Originally Posted by
ginapoodle
Initially a 7-8, pretty high acceptance: helping me buy clothes and makeup. That was about ten years ago.
Then life happened that resulted in my wife experiencing a lot of grief and depression (mother killed in major car accident, father severely injured, and more).
Support dwindled fast to very low, maybe 2-3. Last summer I re-energized Gina, and kept my wife in the loop. She neither pushed back, nor supported, nor initiated any discussion or questions. I gave many openings--nothing. So, we are in DADT and I do not want to press her given her current stress levels and history of anger when I do engage in pushback or confrontation.
The conclusion: people are variable in acceptance.