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I can live without wearing bras/nighties around her, but not sharing this part of myself with her diminishes our marriage.
It seems a little harsh to say "diminishes our marriage". It sounds like a talk is in order. Maybe she doesn't mind bras and nighties once in a while. Maybe when she gave you the first bra, she didn't realize that you wanted to wear one every day. Before you think you are in a DADT, have a heart to heart conversation without adding the emotion into it. Diminishing your marriage and contemplating a separation from a marriage that means a great deal to you sounds a bit extreme (from an outsider's point of view).