Am I the only one ...

Am I the only one who ventures out and has interactions with the "normals", good and bad? I try to post my adventures as an insight into every day occurrences while en femme. I know there are circumstances that prevent or limit others from going out, but I know there are others that do get out and there must be some kind of interactions. O.K. for example today I needed to mow my lawn and needed to get gasoline, so with forms and nails firmly affixed from Friday night it was a no brainer that I go en femme and with a little make-up to smooth the edges a quick style on my hair and a casual outfit off I went, while at the station I got out to get the can for my purchase and these are the same men that know me as a male yet refer to me as the gender I'm portraying. So after my fill up as I was traveling down a major road there was a police check point, at first my heart pounded out of my chest then I remembered that I was doing nothing wrong and had not broken any law lately, so as I see other cars getting waved by I figured it was an inspection sticker check, how wrong was I, it seems someone(female) had stolen from a store and was driving a blue Ford F-150 with silver diamond plate tool box in the back, so I fit the bill and was pulled over, after a check of my "papers please"(strong German accent for humor, I'm allowed as I am of German descent) the officer noticed my address from when my mother lived with me and on several occasions he had to answer the call for help, he knows me as a male and now faced with what could be considered a female his demeanor never faulted and asked about my mother, when I told him about her passing I believe his response was one of true remorse and sorrow and with that I drove away and wondered how many other officers know of me, I know of at least one other and if they inform each other about people in the community. Then upon arriving home proceeded to mow my lawn dressed as I was with large tortoise sunglasses and hang up my wash 50/50 male to female clothing. Why do these things happen to me and no one else, I love reading everyday events from others, good and bad just like life, kind of makes one feel like a part of a community and not alone in their struggle. Is anybody out there?

Interesting day!

I also enjoy the everyday living. While I don't or seldom wear makeup anymore I do dress fem. Most of the time I wear fem clothes. Last week I did a bunch of errands dressed as most of the women in my area. Everyone was happy to do business with me. Did shopping and went to a couple of department stores.

I only brave to walk a dog in the neighborhood at night but continue to build confidence. Love your day. Very interesting read.

I have a blog with my little adventures.
Today I checked out the make up in a large department store.
The lady advising me turned to show me some product and bumped her hip on a display, not so bad but the bump knocked her into another shelf then I cought her before she fell over.
It was a fun outing but not yet had any interaction with police, it's on my blog below

You aren't the only one. While I sometimes post my adventures here (search for "Eryn and") those are only the extraordinary outings. For every one of those there are several dozen trips to restaurants, grocery stores, hardware stores, etc. I just live life.

No not the only one:D
My partner and I posted all the time when we first went out over ten years ago.
But now it is our life ... It's what we do.
Still fun... Still us enjoying life but not new.

Add...thinking about what we posted ..... our first clubbing, then picnics, vacations, grocery shopping, mall shopping, restaurants Doing an act at a drag show together, going to the falls, going to the Capitol... Just trying to remember some of the things we posted when it was new .... Now it's just our life together.

It's always interesting to hear accounts and do a reality check against your own activities.

I have had good and bad ranging from the girl at the McDonald's wanting to know where I got my earrings from or the lady in the service area bathroom striking up a conversation. Through to close to being physically abused.

The last one has preyed on my mind and occurred about 3 years back when I went into to tkmax en femme to buy a new handbag.

On the way out a very verbal male started following me. He was horrible. He was eventually pulled away by his other half after telling me in no uncertain terms that he hated people "like me"

Do you know the worst thing? I actually half blamed myself as I had a pair of higher than usual heels on and stumbled at one point. I thought I'd attracted the problem!

All changed now though ��

Allisa, I write about going out and it always reads the same way: normal day. Nothing special. No one cares. It's so much easier than we make it in our heads.

No, you are not the only one. I do nearly all of my grocery shopping, running errands, etc. while en femme. There are times when my male self is expected, however.

It depends on the person and why they dress.

Personally, for me going to the grocery store, getting gas, doing the laundry etc. are just chores (unpaid work), something to be done and got over with as fast as possible. I save the dressing up for when I am going to do fun things I enjoy.

Thanks all, I mean not everyday out and about bland normal things, it just seems more than usual things happen to me, I read as many threads about us being out and it seems there are less and less postings about the off center encounters, not that I would want it any other way, life would be just as boring as in my male mode, does this mean I'm just a normal CDer in life?

I go out fifty percent of the time en femme. Yes all across this great state and other states so don't feel alone. Many of us are out and about. But have never been pulled over by the police yet. Still would not think it be a problem though.

I'm spending more and more time out en femme, doing routine shopping and small chores. Many times the only difference between my male presentation and female presentation is boobs & lipstick (especially now that the warm weather is here.) Either way I'm wearing femme casual clothes, earrings, have my nails painted, etc. I'm starting to think of myself as "TS lite" -- doing the real world experience with no intention to fully transition. But for all that, my days are pretty unremarkable, so i don't really remark on them. I do love to read your stories though and look for them whenever I come here.

