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Thanks, Babs. I agree with everything you wrote. Well said.

It sounds to me like Shared... know what she wants for herself (That's a good thing) but is living in a state of judgment about the way...

You've gotten a lot of good advice here. Be strong. You can do it. The secrecy and hiding can damage the relationship way more than the dressing itself. Have faith that you can make things right.

Good for you for telling your wife. My SO told me about his femme side slowly over the course of 6 months when we first got together. 4 years later, it's still incredibly challenging for both of us,...

3bugs. What a heartbreaking story. As a step-mom, I can so relate to being the scape goat. It's a painful journey, punctuated by brief glimpses of hope. As for your In-laws, it's just tragic. I hope...

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Oscar Wilde

Heather, as an SO, I just wanted to say, you should definitely have the talk. Whether or not she "knows." Tell her about yourself. It could be hard it could be easy, who knows but as your life...

Wonderful. Just take it real slow. Your suddenly appearing with breasts and the whole look may be a shock, even if she is really feeling fine with everything, take it from me. I'm mostly accepting,...

Samantha, I am sorry for your troubles. So much has been said here, but I didn't see anything direct about education. When I was first learning about my SOs femme side, I knew almost NOTHING of the...

His grandmother's love and acceptance is heartfelt, it's clearly no big deal to her. If only there were more people like her in the world.

Wow. That's amazing, Michelle. Amazing that despite having a promising budding romance you took the time to listen to your heart and discover what you really wanted. It takes guts for you both to dig...

As an SO of a CDer I would concur with the great advice here: come out now. What you think are hints about your Cding or tests as to whether or not she would accept it are, in fact, not. She's...

A great post. Your soul-searching and self-discovery are courageous. I followed the link and found the talk so relevant to everything I'm experiencing with my SO, who's a CDer. It also really...

I'm a tall woman, and I love flats. Most of my shoes are some kind of ultra-flat boot or ballet slipper. If you want to be inspired by them, check out Audrey Hepburn - so cute and femme in ballet...

Dear Greenleaf, I'm sorry for your marital troubles. It feels awful when the person you are closest to is at times so far away. My SO is a CDer and we've had our ups and downs but I'm mostly...

Kelly! LOL!

Stephi, I think there's a lot of people here who shy away from labels. You asked an honest question, and I'm sure everyone has their own opinion. My thoughts - don't worry about it...

Hey just wanted to weigh-in, as an SO of a CDer. First off, I'm with Shelly who said:

I may be wrong but you both need to sit down with a counselor who understands transgender issues
She seems to...

Where is the like button??? That's a great post, Michelle. Your openness and self-acceptance is outstanding and no doubt goes a long way in sending positive cues to your love interest. It just...

Debby, way to go. Sounds like you are totally on the right track. My SO was pretty open about his femme side from the beginning of our relationship. We have a great, close relationship and have been...

The feminine experience is rife with opportunity for competition, low self-esteem and emphasis on physical beauty as measure of "goodness." I spent much of my life struggling with these issues, never...

Trapped, you gf needs to learn how to "fight fair." it's ok to argue in a relationship, but it can't be "no holds barred." if she loves the fem side of you: the pampering, doting, girl-flick watching...

My SO doesn't venture out dressed. But we are a romantic couple always, whether in male/female mode. If we did venture out "dressed", I would really want to hold her hand. I would be a little nervous...

Hilarious, Denise!!! I love that answer.

Sherry, you crack me up! I think you might be a tad more comfortable using clothes as an art form than me, so I defer to your expertise on this one, for shizzle!!! But don't hate your arms! Maybe you...

I've got enormous hands and many women in my family do, too. If you try to hide it sometimes it makes it worse. And gloves don;t help!

No, Kimberly, your post is crystal clear. And very helpful. Sometimes when you are afraid, you act fearful. Sometimes it helps me to sit with my feelings for a few days (sometimes a few weeks) to...