Pink Fog - Do Anything

I've read some great posts about the Pink Fog on this and am wondering how people regulate their PF phases.

At the beginning of the year I was deep, deep in one such phase - went clothes shopping crazy, filled my place with scented candles, bought new bed linen (white with floral trim), bought perfume (for the first time) - had several meets, got laser hair removal - I'm pretty sure if someone offered me hormone pills, I'd have jumped at the offer.

Alas, it subsided and then I went into a dressing lull for almost 3 months - sure from time to time I was checking out various sites and reading forums and in chat rooms but that was about it. Then, it came back with a vengeance last week. It only lasted two days but again during those two days I'd have done anything - happened to be away so was quite inconvenient (luckily) and so couldn't fulfil on much of what I wanted to do. I read a great post by a 'Ciara' on this dating back a couple of years and wondered how she has faired since then. I haven't posted here despite being a member and so I can't contact her.

Anyway I'd love to get other people's feedback on this - specifically the frequency and strength of such Pink Fog phases that others have experienced.

Many thanks.

Michelle

I love being in the pink fog, and I miss it during those brief periods when it subsides. (Usually when I'm very tired, and only for a few hours.)

I think that a day without the pink fog is like a day without ...
without ...
without ... hmmm ...
Without the pink fog!

Pink fog sucks and makes you irrational....

I don't like the idea of being obsessed, certainly not to the point where I make poor choices. Fog obscures your vision and judgement.

The fog is certainly not my friend, and I really don't see it as a positive phenomenon. If left unchecked it becomes a terrible compulsion and I tend to get careless (not out yet) in my behavior.

The Pink Fog will hit me once every three to four days. I'll often ask myself why I'm not having the fog when I don't have it and wonder if it's gone for good. But alas, give it 72 or so hours and it comes back with a vengeance as expected. I have found they get lighter though after the first time dressing after the fog. I'm not an endocrinologist / specialist but I'm pretty sure it has to do with dopamine diminishing marginal returns, sleep cycles, hormonal cycles, stress levels etc.

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Originally Posted by Fifi

I'm pretty sure it has to do with dopamine diminishing marginal returns

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Yes this I can relate to! I never fear the Pink Fog, as it is my dearest friend. When the dopamine arrives, I try to embrace it, while maintaining balance. I try not to shop too much, for dresses and panties and other fun stuff.

I have to say i'm in a lull right now. Havn't been interested in dressing for about a week now. I find when the fog does hit I get very compulsive, and do very silly things - its almost like I want to get caught out. Strange. I enlightened my brother to my dressing habits last week, which went great and the fog was strong because of this, but the next day a health issue reared its head and all of sudden i'm not even remotly interested! I really hope the fog comes back as I'm due to get a custom made dress fitted on friday so i hope im in the right mood.
I do tend to find mood/health has a great effect on it. If I'm down or sick I have no interest, but if i'm healthy and happy the fog rolls in and causes havoc. The longest I have had a lull ofr was about 2mths, and that was just after I told my mum and didnt get the response i was hoping for. Mostly it just last a week or two then its back in full force!

In the period that it all went into hiatus did you have other interests such as a new girlfriend or some other distraction?

I equate the ping fog to a small kid getting an all-day-sucker. when they first get it their concentration is only for the sucker. Gut as the day wears on they interest will go to other things but they will hold onto the sucker. Once its finished, they still remeber it and want another one but go on with their lives thinking about it. Then, they get another and the whole process starts over.

I am almost always in a pink fog. My current obsession is bras. I.can't.get.enough of the sexy ones. If a Victoria's Secret or Frederick's bra (or related) at a thrift store is hanging up, it's mine. Size almost doesn't matter, as long as it's sexy. My natural size is 34B, but I can fit into most. The pink fog only exists when I'm at home or shopping, as I work in drab and honestly don't have time to think about it then. At this point in my life, I have pretty much decided I'm done with relationships, so I dress every day and shop every day off (thank GOD for thrift stores, as I am not a wealthy person).

the main problem with the Pink Fog for me, besides being a major suck on my time, is that it makes me incredibly self-involved. it is a manic behavior that can take control of my entire thought process, and I worry that I sometimes see it as an excuse for avoidant behaviors.

Duration: An Eternity
Strength: Overwhelming

I suffer the worst when I am separated from my wife. When we are together I don't have the same frequency or strength in my urges.

