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I haven’t really been following this thread consistently. I’m only now realizing hat it’s in effect a journal of nikki’s emergence. The discussion of weight loss caught my attention because once upon a time I lost a log of weight, down trom 235 to 168 on a 6’3” frame. According to the insurance industry charts it was deemed a healthy weight, but not on my frame. Someone with a slight build, perhaps like Nikki, may be just fine in that range.
as for jealousy? Nah, I’d say your wife is struggling with the changes she associates with Nikki’s emergence. That’s understandable.
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I do agree with kim that your wife is struggling with Nikki's emergence. I don't think she is envious of your weight loss. Her mental picture of you was developed over the course of your marriage. Your mental image of your self is different than her image of you. Maybe if she told you would look better as a woman with some extra pounds on you would actually look better. If I had to choose better Marilyn Monroe and Twiggie, I'd take Marilyn Monroe. Many women look a lot better with "some meat on their bones." I can only see the obsession of achieving the look you think you should have as having negative consequences in the future.
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Speaking about emergence, I want to go out dressed up and try to blend in. I need to approach my wife and see if this is something that we can slowly plan together for the future.
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Halloween just passed. That's usually the day when guys get a pass and go out en femme. Based on your postings you're wife does not seem to be on board with you wearing women's clothing. I suspect you will get a lot of push back on the idea. In a prior thread you said you're five foot eleven. Throw on a pair of heels and you're going to be very visible. That sort of kills the blending idea. Even GG's of five foot eleven stature with heels are going to draw attention. You used the word "together." Are you expecting her to accompany you or just help with your appearance. If she really will accompany you out of the house perhaps a trip to a convention would put her more at ease.
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Great point Stephanie...if I get permission from my wife to go out, I'll definitely wear flats to help me blend in since I'm 5'11". Didn't have the nerve, or really a good opportunity, to ask her over the holidays for permission to go out sometime in the future. Although she's ok with me dressing she certainly isn't very supportive. I'm hoping that could change. I think it would be best to go together to a transgender conference like Keystone perhaps. I think it would be nice for her to connect with other spouses whose husband/wife dresses en femme.
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On Samsung phones, there is a separate secured area that works like a second profile. Anything done in that section is invisible to the main profile and vice versa. Very handy. :)
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Nikki you look great in that picture. As long as your exercise does not become obsessive and you eat a healthy mix of foods, then your weight does not really matter.
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Yesterday, I saw my wife after having been away from her for a few weeks. Thankfully, she was happy to see that I gained a few pounds and she didn't give me any lip about looking emaciated. Also, she continued to be ok with my shaved/epilated legs, short arm hairs and tweezed/thinned eyebrows. All in all, I'm fairly content with where I'm at in negotiating with her my physical expression of my inner femininity.