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Twenty questions
1) When did you start dressing?
I was 5 or 6 when I first wore my mother's panties then bra
2) At what age did you pick your name?
I've had several over the years but my real name was chosen when I finally decided to come out to my wife fully. I was 49.
3) why did you pick that name ?
I was adamant that it would not be some female variation of a common male name. I wanted it to be feminine and distinct. I wanted it to be me.
It was also a slight homage to my very first crush.
4) Are you married, single etc?
Very happily married.
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes, I was going crazy hiding from everyone and finally told her everything.
6) When did you tell them?
Just over 20 years ago.
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
It involved many tears, heart aches, long nights talking, and the most nervous night of my life when I dressed fully for her for the first time.
It took time, but she is fully understanding and accepting.
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have released myself from all the secrecy and guilt at a much younger age and come out when I was in college.
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I love classic styles. I prefer skirts and blouses for the variety and flexibility they give my wardrobe and for the ease of which I can better fit my figure. As I've matured my style has become what some
might call average and that's just fine. I'm happy being me and just being "one of the girls". I'm just as comfortable in jeans and a top as in a beautiful gown or dress and I feel just as much ME no
matter what I'm wearing and that's what I've always wanted.
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I'm a little lonely now that we've retired. Though I dress nearly full time now I crave others to share what I've learned. Unfortunately we seem to have moved to an area without many like me and I
haven't been able to find any groups or singles within a reasonable distance to make new friends.
11) Favorite place to shop?
Lord & Taylor for one. They have some great deals on closeouts and I'm a bit "cheap"...lol. I also like getting deals on eBay. It's been a while since I've gone clothes shopping as I have a fairly extensive
wardrobe and am currently trying to wear everything just to make sure I still like what I have and that it all still fits with all this quarantine business.
12)Have you purged?
Of course, who hasn't? I've done it 4 or 5 times, not since I came out to my wife and never again.
13) If so did you regret it?
Of course, I spent a good deal of money on those things and just threw away so many lovely dresses and shoes and lingerie. It hurts just to think about it.
14) Any advice to new cders?
Find a support group. Meet others and talk, share and learn. It will help you grow and give you more self-confidence. It will also help take away those feeling of guilt and shame that many of us bear.
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes. I had my wife do it once an age ago for Halloween. I've had a few makeovers by professionals, but now I simply do my own. I know how I want to appear to the world and I've developed enough
skill to be able to do it myself. Besides, I just love the process. Seeing the change is rewarding and also emotionally satisfying.
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I just want to be me. Not sure where this is leading, but I'm enjoying the journey now that I have accepted myself.
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Wish my mom was still alive and that I could tell her. I think she would accept me and that would be an enormous emotional lift.
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Yes, I was very close to someone a lifetime ago and when I told her she turned away and it ended something beautiful.
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Some 14 years ago the wife and I took a "girls only" vacation. We traveled around New England for a week as girlfriends. I was able to spend the entire week dressed. We went everywhere, to National
Parks, shopping, to dinner, museums and a tour of Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream factory. It was nerve wracking at first but by day 3 that all passed and the trip gave me such confidence in myself.
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?