Originally Posted by
Krisi
elizabethamy, I don't want to sound blunt and uncaring, but you are thinking only about your self and not your wife or marriage. Your wife married what she thought was a man and now you want to become a woman. In some cases, this works out and the marriage stays together, but that's not likely to be the case with your marriage. Unlike cancer or a heart attack, in her mind, you are making a selfish choice here. You may not understand her feelings but they are real to her.
It seems you have a choice to make; go ahead with your transition or "be a man" and save your marriage.
I won't try to tell you which choice to make but I think it's unfair to call your wife "transphobic" or anything else. She feels that you have betrayed her. In many ways, you have.