Originally Posted by
Snow White
Steph, Just ONE time you allowed yourself......& it quickly became obvious???
Please, I am NOT jumping on you, I am only trying to understand. OK? I am your friend, NOT your foe.
"I have a great marriage and a great life". But, because you had a one time? reflection & made this life-changing; marriage destroying (I have read your wife's posts) decision?
The majority of married people in this country would not be able to TRUTHFULLY say, " I have a GREAT marriage & a great life".
You want to destroy the woman you married because "I have always wanted to be female". WHAT CD doesn't feel this way?
That is why Tara & every CD on here tries their best to emulate a female-because they want to be female. Tara does not just play dress-up & acts like a woman. She BECOMES Tara (a different personality).
Please don't throw away what you have.
You promised your wife (I am assuming) that you would love, cherish, honor, etc. until death?
What is more important to you- an epiphany you once had (& a crappy therapist-to suggest you transition and destroy your marriage) OR your "great marriage" to your "best friend"?
A crappy therapist did not help my older sister-she killed herself anyway....despite giving this 'therapist' thousands of $$$ for 10 yrs. Some help she was.
Just because a 'therapist' says "you do this" does not mean they are making the best suggestion. Please-I don't want to hear complaints from Therapists.....MOST are awesome!
I hope I have not angered you. I am trying to help you & your wife.
I just know the pain your wife is feeling right now.
And, she LOVES you, too.
P.S.: If I ALLOWED myself to feel through the process of losing all of my beloved family members in such a short timeframe-I would fall into a DEEP depression that I may never overcome. So-I DO NOT allow myself to feel this. I am too young to lose them at this point in my life-that's supposed to happen to most people in their 60's & 70's & so on.