Join the club.... and enjoy!!
Mine left about 13 years ago, with nothing to do with my dressing (as she never found out). Right now, I'm in flowered capri slacks with a back zipper and a cute white girly top. There's lipstick on my coffee mug. .......and all the rest! You'll be able to do this any time you desire. Kick back, and start enjoying your life. Mine's never been better! Good Luck...
If you have done everything....
If you have done everything you could do, been honest with her the entire way, not cheated, etc., then there really isn't anything else you could do. The decision is all on her. You let the chips fall where the would fall, this was her decision.
Hiding, cheating, lying would not have improved your situation one bit....
My heart goes out to you, but realize that another door will open as this one closes.