The fog hits me when I am visually stimulated by a GG that is wearing something that I really like. It could be a sexy dress, or even a color not necessarily pink, I look at GG's lipstick and when a color or a set of perfectly formed lips are made up perfect I get that tingling that says you got to try that. I always am on the look out for GG's that are dressed to perfection and I am almost to the point of staring and watching them move and their mannerism's and this gets the fog to rolling in. Liz my wife has always asked me why do you get so excited when I would follow her into the women's section of clothes in stores. Now she knows and she will taunt me some and just smile.. She is having fun starting the fog in me. She has helped me also a lot to control it by telling me that we can get this item cheaper at another store. I am aroused and breath will be shorter and faster till we arrive at the other store...even if we stop to eat or are detained before we arrive to buy me that item the fog will last till it is in my hands and on the way home. I just started with a small bag tucked neatly away in my bottom dresser drawer and now has magically grown to two full suitcases under our bed. That dang fog has encapsulated me often and I love it.....

I love this thread!
First and foremost, the pink fog makes me happy, makes me smile, helps me to relax if I feel tense or stressed, and when it wraps itself around me, I simply embrace that fog.
I always feel it in the morning, to some degree. I live alone, so it's very easy to me to go with any feelings I may have. I can just toss on panties and a robe, and any type of shoes I feel like at the moment, and I'm off and fogging (smile), making coffee and being enfemme.
And yes, I get the shopping fog too. I'm not back to going out in complete drag, as of yet, but I take on a more feminine look...slim jeans, girls sandals, tighter shirts (for lack of a better way to describe it)...just an overall more femme look. And my mannerisms, oh my, they just switch right over.
Then it's usually off to a coffee shop, to just people watch...or to be seen myself. It's difficult to describe. I think sometimes I radiate the femme feelings I have back out...it's a bit scary, but nothing that goes overboard. It helps being a naturally quiet person.
And yes, it does make me more apt to shop...but I do it within a budget. I have no fear of waltzing through the women's department at Kohl's or wherever, checking out clothing and lingeree for myself...it just doesn't matter to me anymore. Yes, that's a rush, too...my heart still pounds, but it's so much fun, and I like to have fun! Shoes too...I just love having a new pair, and feeling the pink fog makes me much more apt to head out to a shoe store.
Then, I'll stay in drag all night, and love every minute of it...The fog works for me...

Lisa

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Originally Posted by michelle33

I've read some great posts about the Pink Fog on this and am wondering how people regulate their PF phases.

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You need to bring your presentation to the point where you will feel comfortable going out in the mainstream, and start going out regularly to more places than just TG support groups and clubs.

After about a year or two of doing this on a regular basis at least a few times per week, I think that the pendulum will stay in the middle most of the time and you won't go overboard on much. You will have moved from the fantasy spectrum of what it must be like to be a woman, to the more realistic experience of going out in the world as one. I say this in a good sense, but it really does become quite ordinary after a while. :p

... you may still get overwhelming desires to express the beauty in femininity that you see around you especially during the change in seasons when the new catalogs come out and the GGs are either wearing new Spring or cute Fall clothes, but you'll have become better at keeping it all in balance.

... you may still go overboard on the clothes, but this is it's own issue and really has nothing to do with the CDing. A lot of people like to shop and get new things to fill internal voids whether they CD or not.

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Agreed....very irrational - for me in any case!

May(be), you described my feelings very well - it makes me v self involved and I do view it as a form of manic behaviour. Thanks for your reply. x

Thanks to all for their comments - this was my first post on here and it's very gratifying to get so many detailed responses and views. I think I just need to very aware of my 'state' during the pink fog and try to regulate my decisions when I know I'm in that intense phase. Again, thanks to you all for your contribution.

xxx

OMG that is what that is called. lol

It's always running in the background within my brain and it's da*ned depressing because I haven't fully dressed now in well over a year. I still get to under dress on occasion, but 98% of my "good" stuff is just lying dormant because of real life and some issues at home - VERY depressing!!!!

When I first came out to my wife back in 2004 or 2005, can't remember which, she was surprisingly supportive and still is - that's when the first true big "pink fog" wave swept over me for about six months. Couldn't stop shopping and buying the stuff I had wanted for sooo long. Ended up with somewhere around 250 pairs of panties before it was over - a lot of them retro silky pin-up style stuff. Got a few corsets, a few shapers, bunch of clothes and shoes from thrift stores, a decent pair of breast forms, a couple of wigs, you name it. Now it's all put away and dormant except for the shoes - wife and I have the same size foot, so I get the pleasure (sarcasm) of watching her wear MY shoes all over the place. Sigh...