Friendship that will last a lifetime

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02-17-2017, 11:32 AM
Jenn868

Friendship that will last a lifetime

Good Morning Ladies,

I wanted to create a post around friendship and support. As I get older(31 years) my circle of friends gets smaller and smaller. I have been fortunate to have came out to my family and some close friends over the years, and have had a good reaction to who I am. As life goes on some friends fade, due to lives of their own. I wanted to take the time to talk about one of my best friends who has been there for me pretty much my whole life. She did not really find out about Jocelyn (Jenn is an old name), until about 5 years ago. We always have so much fun together and just understand one another, it was easy for me to come out to her. I made a silly bet about sports(that I knew I would lose lol) and I would have to dress up like a girl if I lost. Anyway, I lost and we did the dress up thing, and had a fun time. Later on down the road I shared that I was into cross dressing, and also felt that I do feel like a woman on the inside. I know as of right now, that I feel more and more like it is not just a dressing up thing, and more that I feel like a woman. I have been looking into therapy, etc...Just wanted to share this. VEE (my friend) has such a big heart and right away she said that she was there for me no matter what, and you are beautiful whoever you chose to be. Right away I literally started to tear up because she was so genuine about how she felt about me, our friendship, and the things going on in my life. If felt so good to share everything with her, and truly be myself. She helps me with advice when I am feeling low, we talk about anything and everything, and it is amazing to have such an amazing friend in my life who does not fade out. I feel our friendship has become even stronger over the years, and we are always there to support one another. It is nice to write about it here, because I know a lot of you ladies go through the same struggles with support and friendship. Vee is one of a kind, has the greatest heart, is a strong woman, and has been just such a blessing in my life. I wanted to pay tribute to her friendship! I hope everyone has an amazing friday, hugs!
02-17-2017, 11:37 AM
raeleen

what an awesome story to read first thing in the morning! love hearing about your friend and how she has supported you jocelyn. you're a lucky gal. i've got a similar friendship with someone who has absolutely been my support and cheerleader as I've worked through my gender identity and it's huge to have a person who knew you before you started exploring gender identity stand by you as you begin the process. thanks for sharing, hun!
02-17-2017, 12:16 PM
Joni T

31 is "older" ? I'm twice your age and you think your circle of friends is shrinking?!?!? Honey, I've got news for you.
Joni
02-17-2017, 12:52 PM
sometimes_miss

Make friends, and keep them. Meet new people and make more, because they'll be gone when you least expect it. Over my lifetime, I never really noticed; oh, once in a while someone would tell me that someone from my past died, but it wasn't often. I'm a senior citizen now, and in the past couple of years, half of my friends have died. My mom too, and two cousins my age. People that had moved away, folks that I'd always thought I'd get to go visit, but never got around to doing it. Now they're all gone. The ones who are left, well, were never exactly my favorite people, yet, now they're all I have, so I see a better side of them than before, appreciate things that I had not.
See, when someone dies, we always think of the family, but we forget about the friends, who are often even closer to them. When I went to their wake, as I introduced myself, most said hello, a few, sorry about XXXX, but that was it. I had no one to tell, no way to deal with the hole left in my life.

So cherish your friends while they are there. You never know when they'll be gone.
02-17-2017, 01:03 PM
Zoe Lapin

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Originally Posted by sometimes_miss

So cherish your friends while they are there. You never know when they'll be gone.

Beautifully put, thank you for sharing and thank you Jenn for sharing such a great story. Hope all of you have a fun and safe weekend!
02-17-2017, 01:31 PM
Lana Mae

Jenn, glad you have such a good friend! Other than here, my friends are gone-moved away or died! Just am glad for my friends here! Hugs Lana Mae
02-17-2017, 01:52 PM
Jaylyn

Wow Lexi for a while and Jenn, I'm in my late 60s almost 70 and boy can I relate to both of your words. I've lost five friends that were very close to me. They weren't relatives but what I call friends. Heart attacks attributed to three, one to Vietnam Nam agent orange, and one to cancer. I felt alone for a long time. One was my hunting, fishing, and partner in crime buddy. We did a lot together. To this day I still think of him when I'm doing anything that we used to do together. I've made new so called friends but only one is really what I call my friend and he has diabetes and a liver problem. I've felt guilty that I'm healthy as a horse. If it had not been for my wife ( she has always been my best friend but not in the sense of my buddies have) I guess I would probably be an old alcoholic or something worse.
I want to tell you get your therapy or what ever but make sure you make memories as you are doing with your friend because they can be gone in a flash, and you'll blink twice and time will pass so fast that you out live your friends, then it's the pits for a while. Thank her for her friendship and don't ever take a true friend for granted. They are more precious than anything. When I saw your title friends that last a lifetime made me get a tear for the ones I've had and are gone.
02-18-2017, 11:09 AM
Jenn868

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Originally Posted by raeleen

what an awesome story to read first thing in the morning! love hearing about your friend and how she has supported you jocelyn. you're a lucky gal. i've got a similar friendship with someone who has absolutely been my support and cheerleader as I've worked through my gender identity and it's huge to have a person who knew you before you started exploring gender identity stand by you as you begin the process. thanks for sharing, hun!

thanks Raeleen! I feel really lucky that she has been sooo supportive. I agree with you so much girl!

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Originally Posted by sometimes_miss

Make friends, and keep them. Meet new people and make more, because they'll be gone when you least expect it. Over my lifetime, I never really noticed; oh, once in a while someone would tell me that someone from my past died, but it wasn't often. I'm a senior citizen now, and in the past couple of years, half of my friends have died. My mom too, and two cousins my age. People that had moved away, folks that I'd always thought I'd get to go visit, but never got around to doing it. Now they're all gone. The ones who are left, well, were never exactly my favorite people, yet, now they're all I have, so I see a better side of them than before, appreciate things that I had not.
See, when someone dies, we always think of the family, but we forget about the friends, who are often even closer to them. When I went to their wake, as I introduced myself, most said hello, a few, sorry about XXXX, but that was it. I had no one to tell, no way to deal with the hole left in my life.

So cherish your friends while they are there. You never know when they'll be gone.

very well said thanks for responding!

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Originally Posted by Zoe Lapin

Beautifully put, thank you for sharing and thank you Jenn for sharing such a great story. Hope all of you have a fun and safe weekend!

very beautifully put! thanks zoe you too

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Originally Posted by Lana Mae

Jenn, glad you have such a good friend! Other than here, my friends are gone-moved away or died! Just am glad for my friends here! Hugs Lana Mae

thanks Lana! the friendships here on this site are great!