Re: Tough Love or Compassion (or a bit of both...)
Regarding Chelea's situation, it was mentioned that the wife was recently blindsided and as such, I think it's fair to assume that Chelsea herself is also in that acute phase of identity in that coping with the weight of it all is quite new. Transition might be in the cards, just as holding to a middle path could be. But until there is peace in the decision making process, either choice will likely be met with a counter-balance of misery to some degree.
A certain amount of resolve is needed no matter which path someone takes for it to be sustainable. I truly think that both emotion and enormity are interfering with the prospects of making that important long-term decision any time soon. I totally agree with Kaitlyn in that misery as a male is not an acceptable option. Now does not seem like the best time to commit long-term to existing in both worlds.