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I understand your point, which is to say I understand a certain level of pointlessness of overthinking everything, and I do agree to an extent, but in my case, the issue of identity isn't a simple...

Hi again, friends.

My apologies for the intermittent participation here. Life has been erratic these days. I wanted to at least make a post to say a general hello to everybody and to jumble around...

While I do agree with this hypothetical, my point was to use degree as a circumstantial reference. This is why I put caught in quotations and used the word "might". I suppose "discovered" would be a...

Vague reply to original post: The real liar would be someone who claims to have no secrets at all!

But specifically deciding if it's a good idea to tell your SO about your cross-dressing is...

I would absolutely LOVE to perform a gig with my band "en femme". I haven't really done much cross-dressing at all, but I get the feeling that it would be less of a shocker to mix in a form of art...

I can't say I agree with your theory sometimes_miss, but it's interesting to hear about the way you see it =)

It's probably just a matter of perspective!

I think you're onto something there. That's quite thoughtful. I'm seriously taking notes from this thread for myself and your suggestion is one of them! I'll definitely bring that up to a...

That's a great question but I'm afraid I would end up writing you a novel to explain my ambivalence. I'll try to keep it short but keep in mind this won't do it any justice at all.

My ambivalence...

Patti: I'm going to have to slap you for getting me thinking even more. GRRR hehe ;)

Kathi: That's good! It sounds like you have found some "zen" so to speak. Can I ask if you are fully satisfied...

Kendra, thanks for the reply, you make some good points! Let me just quote you and respond to a couple things in particular...

"would not most anyone protect this from being know by others?"
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I wonder how many people I've scared off with my crazy (albeit, brilliant) scrutiny. LOL!

Come on, don't be afraid! I don't bite, I just nibble. ;)

GMCD,

That was a really informative and insightful reply, thanks! You're bang on. There are no wrong answers. I try to clarify the question when it appears to be misunderstood. USUALLY it's...

Understood, but what does that have to do with what I brought up? I think you might have tunneled-visioned in on the terminology ("sides") a bit too much ;)

Ok... I'll start a bit more...

I see. That's actually fascinating to me. I won't go into too much (thread-blending) detail, but the long and short of it is that I envy your conviction ;)

Follow-up question: I can probably...

So you are saying you DON'T separate your male and female sides, yes? And you rationalize this with rhetoric?

Sorry if that sounds sarcastic, but I'm actually being serious! =)

Ok, I want to make a general inquiry. My last post was heavy and negatively charged, so I'll take a different approach and try to be a bit more positive (or just neutral at least) and make this more...

I appreciate y'all trying to give me helpful advice.

Kathi, I've thought about whether it's ambivalence or doubt when it comes to my gender identity. I think it's both, but I believe my DOUBT is:...

konfused: i expected that reply because it's probably the best advice. i've spoken to a professional a couple times before and i always find myself not getting out what i know i need to get out. i've...

Hi y'all,

I took some downtime because it was becoming too much. I needed to clear my head and get grounded, but here I am again and unfortunately for me, this means I wasn't grounded. No clarity...

I know EXACTLY what you mean. While I can't say our situation and circumstances are the same necessarily, I most certainly relate to this particular point. I find myself continuously frustrated that...

Yeah, I understand. That's really unfortunate isn't it? It's weird to say I can relate sometimes, but I really can. I've struggled alot with self esteem and insecurity and felt the repercussions....

I hear ya :) It's her healthy combination of power, confidence and intelligence. Not to mention, she's relatively attractive already.

I should be more clear in my questions, I think hehe. I'm not asking who you want to BE or who you want to MIMIC lol =P I suppose I'm just asking...

We're always going to have those select few...

Hmmm, I think that's pretty obvious, for the most part :) (you never know though, right? lol)

Nonetheless, isn't it ok to have inspiration or ambition. Can I recommend indulgence rather than...

Definitely Mystique! lol