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Yet again, you all amaze me....I really thought I was in for some major heat for my post. I was so frustrated and angry when I wrote it. THANK YOU for understanding and for sharing your stories and...

Wow, this forum was a Godsend once upon a time. I was so alone, living with someone else's secret. I needed this place and you were here for me. Thank you. Now, let me tell you what I've learned....

I have looked at the responses I've gotten, but have been hesitant to respond. I feel like I just pissed a lot of people off....though I did see some pretty freaking kind folks coming to my defense...

Is he gay? I mean the penis fantasies, the penetration, does he really want a man.....what do you all want, you're just like him? What do you want? To be women all the time? Are you just afraid to...

If he crossdressed for your sexual pleasures, that's sweet, but if he's not into it....I think it would be boring. A guy in a dress is a guy in a dress, a guy exploring his femininity is exciting and...

I don't understand how a culture can truly rid itself of misogyny or sexism as long as there are designated "men's spaces" and "women's spaces". Earlier, a point was made that the fact that a man...

The fact that a woman can use a men's room in a pinch with no expectation of harassment while a man can't use the ladies' without possibly being arrested is an example of female privilege in the...

I think it's okay to say that a man is more likely to receive the death penalty than a woman for the same crime. There are times when being a woman in this culture is simply better than being a man....

I think a person should use whichever they fit by presentation. If there is a single use bathroom available, then whoever wants to use it, by all means, use it. I really, really don't care who uses...

I wasn't trying to imply my experience was the same as all women's. I'm just pointing out that sexism and hypocrisy goes both ways and I admit, I'm guilty on occasion.

I don't think I can...

"Male privilege" is usually applied when a triad of conditions exist: race (white) gender (male) and socioeconomic class (upper middle class) and is used to exert authority or to obtain special...

I'm always flattered when someone asks about my perfume. Just ask, "What's that fragrance you're wearing? It smells amazing." I know I wouldn't be offended, if I even stopped to think about it, I'd...

Sounds good! I've enjoyed this discussion, I'd love to hang out, if I ever get a vacation! :)

Here's my problem with this logic and it is based entirely on my own experience and is not necessarily a reflection on all women's experience:

I was born right as the equal rights movement was...

I hope I do find someone who accepts all aspects of themselves, and of course, since I liked the CDing, I hope it's a part of an important relationship if I find someone. I don't know about...

Zooey, I really believe that our core beliefs are the same. However, I don't agree that gendered spaces have value. In fact, I think they breed misinformation and gender hostilities. There was a time...

Zooey, I think you and I are opposite sides of the same coin. We both believe there are gender issues that need to be addressed, we both realize that we, as women, face ongoing discriminatory...

So, we agree that human beings in general have a tendency to discriminate against anyone in whom they find differences. I think that's a sane perspective. I also think that knowing that, it's...

Actually this is not entirely true, for example there are currently 2,888 men on death row in the US and only 55 women on death row. 90% of convicted murderers are men, 10% are women. If women didn't...

Couldn't the expression be what triggers an identity shift? I don't get it either, but I really do think it's possible. I have a really hard time telling someone that they're not who they think they...

This might seem stupid, but I don't understand. It's understood that in terms of sexuality, there are three common orientations: homosexual (always turned on by same sex), heterosexual (always turned...

Thank you for your kind words....this is kind of weird, a lot of people keep telling me how lucky my ex was and that I'm going to find someone, but I mean....it's pretty unlikely, he's the first one...

Male privilege certainly exists and is dangerous in our society. No arguments here. What I'm trying to say is a CDer is not identifying as a male when dressed and therefore is not claiming male...

To be honest, I don't think you or I can know definitively what a CDer feels like when they're dressed. I choose to take their word for it if they tell me they identify as a woman when dressed. I...

My ex defended his masculinity strongly. Until he was dressed. Then, in every aspect from name, to pronouns, to the way she spoke about herself, she was female. So, as long as she was dressed, she...