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Hi Micki,
Also separated and divorced since the last time I posted on this site. I did not go 'public' with my CD-ing during my dating as I did not think it would bring me a lot of dates with...

I went to Divas in January. Fairly sad, 10-12 girls and several guys cruising but respectful. Clearly no investment in the club in several years (decades?). Must have been something in it's prime,...

1. Understand as much as possible where you want to go with dressing (when, where, how much, what you want to do, who will know, how much will it cost, etc). Be honest with yourself first.
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To those that are saying being trans is a fad, you may consider it is just being openly spoken about now where it did not used to be. No one is struggling with feeling dysphoric due to wanting to be...

We can talk about fit and style etc but I think the main reason we want boobs is because inside many of us are trying to emulate/feel like/present as women. And women have boobs.

Seems to be a lot of misunderstanding about transgenderism. It is a catch-all term, of which transsexualism (the desire to be another gender) is a part of the TG spectrum. It does not seem that...

Good for you! Keep going out and your comfort zone will grow.

Merc, it wounds like therapy worked as well as it could have for your situation. You stopped hating yourself for your needs. Maybe couples therapy with a similar therapist would help your wife come...

Paula for me the desire to dress has ebbed and flowed over the years. No real trigger either way that I can pinpoint. I have learned to just go with it, knowing that it will come back at some...

Congratulations Danielle. Sounds like your situation has improved with time and openness.

For Stephanie and others (including me until recently -currently single) some wives just do NOT want to...

Go for it. Nothing to lose!!

Alexandra,

Congrats! We are in similar places experience-wise. I have had the urges for years but just started going out in the last year and gaining more confidence each time. Although I agree...

I think I would feel more comfortable going out en femme, but my presentation would not change much, either in male or femme mode.

Deborah, It sounds like you have been totally honest with her, and honest with yourself as well. You have an idea of what you want out of this (occasional girl time), you are not forcing her to...

Good luck. When my wife and I were still trying to hold it together, we went to a Trans-positive therapist. Her (the therapist's) perspective and advice made my wife feel better about my needs, but...

I have a "Cross-Body Mini-Bag". Fits keys, cards and cell phone (barely), goes across your body and you can dance with it without it getting in the way.

Started out as Shelley, named for a high school cheerleader i thought was cute. But after a few months, it just didn't seem to fit. Sl when I started to go out, I just picked Shayla. Not sure...

Congrats that your wife is on board. Take it slow and watch her reactions, and have fun.

I have reached out to a couple here but the timing hasn't worked out yet. I am determined this year to get into a social circle here in the Bay Area, preferably meeting people that could be friends...

I have been wondering about the sexual side- it seems for many of us that erotic part of CDing started in our youth, when, well practically everything is sexual. Did we just condition ourselves to...

Yes, but that was a secondary issue to the fact that I liked to crossdress.

#1 looks more natural.

Congratulations!

I actually met a GG on Halloween Eve (at Hamburger Mary's) that said she would be, "totally into it" if her boyfriend cross dressed (he worked there). But she was about 22 and also said she was...

I think anyone who describes crossdressing as their 'hobby' does so loosely/tongue-in-cheek. I think you are right, that it is a compulsion (albeit one that tends to come and go for many of us) that...