That said, it is interesting that you chose someone in your "vanilla" circle to come out to. That is a bold move but one I'm sure you made carefully. I happen to keep pretty sharp separation between my girl and guy circles of interaction. Think of a Venn Diagram, the only area of commonality is my wife and she is like yours, DADT (or Y,W as I described it elsewhere
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...-)&highlight=). I don't agree with the previous post which suggested you need to drag your wife into this if she isn't comfortable in doing so. Mine isn't and at this point I have 1000% accepted that and would actually be weirded out if she said one day she wanted to join me on an outing. She knows who my dear friends are. She knows how close my emotional attachment to them is, including Diana who is a natal female. These are dear friends just the same as I have cherished friendships on the guy side as well. My fondness for ALL of my friends is the same no matter what even if there is clear separation between the two camps.