The most remarkable thing I can come up with is that I had one iffy experience where some guy was making a point of calling me "sir" as if I was supposed to wither under his disdain but in fact I just smiled and went about my business thinking that there was a time that would have made me scurry off but now it didn't bother me at all. That was pretty cool to realize I had gotten there. ;)

Do it all the time, dinner, shopping, church, volunteering, socializing with the "normals", concerts, etc...

Sure its just normal life for me.

I'm gender fluid, MtF TG, and pretty much aiming for a 50/50 balance in my life. So I do all sorts of 'normal' things en-femme. I don't care at all if my neighbors see me dressed as a lady, and I've even explained my TG status to one of them since I moved here a few months ago.

I take my 20 year old daughter out for dinner at local restaurants as a girl more often than I do as a guy. I go shopping for groceries or gas up the car. I pick up a pizza for dinner, ordered on-line. Go out for drinks and or dancing in the evening with lady friends (mostly lesbians). Go for a hike with friends. Do my full work day while working from home, fully dressed and made up. I shop at the mall. I go see movies. I get food at the mall food court or fast food places, or coffee at Starbucks. Shop for stuff at an import shop. Go to live music venues. Go to nightclubs. Spent a day on a yacht on a lake with a bunch of people I hardly knew, in a bikini the whole time, and passed for eight full hours with all but the two ladies who already knew I was TG before they invited me to the party on their friend's boat. Spent half of a 3-day weekend at an historical reenactment event en-femme, changing each afternoon from male to female and spending the rest of each day as a lady. (That was challenging, because people would see me as a lady, walking the same dog or wearing the same cloak as my male counterpart had been doing that morning...) The last eye exam I had, I did fully en-femme, so I could try on feminine frames and see how they went with my usual wig and makeup choices - I did the entire series of visits en-femme, from the shopping for frames through the eye exam and then picking up the glasses. As far as my optician knows, I'm female.

About the only thing I won't do as a lady, if the mood suits me, is go up the road an hour and a half from here to Portland and do things in that town as a lady. Why? Because I have family there that I am not out with, yet. And I don't want their first exposure to my female side to be a chance encounter in a public place, or seeing me on the news en-femme at a gay pride event. I plan to have that conversation with them sometime this next year, but on my terms, and gently introducing them to it, if at all possible.

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Originally Posted by Allisa

]So after my fill up as I was traveling down a major road there was a police check point, at first my heart pounded out of my chest then I remembered that I was doing nothing wrong and had not broken any law lately, so as I see other cars getting waved by I figured it was an inspection sticker check, how wrong was I, it seems someone(female) had stolen from a store and was driving a blue Ford F-150 with silver diamond plate tool box in the back, so I fit the bill and was pulled over, after a check of my "papers please"]

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One if the first times I ever went out enfemme; I also got stopped in a checkpoint for drunk drivers. I thought my heart was going to jump out of my chest. But the state trooper only asked me two things: "Is this your license?" (Reasonable under the circumstances) and "Have you been drinking tonight?" Said no and was on my way.

The first time I was ever read I thought I was going to die. I didn't, and it gets easier. I like to think I'm passable enough they can't be sure I'm not a gg or transitioning, but who knows?

I'm a "closet dresser". Which doesn't mean I don't go out dressed often because I do.:battingeyelashes:

But, never near where I live. No one knows I dress except immediate family.:eek:

I was busted by cops shooting some Sherry topless photos in a public park and by casino security for taking photos there.:sad:

I don't often rite about my every day contacts with vanillas unless they're note worthy. But, since I can't go out where I live the way u do, Allisa, I quite enjoyed reading about your fem activities!:battingeyelashes:

One of the pit and about tasks I regularly do whilst dressed is fuelling the car. Whilst most filling stations have loads of cameras they also now tend to have pay at pump . Very handy if you're not having a confident day ��

I go out and interact with the morals all the time just don't have much abnormal happen. I guess my life is pretty boreing. The most abnormal thing I get is someone remarking about how I'm dressed useually good but sometimes bad. It is just normal to me now. My only excitement comes from work most of the time and has nothing to do with this forum, I guess I could post stories in the lounge if you want to read those. Some fun times while driving a tow truck for police calls.

Sorry, but who are "the normals"?
I'm as normal as they come and I don't like the inference that I (we) am anything but that.

Sorry but this is a sore spot for me....

You are much braver than I am. I admire the way you get out and about. About the police officer, at least he did not hassle you.🌺

This is reminding me of an experience with the police awhile back. I was on my way to my trans meetup group on a summer evening, in a long spaghetti-strap sundress, when I tried to change lanes in busy traffic and the front of my car clipped the back bumper of a minivan. We both pulled out of the traffic to check damage. There was none to the minivan, but my front bumper cover was ripped halfway off and was dragging the ground. A police officer who happened to be right there also pulled over, shaking his head and observing that "everybody's in a hurry." He had us exchange information, but didn't bat an eye at the difference between me and my driver's license. That finished, I walked around to the front of my car, ripped the bumper the rest of the way off, stuffed it into the back seat, and went on my way. I was 15 minutes late for my meeting, but had a good story to tell! It was clear that this jurisdiction's police officers have had some transgender training, and I was impressed.

I keep to myself when out en femme; it's due to not having a female voice.
I try on high heels, but never buy anything; I will, however, smile and nod to SA's.
:)