Originally Posted by
Julian
Adam,
Mannerisms can only help you pass so much. The "male vibe" has more to do with being comfortable, confident, and not letting other people dictate how you act. Also, when you're drunk, you may tend to revert back to your old mannerisms, so make sure there isn't too sharp a difference. For example, I act a lot more *ahem* flamboyantly when I'm drunk. During the day I do my best to keep my hand motions and such in check, but I don't want to seem 'straight acting'. I'm me. I want to act like me. The whole point of this is so that I can behave in a way that's comfortable and makes sense for me and my personality. I'm a gay guy, I wear nail polish, and I move my hands whichever way I damn please. I suggest you do the same.
Also, FYI, a lot of my cis guy friends are WAY more 'feminine' or 'flamboyant' whatever you want to call it, than I am. You probably over-estimate the extent to which your mannerisms seem girly. I mean, I love My Little Pony and pink sparkles (love pink sparkles) as much as the next guy, but when I compare myself to my friends, I'm actually pretty manly. Develop your own way of acting like an adult and this will take you a lot farther than just copying the guys you see around town. Without jumping onto the unicorn bandwagon (although, it is fun up here with the unicorns), you are unique, and you have your own unique mannerisms that are uniquely you. Don't come all this way just so you can act like every douche bro in Philly. You're you. Own it.