtQuote:
Originally Posted by Bonnie D
i know someone who transistion at 65 and looks good too so it's never too late to live your true life ... just do it i can help you you know:happy:
i think the hardest part is removing my breast forms...always reluctant to reach back, unhook my bra, and release my "girls"...would never take them off if possible! Taking off my dress or skirts ranks second on the reluctance scale...then wiping off my lipstick and taking out my earrings. After wearing heels for awhile, i'm actually relieved to kick them off...but like being around the house in my nyloned feet *when i wear hose*...
i really enjoy my girl mode and its never fun going back to my male dress...but thats life! Thank heavens for "undies", which i can wear daily and don't have to remove!
Yes, the change back to male mode is often slightly despressing, or at least annoying. Just as dressing gives me a bit of a high, changing back gives me a bit of a low. At least, most evenings, I can change into a nightgown. Can't stand pajamas.
Perhaps the most annoying part is spending an appreciable period of time with makeup, and then having to remove it. ("Ah, gee. Do I haveta?") Sometimes, when I chamge, I leave my wig on to the very last; hanging on to Minerva as long as possible.
Love
Minerva
Changing back to male mode makes me look forward to being Kenix again. :happy:
I could stay dressed up all the time. When I am dressed I feel wonderful, confident, right. Nuff said.
for me crossdressing is very much a sexual thing. Once the need has been fulfilled (putting it politely) there is no more need and the clothes are back in the "toybox"! However sometimes the urge feels so strong it is difficult to resist.
Love Paula x
In general, I'd say I don't like changing back. The longest I've dressed is for a few days, but I'd not gone out either. It would be interesting to stay dressed for as long as I felt like it to see just how far I would go.
I still like being a guy and don't see the desire to do anything to change that. But it would be an interesting experiment.
Kathleen
When I first joined the forum, there was a question like this and I answered that after one of the first times I had seriously dressed and was changing back, I cried having to do so.
At that time another member told me to just go ahead and get the operation. There are times I wish I could.
But the pain of changing back to male isn't as sharp these days because I know another opportunity to dress is just around the corner. I am still not happy about having to take off the make-up and releasing my bra, but I get through it better these days.
Yes its a downer having to change back. I always try and exxtend the time a bit. It never sems enough. But then the next oportunity comes along... like tomorrow night.
[SIZE="3"]I make good money in male mode, cant see giving that up yet.
During December I was in Male mode weekdays when I was working and out enfem almost every night and weekend, I even had a 5 day weekend and stayed enfem, the only thing I didn't do was go to the family X-mas gathering enfem. By the end of the month I was burnt out from all the parties and shopping and dinners that I had reached the point of saturation where I was happy to stay in male mode for it was just too much work to dress, and only went out 1 night a week during January. But now that the warmer weather is here its back to dressing 2-4 nights a week. A girl just can't have enough fun. [/SIZE]
On those rare occasions when I have several days during which I can dress all or most of the time, I find it very hard to give it up. Part of my reluctance and sadness comes from my not knowing when I will have an opportunity to dress again. I think that if I could dress any time that I wanted, I would still be sad to change back to male mode, but I would feel more at ease about it.
Hi all, I'm Trish although new to participating on the form, I'm been with dualality for a lifetime, many decades. as for "changing back" I don't like returning to boy mode at all. Such a let down, and kind of tweeks my brain when I only have short periods to be the other half. then bamm shes back in reclusion. Funny how the older I get the more I enjoy being her. Thanks for being here its lonely being alone. I should have piped up months ago.
I've always dreaded cross-dressing as a guy. At least that's what I consider it now. I still have to do it once in a while for people that don't know or don't want to know about Sandy.
I'm getting bolder though. I don't own any guy things anymore except 2 T-shirts and a pair of sneakers. (Purged all my guy stuff. TeeHeeHee.)
:hugs:
p.s. Oops... I almost forgot, I have a denim shirt with the buttons on the guy side.
I find that it takes sooo long to get "en femme" the way I'd like to (shaving alone OMG), that it is almost time for bed by the time I get dressed up. Talk about being all dressed up and no place to go.
It sure would help out alot if I could get to the point where I let myself go out in public cd'd. Even on weekends, by the time I do all the errands, and yard work, walking dog, etc etc.. then dress up.. BOOM.. it's nearly bedtime :(. /sigh
So to answer the question, it's not so much going back to male form, it's the "just getting started", and having to shut down :rolleyes:
Denied
I lose my happy state of mind when I step out of my heels.
Love,
Helen
I never mind changing back when it suits me, but when I've had to because of the fear of getting caught or because of practical circumstances I've cried.
I spend a lot of time dressed, going out that way, just being a girl. But even as much as I dress sometimes I do regret having to go back to guy mode. But after I'm there, I don't have any problems
Do I dread changing back? Yeah, I guess I do. I only get to dress fully on occassion, so the build up to dress usually starts a few days before I actually do. I start thinking about what I might wear, how I might like to do my make up etc.
Then when I actually dress I take my time. I enjoy feeing the weight of my breasts on my chest and closeness of wearing panties, doing my face and just feeling feminine. So when I have to take it all off it's sort like the end of a good chapter in a book. You know it will end, you know its coming soon, you just hope not too soon. I usually prolong this as long as possible by removing all my outer clothes first and putting them away, then wash off my make up. I always shower after dressing and just before getting in I unhook my bra, take out "the girls" and slip off my panties. Just seems to make the expereince last just that so much more longer.
Amy :)
I have come to dread changing back more and more as time goes on. I fell so much more at ease dressed, as if it is natural. I find myself looking forward to the next opportunity that I will have, and hoping it will be longer.