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There are several species of ducks I'd prefer to get in their rows before making that decision.
First is your motivation a real need to share or a product of excitement as you grow into your new awareness of yourself? If it's some variation of pink fog making that choice, you better back off for a while. Next I'd take a good look at your company policies on protections for employees. The best results usually come from contacting H.R. first to make sure management is behind you, then staging your coming out. Normally, but not always, this is done prior to going full time. Then it's probably a good chance to take a look at the other people around you. Have they shown support for the LGBTQ+ community in the past or are you in the dark as to how they feel? And how does your wife feel about that? Is your wife okay with you sharing this information about yourself? If so would she prefer you share with other close friends or family first?
All that said, your's may be a very progressive company with uniformly great and understanding employees with no agendas of their own that would ever, anytime in the future reflect back on that knowledge.
I'm not saying "No", but suggest you avoid being impulsive. There are many ways this could go quite well and end up in your favor, but history has shown there are probably an even larger number of ways for it to go wrong.
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#1 What Di said. Discuss it with your wife first.
#2 As others have pointed out, the fact that it's work complicates this way beyond friendship. The company I retired from had a progressive H. R. Policy. On paper it would look like it was all good. But in truth, our division was broken down into smaller branches each with as branch manager who would interpret things as they saw fit, and who was also responsible for our performance reviews. He was very good with the sales numbers, so his job was very secure. He was also something of a petty tyrant who could be very vindictive when things didn't go his way. If he didn't like someone, their "performance" ratings would begin going down until eventually he got rid of them.
I was careful not to get on the wrong side of him. But I would NEVER have risked my personal secrets getting into that building, regardless of who I was friends with.
Now that I am retired, and my income is safe, I don't care who knows. But you have to pick your battles.
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You wish to reveal that you are a ???? No benefit whatsoever...Stick with your wife.
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Remember, the number of people it requires to keep a secret: ONE.
This seems to be the typical chain of secret keeping: https://youtu.be/brC_jK6stBs?t=20s
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Whoa!!!
Don't let the Pink Fog blind you.
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Friends, maybe, but think it through and never rush in. I have some friends who know and that's been a great addition. As for co-workers, that's really got to be a big no. Which leaves friends who are co-workers, well, they're co-workers. The best advice that I've ever seen on these boards on this topic is, don't think about what you wan't to happen, consider (and consider deeply) what is the worst case scenario. And that should help you make up your mind.
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Lexic18,
Coworkers. . . So you’re not “out” to your coworkers but wish you were?
When a few of my coworkers found out it was because they hugged me or put their hand on my shoulder and felt my bra strap or band. I didn’t announce it to anyone and asked respectfully that they didn’t share my secret. I did lose a couple of “friends” at work but they did keep my secret. The coworkers that remained my friends and continued to speak with me are still my friends even though I don’t work there. We did on occasion go shopping and a couple of ladies nights here and there. I was fine with who knew, the possibility that more knew is very possible but no one ever said anything nor treated me different.
Just remember once the cat is out of the bag, there is no putting it back in. Just like a picture you post. It doesn’t belong to you anymore.
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Michelle
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A secret is not a secret if more than one person knows. Daviolin
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I confided in a cpl of girls at work and I've never had cause to regret it,but I've worked with them for a hell of a long time.we've shared lots of girly chsts
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Hi Lexie :hugs:, See line #4 in my signature, Good Luck. <Orchid...:daydreaming:...