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I guess I am not at a true place of acceptance. The therapist helped me realize that being a cross dresser doesn’t make me a bad or damaged person. But my reality is that I still...

Thank you everyone who replied. It’s helpful to see the different view points as each of us has a slightly different path, have been navigating this for longer or shorter periods of time and is...

That is essentially what happens now. I dress a bit when I have some free time to myself. My son is mostly grown now. At the time I saw the therapist, he was in elementary school. My wife and I...

I chose to continue to suppress this side of me for them. For normalcy. It's not all about me. If that were the case I could throw aside my family and career and fully embrace this side of me. ...

Many years ago, I went though a bit of a life crisis. I basically almost died three different times in a three year period due to an adult onset illness and this brought my life into a clarity and...

I think people are more tolerant of differences today. The younger generation is definitely more tolerant than their parents. There are way more characters portrayed in pop culture today that are...

I've learned don't purge. At least keep your favorites. This comes and goes through out life, but it is always a part of you. Throwing things away won't "cure" you and you'll want those things...

I told My wife I like to cross dress after 14 years of marriage during a particularly difficult point in my life. I just didn't want this secret from her anymore in addition to everything else that...

Ebbs and flows is a great way to describe it. I'll go for long periods with no compulsion to dress. This is when I've purged my wardrobe in the past. Without fail the feelings return. Often very...

I am a die hard "Hell No". I think a big part of the thrill I get from dressing comes from the fact that I am not suppose to be wearing these things. I enjoy my male self and while I love women, I...

I am in the "Hell No" camp and don't have a female name because I don't feel right calling myself by one. I also don't refer to myself as "she" or "a girl" in my posts because I am not either and I...

One more here. 15 year veteran. 5 more years until I am off probation. Maybe the question should be are there any members who are not police, fire or military (throw in engineers and that covers a...

I scored a -250 on the COIATI. Category 2 a feminine male. That actually sounds about right for me. As suggested, I am in counseling trying to tame my shame and I am here taking advantage of one of...

Interesting perspective. Nature is full of examples of mates choosing each other based on physical and emotional traits that will ensure both healthy offspring and depending on the animal, security...

I am also in law enforcement. I never underdressed as a uniformed officer as we changed daily in front of each other and the risk of ending up in the hospital with your clothes cut away was very...

Great story. My preteen son knows about me but I am in no hurry for him to see me dressed. I hope that if he has anything come up in his life that is embarrassing or difficult, knowing Dad has his...

I was not cross-dressed. Just a sympathetic observer blending in and observing. Had the guards crossed a line and shown open discrimination, I would have called them out on their lack of...

She definitely seemed to have a chip on her shoulder with the first group of security, although I didn't see the beginning of their contact. Everything after that occurred around the corner from...

Today I was at the Superior Court in downtown Phoenix. I was a few places in line behind an older woman going through security when she spoke and I realized she was a man dressed as a woman. She...

Interesting. I found testosterone made my desire to dress go through the roof but I did not take anti estrogen meds. They just cut my testosterone in half because I was way too high and my desires...

Normal. No more hiding, no more shame and guilt, no more confusion, marriage back on track. Yeah, sorry...Normal.

I am out to my family but my wife has asked not to see or hear about my cross-dressing so I bought a large individual storage drawer and I keep everything in there in our walk in closet. She doesn't...

Your relationship sounds exactly like mine with my wife. Don't ask, don't tell. She knows about it but doesn't want to know about it or see it. It's awkward, but for now it makes the marriage...

What your wife is feeling is pretty common. Mine is not by any means doing cartwheels about finding out I am a cross-dresser, but she has told me the 20 years of deceit are what hurt the most. I am...

I would like my wife to tell me, "I appreciate our beautiful house and the life we have together. I feel safe around you because I know you will protect me and provide for me. I think you are a...