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On this site, and when out dressed, I get a warm and calming feeling whenever calling someone, "sweetie", "dear", "love", etc. I feel the years of self protection, hiding affection, and male armor shed, especially when I know the receiver is a male, whether CD or not. I use these terms with loved ones, but it has a new feeling when used with my new friends here, or with total strangers, while in my female skin.
Julie,
I find I'm using sweetie far more and generally use affectionate terms more openly ,there are so many aspects of living as Teresa that I enjoy .
Thanks for the reminder, Julie. At all the countless T events I attended, there's no hesitation at using terms of endearment for others. Plus, hugs r standard greetings for girls u know! :hugs:
I wonder if that will change because of Covid?:straightface:
Ands it's even better when your out dressed and somebody uses those same enderaments when talking to you.
Agreed.
One rarely is addressed this way when presenting as a male. However, when I am en femme, and I hear one of these endearments targeted at me, I feel so good and accepted.
What about terms of reindeerment?Quote:
Originally Posted by kimdl93
I find myself using terms like 'sweetie, cutie, etc.' more on this site than otherwise. I try to be a source of positive energy at work, so I may greet a female co-worker as 'sweetie' to brighten things. Over the years I adopted some phrases for lady friends like 'the ray of sunshine in my artificially lit world,' or something. I have never referred to by a term of endearment by anyone but my wife -- or on this site. It does feel good when it happens. Thank-you.
I have been very mindful, when in male mode, to avoid calling a women, in public, I interact with and do not personally know, as "Dear", "Sweetie", "or Cutie".
Some women may take it in a way that you are showing a superiority over them with the label....honest, sad time these are. :eek:
Hearing the terms while presenting as Candice and it is all good!
In fact, anything to champion a honest reaction to affirm my looks and mannerisms, is wonderful! :battingeyelashes:.
From a GG point of view, I really don't like "strangers", even SA's using terms of endearment with me. It seems so fake. I have no problem, if I know the people.
I have also heard some GG's complain to "strangers", such as "I'm NOT your honey!"
I think there is a fine line between "affirming" and "condescending". It's possibly a regional thing; but most people where I live don't use those terms unless they are speaking to an SO or child.
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Originally Posted by paula_16
Slay!💋Sleigh! 🛷.
- L.
hello Julie,
a late fiend of mine called everybody (and I mean everybody) "love" or "pet"; he was from Liverpool,
It's a cultural thing!
stay healthy,
Luv J
Outside of immediate family, I never use endearments. When I hear others use them...uck. 👎 We agree with Char.
Not me... nothing endearing at all... pretty sure others think I have a potty mouth most of the time. ?Yinz get the f$#! Out of the way.... jagoff!!? Yeah... I speak Pittsburghese...
I was in Florida one time, minding my own business, sitting on a bench outside while my wife did some grocery shopping inside. I woman came by and said something to me, calling me either "sweetie". My first thought was, "How the H did she know (my secret)?" I did a quick self-check, and didn't see any obvious "tells". After my wife go finished shopping, I told her what happened, and asked her about it. She's a native Floridian. She said that's just Florida. It's like how you would say, "Hi", up north.
We were in Northern Florida, which I always thought of as culturally "South Georgia", as opposed to central or south Florida.
In short, in my case, it was cultural. I wasn't outed.
Terms of endearment always give me a positive feeling, I never look further than that.
Why worry? :-)