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+1 for separate personal and relationship therapists. The center where I get therapy has a protocol which largely prevents mixing the two, as it usually leads to feelings of taking sides in sessions....

Reine, thank you for the kind words. Transitioning isn't on my horizon, if anything I consider myself gender fluid. But I'm VERY new to my journey and can't even claim knowledge of that. All I can...

Reine,

There's no question the group was primarily trans, both male and female, as well as a few cisgendered folks. Emotionally, it was irrelevant what gender they were though - they felt like...

I think as long as people aren't getting personal, a discussion like this has a real chance to bring about some understanding. Kudos to both Zooey and Bonnie for sticking with it and for doing their...

Good God (Goddess?), this topic makes me happy. I love how everyone is trying so hard to express their true selves, and express their feelings of offense or defensiveness without attacks. It makes me...

I find the "feeling like a woman" question interesting. In my therapy session last week I was asked if I felt like a woman when I went out in public for the first time. In dressing at home I never...

She's the one with the great legs and winning smile...

Remember, she's the one that always goes to these events to cheer people on? ;)

- Sandra

My wife is very much struggling with this right now in my CD life. "Why do you want to wear a bra if you don't want to become a woman?" I obviously haven't been able to give a satisfactory answer as...

I love this, Laura!

This is my favorite advice for any and everyone, no matter what. You can have a favorite meal, but try something new once in a while. Favorite shirt? Sure, but throw in some...

LIES!

My wife is in a ballet benefit performance, and judging by your avatar she is similarly sized to you. And she's not the largest girl. And they are wearing professionally fitted, traditional...

I think Lisa is right on - something the current generation of young people is doing is searching for more authenticity in their lives - breaking down the walls our society and culture creates for...

Probably? I'm not the most modest of people, and enjoy pushing boundaries, and as many others here have said: if you own it, almost no one will care. So, I haven't noticed anyone reacting strangely....

Sarah, it's always nice to get that bit of confirmation of our internal truth, and sometimes a break can actually help us understand the importance of those things in our lives. I'm glad you were...

So, I just started wearing tights at my ballet classes and, while I'm not wearing a skirt and certainly not a tutu, it's kinda amazing. Getting on point is not something I would ever hope or try to...

I agree with Jennifer, though maybe not with the end statement - femininity is weakness culturally, so it is not okay to show. This is something my wife and I have discussed a lot, and a lot more...

Specifically about Transparent: Can anyone whose seen the show tell me about the sexual content? It looked good to me so my wife and I watched the first episode, but the amount of sexual content made...

I don't know why, Ilene, but of all the stories you've told and of all the lovely comments I've seen you make on this board, that one brought me to tears. So many freedom songs in this thread, and I...

I haven't tried it yet - maybe still just a hair shy. Though I need a cut and am thinking of trying an outing to West Hollywood to find a friendly place...

I'm really looking forward to trying to...

I've seen a few girls here find a secluded place to take some pretty daylight photos, like a woodsy area; maybe you could drive to a place like that? And if you have / could borrow or rent a...

Hahaha Tracii!! I see what you did there...

Psychologically and sociologically it makes a lot of sense why we need labels - a group to belong to, a conversational shortcut, whatever it may be -...

I agree with the others here; probably a transitional (sorry) emotion. I know many people feel similar lulls before other important and joyous events and often question their lack of enthusiasm....

I always found it titilating to touch others in many ways; touch enhances any experience. When greeting an old friend, a warm, extra-long hug increases my joy in seeing them - it's a shortcut to...

Amen, sister.

I think I need to be a voice of dissent here - I agree that being yourself is important, and being honest is mandatory, but every relationship comes with sacrifices. And everyone has a different...

+1 for therapy. A good therapist will not tell you how to handle this situation externally, but rather help you come to terms with your own feelings and help you to make your own decisions. I'm...