Advice for a young GG who is attracted to CDs
(I originally posted this in the "Introduction" section but realized that was incorrect. So I tried to delete it but couldn't. And then, I lost everything I originally wrote so I have to re-write it. I know, a hot mess :heehee: )
(Please bear with me, this is gonna be a long one)
Hello everyone,
I am happy to be apart of this platform and am appreciative that it exists. I can see that it helped and still helps a lot of people and that puts a big smile on my face.
A little about me:
I am a 24-year-old genetic woman; I was born a woman and identify as a woman (I am new to this term and hope I am using it right). I am attracted to feminine men and have been since middle school. But I pushed it down and didn't really understand it until I reached my 20's. At first, I thought I liked women because I fancied everything feminine (including people) but I felt off about that.
However, being exposed to and interacting with feminine men, I realized exactly what I liked. Buuut I still didn't accept it fully because I feared others reaction and I thought all feminine men were gay (but never had malice towards this. I just sort of gave up).
Fortunately, after doing some soul searching and research, I disregarded others opinions and found that not all feminine were gay (I apologize for this wide-spread belief :sad:). I am happy about my attraction to feminine males, transgendered males, and androgynous people. I believe they are beautiful and lovely :rose:
I am feminine myself and feel strongly that a feminine male is compatible.
What I need advice with:
- During my research, I found that those like me are called "chasers" and I strongly dislike this. I do not have a fetish for feminine males nor do I have any desire for only sexual things (This is deeply sad). How can I date CDs/feminine males without being seen as a chaser?
- Are there young CDs? As I said above, I am 24 and I would like to stay close to my age.
- What can I do to support the CD community and feminine males? As well as transgendered people? Do you have advice on this?
- Do you have any other advice to give me?
As a side note, I acknowledge that finding someone will be hard due to my preference, but I am okay with that. I will wait for the right person.
Thank you very much for reading my essay (lol) and I wish you a great day!
Cheers :D!
What I mean by femininity :)
Hello everyone!
I am so grateful for everyone's response, advice, and knowledge! I wanted to respond to each of you but 1) that would take so much time and I won't finish quick enough since I tend to rumble and 2) I don't know my way around a forum well enough to even attempt to respond one by one.
So this will be addressed to all :D!
One big question I am seeing repeated is what I mean by femininity. I will give my thoughts on that below. Please bear with me, my views may be unconventional.
Femininity to me has less to do with appearances and more to do with mannerisms, attitudes, and inner being. A feminine look gets my attention but a feminine being draws me in. Pose, calm and peaceful energy, cleanliness, delicate touches, gentle gazes, and so much more - all of this is feminine to me and are things that I do myself (someone mentioned that CDs may be a mirror of myself and I think I am understand that now).
Femininity goes even deeper that for me. Femininity is very strong and "all knowing". It has an air of crispness that I can only compare to the dawn air in a valley. Every breath is clean and cleanings.
Femininity is strong in that it has stood against and continues to stand against attacks and confinement. Femininity is respectful, nurturing, and resembles that of a Sage or a Wise One.
Now, do I expect a person to have all of this features? Absolutely not. This is only my view of femininity. As for my view of how a feminine male looks/acts and what attracts me to him, if he is calm and peaceful, delicate with his touches, and seems to "know" things, I view him as feminine. He has a silent strength about him and humble confidence. A soft gentle smile and an almost-floating stride, I believe this is feminine. It is being silently strong (very compact version of what I mean).
Am I also expecting my future partner to always Crossdress? No, I don't expect him to always look like a woman. That is ultimately his decision. However, I do not want brutish behavior, like overly masculine vibes. That is unsettling to me and makes me feel uneasy. Masculine energy is definitely called for in situations, but overly masculine energy is wasteful (in my opinion). It's like having a pristine pastel white kitchen be splatter with dirty brown paint. It's just....unsettling.
Please, if that was confusing, I completely understand. I have a very unconventional thought about things and it can be a bit difficult to fully express it. If you have any questions about what I said, please, please ask and I will be more than happy to answer.