Salon Envy

I went for my regular haircut today. I go to a salon that has 90%+ female clientele and is an older 60s type salon. I get my hair shampoo'd, cut and styled by a nice woman who does a great job, though she doesn't seem to get my hints that I would like it done more femininely. Today as I am leaving, there is a woman who is just getting started on a perm. Her hairdresser was just putting in her third perm rod and it was obvious that the rollup would take at least a half hour and then probably over another hour to process the perm and style it. I sure wish that was me getting the perm! There was also another woman in rollers under the dryer. There just is no justice in the world!

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Originally Posted by BethanyCross

I went for my regular haircut today. I go to a salon that has 90%+ female clientele and is an older 60s type salon. I get my hair shampoo'd, cut and styled by a nice woman who does a great job, though she doesn't seem to get my hints that I would like it done more femininely. There just is no justice in the world!

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Take a picture in how you want it just like we GGs do. They have style books in there you can go early and look for a style or look online and save a picture to your phone. How else do you think she’s going to know???

And no justice in the world....that’s on you . If you are afraid to ask for what you want? How is that anyone’s fault but your own?

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Originally Posted by BethanyCross

[...]There just is no justice in the world!

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Count your blessings. Also, check your privilege.

So get a perm, men get get perms, remember the 70's

You have hair to have cut? I envy you.

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Originally Posted by Patience

Count your blessings. Also, check your privilege.

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I'm thinking that "No Justice" thing was a sarcastic joke.

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Originally Posted by Stephanie47

You have hair to have cut? I envy you.

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Wow that puts things in perspective.

To the OP:

You want a feminine style? Then stop "hinting" and tell the stylist exactly what you want. You're a big girl, use your words.

Come out and tell her what you want simple as that.
Back in my rocker days 70s and 80s I had my hair down to my waist and done in layers.
The layers underneath were done in a light blonde and my natural color auburn was on the top layers.
I paid $50.00 a cut and style back then and that was outrageous to most people.

The girls at the salon are not mind readers. Just tell or show them what you want.

They won't think you are gay so don't worry.
You can still keep your man card.

Hair stylists like making people look pretty. And they appreciate your money when you pay for long or complex services. Very, very few are judgmental, and many like working on challenging transformation projects. Just ask. If you've caught vibes from your current stylist that she might not be open to this, look for another. You won't have to search far.

- Diane

It's really not a big deal. I got perm when I was 18. Didn't really stop and think about whether it was an effeminate thing to do or not. Just didnt want long straight hair at the time. Ha. 'Straight hair'. I say march right back in there and demand a perm!

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Originally Posted by sarah_hillcrest

I'm thinking that "No Justice" thing was a sarcastic joke.

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Exactly! No compassion at all! I'm glad you agree.

I also have trouble describing how I want my hair cut, so when my barber retired after 15+ years of cutting my hair, I just let it grow!
I think it looks really good, now that it reaches my armpits.

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Originally Posted by Majella St Gerard

So get a perm, men get get perms, remember the 70's

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Actually, I did that in the 90's. Worked in a large government building complex. The guys on our team jacked with me all day but, the women couldn't keep their hands off me.

How were you dressed? My wife doesn't want me to dress in my town so I go to a stylist half way to my work out of our town so I can go dressed how I want.

I am thinking of getting a perm someday, but since I think it would be a one time thing wonder how it will look a few months down the road.

Wow! Lots of replies to what I thought was just a harmless comment. Actually my hairline is too high for a perm to work for me now and if my style got truly feminine (even with my high hairline) it would harm my relationship with friends and family. I know it is easy to say "Then they are not really your friends, etc." Unfortunately, my friends and family are not very accepting of the transgender way of life. Maybe in 10 or twenty years things will change but in my corner of the world that's the way it is. Hence, my post envying women.