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How are you gonna deal with Friend#1 in the future?

Honestly, i suspect that questioning oneself is a normal and persistent aspect of being transgender. Having a supportive wife and being able to find opportunities to go out together has to be very...

I went through most of my adult life presenting as a male with the name Kimberly. So I am accustomed to funny looks either way.

Yipes! that would have been a surprise for both of them!

Interesting question. In an ideal world I would be 100% passable as a tall, twenty-something Nordic blonde. Obviously, its 40 years too late and passable is not attainable. I have always aspired...

As has been said many times, many ways, instead of purging, just put things away...someplace safe, dry, out of sight and out of mind.

As for self acceptance, perhaps the act of storing away the...

IMHO cross dressing is a behavior. In contrast, being transgender is an identity. I am transgender whether or not I choose to wear women’s clothing.

Interesting bit of math. More people are alive today than all of the Homo sapiens that have ever lived. So, there aren?t many past human lives to have been lived. And if you included just those...

I think Gretchen covered the subject pretty well.

I recall a family gathering on a Christmas Eve many decades ago, when I was 8 years old. I had a new nephew, just 6 months old. He was fussy...

Life can be difficult for those of us who grew up in less tolerant times and households. I am glad that the younger generations are feeling less repressed and are more accepting of variations of...

I would not describe my desire to dress as a seasonal phenomenon, but I do have certain outfits when I want to dress up for holidays...whether alone, in public or with friends.

Just to simply this. Cross dressing itself is a behavior, so a person who wears the clothing of another gender is cross dressing and a cross dresser, just as a bicyclist is a person who rides...

Seems you had a very healthy conversation...one of many perhaps over your long relationship. It seems to me that part of what the changing society has given us is a language for that conversation. ...

I think coming to grips with being transgender (to the extent that I have) has made me a better person. Many of my personal flaws derive from how I responded through most of my life to the...

Ok, so you screwed up by having dinner with another woman. As others have said, you and your wife need to sort this whole thing out together, or to paraphrase Ben Franklin, you most assuredly will...

Lots of good replies reflecting a broad range of experiences. In my case, I began stepping outside my home back in 2010. I have done pretty much everything that one can do appropriately in public,...

I think we have to be careful about projection. Its tempting to presume that other people have motives comparable to ours, but we are fairly rare in the population. It could be that your neighbor...

Others are more well versed than I, but I was always annoyed and concerned by the way Facebook was able to identify people I knew, though I thought I was very careful in maintaining anonymity. I...

I began working from home, fully dressed, over 10 years. The opportunity was simply too good to pass up and, yes, it did alter the frequency..and my perspective. At the beginning I saw myself as...

Wow, thats quite a coincidence. I am glad it all went so well.

You fooled them

My first thought to her response was “what deal?”. It seems to her, a deal is whatever she wants, without regard to your feelings. Compromise is one thing...being dictated to is quite another.

I have been struggling to answer this question for decades and the best I can come up with is that I am somewhere on the gender identity spectrum...if you view gender as two polar extremes...a bit to...

Please tell your wife (and yourself) that making the best of a difficult time is how we cope. Enjoying yourselves for a few hours is admirable. You do not harm anyone suffering from covid-19. If...