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I hope that your first interaction with your therapist goes/went well. To the good advice you've already received I can only add the suggest to be as open and honest as you can be. Yes, it can be...

Yes, get out of your cave. There is no safer venue for being out than a Pride celebration, and there are few more effective actions than being there to be counted.

First of all, let's leave "sex" out of this discussion, which IS about gender identity. The "race car driver" example is still fair game, unless one is hung up about stereotypical gender roles. The...

Bra shopping is not nearly as simple as knowing cup and band size. I'd never send someone to shop for me, unless I could also tell them what brand and style. You might inquire about those two...

Caught? Were you doing something wrong/illegal?

If you aren't prepared to be discovered, why are you tempting fate like that?

It's an inappropriate question for a stranger to ask. "Why do you ask?" is a perfectly appropriate response. If their response to that indicates innocent curiosity, I'd explain that, "Yes, I am, but...

We know that a lot of those who post in this particular section of the forum are fetish dressers. For a good number of them, the adrenaline rush of tempting discovery is another significant driver....

Wearing a dress and hosiery, in the park, at night, and you think you'll not stand out?

Unless you don't care what kind of attention you attract, your "look" should be appropriate for your age and for the venue that you intend to visit. You won't "pass", but you may be able to "blend".

When you let go of the guilt and shame about being who you are, the fear will just evaporate. You no longer worry about being "caught", because you realize that you are doing nothing wrong. Yes, I...

I will take heat for this, regardless, but let me say up front that I support an individual's right to adopt whatever manner of dress they choose. There...
Now then... There is a big difference...

Yes, it is true. Most of us male-at-birth, and who went through male puberty have voices that will never be mistaken for female.

Agreed, but the case of the fetish dresser is rather a subset of the wide variety of TG people here. Nevertheless, your complaint is valid for any partner who feels like their relationship is...

As Lana May says, passing is a myth. It is also not required. Oh, "blending" is often an attainable goal. Age and venue appropriate dress, feminine gait and mannerisms, all will help you to escape...

The implication is that CD'ing is equivalent to sexual infidelity. That's a false equivalence. Yes, both involve deception, which is never a healthy thing for a relationship, but there the similarity...

Not ethical in anything other than a generic social event where, of course, your birth gender is nobody's business.

Agree, 100%, that "acceptance" is probably too slippery a term to produce anything close to credible numbers. But given that stipulation, my off-hand estimate, based on the few years I've been here,...

Yeah, DL photos, it seems, are engineered to look bad. Then again, maybe it's just the two-hour wait that has us looking like that.

Excellent point, Charlotte. Still, I believe Nichola might benefit from some professional analysis of her feelings. What she's describing could easily be gender dysphoria.

We are all individuals. What a cross-dresser calls going out, a TS might call just doing life. Likewise, crossdressers who enjoy going out en femme, may do so for different reasons. Some relish the...

If the relationship is based on your partner not knowing something about you that is this important, it's already "messed up". If you are serious about the relationship, have "the talk".

Out of control behavior while drunk is warning sign. Pay attention.

As many of you are no doubt aware, there is a currently a coordinated national strategy to pass laws, at the state level, attacking transgender people, especially trans kids. As I reported in a...

This. SO this.
As hard as it will be, the most loving thing you can do for all involved is to try to get your brother to understand that his view of his son's identity is not OK. I'd ask, point...

If you are comfortable walking in the heels, feel free to go with those. Otherwise, go with flats. Wobbling around on heels is not something you want to have to deal with on your first outing. :)...