I agree completely with Helen. We all respond to social pressure and standards - some are defiant; others don't want to diverge too far because of a fear that they will be forced into isolation by...
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I agree completely with Helen. We all respond to social pressure and standards - some are defiant; others don't want to diverge too far because of a fear that they will be forced into isolation by...
I view it differently than most. Everything that we do has a reason why we do it or we wouldn't do it. PERIOD. And the people who study this have come up with a number of explanations and found a...
You did the right thing and in the right way. It is liberating to reveal yourself AND your feelings to another. The what is one thing but the feelings indicate the why at the most personal level....
Congratulations, Brandie. It sounds like you have had a successful journey over the years and have found yourself. That must give you a good deal of satisfaction and a very positive growth...
Like JulieC, I was one of the apparently dumb ones that got caught. OK. Unlucky rather than dumb. I was about 8 and had enjoyed myself many times with my mother's clothes (I am an only child so no...
It is a common story, but the details of yours are interesting. I am an only child, yet I was attracted to and secretly tried on my mother's clothes. It didn't remain a secret for long - I got...
Congratulations on beating cancer, especially a stage 4 cancer - of any kind but especially Leukemia. It is sad that people were so dismissive of your condition. I am currently being treated for...
Bea, you ask a couple of good questions. Here in Denver itself such reactions to my bag, which by the way is made by Swiss Army, are unusual and usually just a glance with a bit of wonderment or a...
Very good suggestions, Marie. I have been doing that for years and it rarely gets a reaction here in liberal Denver; not so good in very conservative locations. However, what does produce a reaction...
I regularly communicate via email with two people that experience that duality that you are referring to. We can easily discuss "guy things" or "girl things" in the same email because we each accept...
What absolutely wonderful events you have had. I can only imagine how great that must feel to be so accepted into the world of women in spite of having a Y-chromosome. Just goes to show, chromosomes...
I have gynecomastia as well and have grown a couple of nice but small boobs; left is a bit larger than the right. Between A and B cup size. That is normal with gynecomastia which can have multiple...
You have had some great responses to your post and I don't have much to add to what they have already said. This behavior is very complex and at the level of a crossdresser it can definitely exhibit...
My experience was similar to JulieC's description, although I was found out much earlier. Being read the riot act in 1953 was pretty severe and taught me to be secretive with the needs that kept...
The usual definition of transgender is so broad that it basically says that if you self identify with the gender identity of those of the opposite sex even once in awhile then you are transgender -...
You bring up some good points. I suspect how objective we are varies with mood and the current operation of your Sense of Self. It isn't too difficult to convince yourself you look better than you...
Isn't it wonderful when that happens? For me it is rare but does occur in certain situations and state of mind. The interpretation of the look we achieve sometimes is likely to be mostly an illusion,...
The "Ta Da" approach can be viewed as inconsiderate of the other person's feelings. Feelings are often more consequential than facts. I have found the best approach is to approach each person in a...
Wow, Di. You sure hit the bullseye with that starter post. I, like you, love all the responses - absolutely fascinating. The diversity is incredible! What an amazing group of people.
Thanks,...
Great question, Di.
For me it is no hobby. It is a part of an adaptation to living with an undifferentiated gender identity. Since I was able to sense an identity probably at 2 or 3 years old my...
All good and fair questions. I have seen much of the things that you have seen - there are a lot commonalities between us all, but at a finer scale one finds the multitude of differences. Wading...
Most people are on autopilot while they are busy doing what they are trying to accomplish. So, they don't examine other people very closely. As others have said, if you make a presentable female-like...
Certainly an interesting post, Betty. As for causes of our behavior it is pretty hopeless to look for that single, ultimate cause. It is very likely that such a beast does not even exist. As a...
I'm sorry Lilly, but I whole agree with Di and Char. It is perhaps not the best way to introduce this aspect of you to your 6 year old in this way. It is like forcing it on her with no preparation....
What a wonderful adventure. And so much acceptance is amazing. That's progress! By the time you got home you must of been floating on cloud nine.