"You've Come a Long Way, Baby!"
Teresa, as the expression goes "You've come a long way, baby!" I really hope you have been keeping a record of your posts over the three years you've been on this forum. Your life really has the makings of a decent serial soap opera. I mean that in a good way. There are some fine British/English on going serial programs on our public broadcasting stations. You've given the readers a really in-depth look at the turmoil of a male trying to decide what he really is, and, how that impacts on those around him.
Frankly, I am really happy for your increasing ability to recognize who you really are, and, the manner in which you express yourself. On the downside, it does upset me somewhat that your wife's life is increasingly being unfulfilled when it comes to the attention or lack thereof that a woman needs. I don't know the outcome for you and your wife, but, that's the draw for a serial soap opera.
This conversation you've started seems to have become somewhat contentious.
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Jenniferathome
Really? "Dress up" as in what a little girl does when she puts on a princess or mermaid costume? I don't play "dress up."
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I guess I missed Zooey's comment back in post #37. I do agree with Jennifer's retort. I readily admit I really do not feel the angst any transwoman or transman experiences. I had gone off to another tab while I was formulating my post at #63 to look at the exceptional high rate of attempted or contemplated suicides among the transgender community. That really tells me there is real turmoil in that group. I'm sure it is a combination of "being in the wrong body" and a lack of acceptance or perceived acceptance by society. I also looked up the actual suicide rate and the causes for combat veterans. Not the "self reported" attempted or contemplated rates. When you're dead there is no self reporting. Is there? Anyway you slice it there is some turmoil happening in the brain. There is conflict that needs to be resolved.
Am I a cisgender man who plays dress up? If I were to look like that dad in a commercial who comes to his daughter's tea party dressed as a very hairy fairy, that would be an attempt at playing dress up. Just read the postings on threads on this forum. The men here are racking their brains silly trying to figure out why he, and, I am using the proper pronoun, why is he risking all that is holy in his life by wearing a bra, hosiery, makeup, etc? Why is he willing to not observe the conformity demanded of society? Violating all the basic norms? There is more here than playing dress up.
I don't know the answer to why I like on occasion to wear women's clothing. As I have stated on occasion a female counselor I see for combat related PTSD (yes, killing people, not killing people, having people trying to kill me, and seeing and participating in the mayhem of warfare) sugests (her opinion) that each person has some degree of DNA of the opposite sex in the genes. It influences who they are. I suppose and it must be more than conjecture that the "pull" is greater for some than others.
Frankly, my life would have been a lot less stressful if I did not wear women's clothing on occasion. I am not a cisgender man playing "dress up." Maybe somebody can enlighten me as to what I am. I know who I am.
PS: It happened again. Try to post two separate comments and they always seem to run together. Ugh!