Originally Posted by
Charlotte7
Victim blaming is never correct as it gives permission to abusers and aggressors. The fault always lies with the abuser or the aggressor. There is no circumstance in which anyone deserves an 'ass kicking'. To say so not only lets everyone on this forum down, but it lets every abused, beaten, harrassed, oppressed, and every other negatively treated GG down. We are all in this together and we should all support each other. This is not woolly, 'liberal' wish thinking, it's how the world is. If I present as a tart in a club and a man assaults me, and discovers a package that he wasn't expecting, that's his problem for initiating the assault. When he hits out, he's not hitting at the person who deceived him, he's blindly lashing out at his own inadequacy. That's his problem. It should never be excused.
Sorry, for the slight rant, but victim blaming is a red rag to me.