Gone down an unexpected path?
I am wondering if any one has spent most of there life (28 years) dressing or thinking about it, and when you were able to really do your own thing ended up taking it farther (what ever that means to you) than you ever thought you would.
The reason for the question: My Gf is very very worried that in 10 years I will decide I'm gay and divorce her and leave kids (if any), or decide I want to get implants. She really has a hard time with my breast forms (my favorite item). And she gets the gay thing from her counselor who has dealt with other dressers who have done this. Though he was also quick to say that is a very small group, though the idea is now firmly in her mind.
SO has any one done something they "knew" they never would?
Also any help with helping her come to terms and trust me?
Hmmm the girlfriend is worried about you showing up in bed gay in 10 years?
Darling from my exeprience it is not about you being gay or straight. It is about you being male or female.
Your situation sounds like mine 20+ years ago (My first daughter just turned 20).
She and you shouldn't be worried about you falling in love with other men. Her therapist is right. Very few crossdressers leave there wife for another man. However, many more realize that they were actually women and leave their families behind because of it. .
To answer your question, I have the perfect life by guy standards. I have a wonderfiul and beautiful wife, four great kids and perfect job. Right now I am trying to decide if it is better for them if I am a woman or a man Booyha. I doesnt go away!
You are the only one that has the answer in you. If you feel the least bit like you may one day want to jump to the light side. Yes, Luke I said light side. Then let her know now. If you love her and love your future kids you need to make decissions based on that possiblity rather than an assumption that you will be able to hang all of this in a closet and forget that it existed. I hate to tell you this but you will likely face that day.
Sorry for being so blunt, but my experience tells me that you need to be true to her, your future children and most of all yourself. If she accepts you for you then love her for the rest of your life. If she doesn't move on. No matter what love who you are and never deny it or hide it from others. In my humble opinion that is the secret to success.