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If the shame and self-consciousness are coming from uncertainty about how your SO will react to you dressing, or about her level of acceptance, perhaps a heartfelt talk with her or a counselor or...

I try to dress as appropriate for the environment I'm in. Usually that means pretty casual. At the last meeting of my local support group that I went to, there were only two people wearing pants:...

The clothes, makeup, etc., are necessities, but they are not sufficient. You need confidence to go with them. The confidence to get out of your car at your destination and walk down a busy street in...

Where the lines are drawn is not too critical, it could be at toenail polish, or shaved legs, or going out in public, etc. Many couples with CDs find a set of boundaries that work for both people....

I strive for acceptance too, and don't worry too much about whether people think I'm really a woman or not. I think I can "pass" from 20 feet away, and if people are not paying close attention....

For what its worth, I was surprised by the somewhat judgmental responses too. I found them off the mark, somewhat rude, and I'm glad you posted your story. Glad everything worked out too.

Oh, I think you misunderstood me. I was saying the fact the the science could be misused is NOT a reason to avoid the study.

I still would. I can still feel the clothes hugging my body, and I can still see my painted toenails peeking out from a nice pair of shoes!

There are places in the world where that is already the case. There are even places where its still a crime to be gay. If you want to know what people do under those circumstances, you only have to...

Any science, even the most benign sounding, can be used for nefarious purposes. That doesn't make the science itself bad, just the people who use it that way.

I wouldn't mind participating, if this is a real study. I don't expect to find out what makes me want to dress, but at least I'd be contributing to the general knowledge.

I predict you get no arguments on this one!

Yes, Amelia, I certainly know how you feel and I'm sure lots of others do to. Its perfectly natural to not want to hide all the time, especially when one has reached a new understanding. But...

Hi Nonny,

Kudos to you for wanting to find out more and understand your boyfriend's feelings.

Crossdressing makes me feel relaxed, comfortable, and natural. It's difficult to say if that's what...

Hi Erica,

It's too bad there is no Be-All this year, as that would have been a good possibility for you. Otherwise I think there is Southern Comfort in Atlanta in September. I don't know where in...

I can only answer for myself, of course. But I enjoy going out and showing the world this side of me, and experiencing even mundane things as Karen. I like meeting others like me, and interacting...

No expert either, but it sounds like you just love to wear women's clothes, and maybe you feel conflicted about it because of the social stigma that still exists? I felt his way too in the past, and...

Nothing, of course! It's perfectly natural to want to express yourself to world outside, even though its a lot of fun to dress up at home too. The real question is, when and where?

Well, of course I understand that, but those laws do vary from place to place. In the United States, HIPAA laws may allow the doctor to tell the OPs wife, for example, if the appropriate permissions...

Anxiety is certainly something your doctor might want to know about if he is the kind who doesn't just treat symptoms. He may be able to refer you to a good counselor as well, if that's what you're...

I think I might pass to people who see me in my car, from another car. Or from behind. Or from about 30 feet away. But up close and with any interaction at all, I don't expect to. That's fine with...

I concur with the others about trying to do this without your wife's knowledge and approval. That's just going to blow up in your face. Another potential pitfall is you run the risk of outing...

When I think of a miniskirt, I think of mid-thigh length and up, which some do think of as age-inappropriate on women over 40 or so. I tend to think the only reason its considered age-inappropriate...

I would think tell first, then show if asked to, assuming he needs to know in the first place. If you live in a small town, it sounds likely that more than just your friend Jamie and his wife might...

Michelle,

I'm sorry to hear that. Having second thoughts about going out would not be too surprising, especially since your girlfriend seems very concerned about being seen. Just go slow for now,...