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When I first started going out dressed back in the mid-aughts, I found that most of the local ladies had a decade or two on me. It was strange at first. They had different cultural reference points...

I'm not sure I would want to change anything really. I'm actually happy with who and what I've become. I might suggest taking finasteride to my younger self though :)

I chose my lady name about a decade ago when I started presenting myself to the world as a woman. I just like it. Its a little silly, like me!

After much self analysis, and several months on a therapists couch, I have finally been able to admit what I am. It has been a long road of self acceptance. I have had to overcome my self-loathing,...

Adina - I could not agree more. Informing my spouse about so central a part of me was never a question. It actually did cost me a relationship or two when I was younger. Until I got together with my...

For me its complicated. If you asked me 10 years ago I would say that I'm 100% hetero. Now, If I'm being completely honest, I'm not. I'm primarily attracted to women. I also find trans-feminine folks...

Just completed it. There were only a few questions that I felt uncomfortable answering...

My first non-Halloween outing was with a local TG group at a very trans friendly restaurant. I had to walk about 10 blocks to get there. I was terrified! I thought that I would get called out and...

The guilt I totally get. I have it as well. I think that for me it comes from a couple of different sources.

For starters, when we crossdress, we can feel tremendous shame about it because that...

Great thread! I've been confused about my gender for much of my life, but I think the cross dressing has been more of a symptom than the cause. It has always allowed me to access a side of my...

The thing that helped me the most was meeting other people like me, both online and out in the wide world. Its nice to realize that you are not alone with this strange need! Getting to that point was...

I agree that these are very common fantasies. Also that it is a way to deal with the guilt of wanting to crossdress. Personally I gravitate toward stories or mental images where I have more agency -...

My mom told me once that she would have named me Maureen, after a close friend who had just passed. Instead I got an "M" boy name. Kinda creepy if you ask me...

Rule # 1 of the internet is never read the comments – I break it every day, so who am I to criticize?

There are certain sites that have comment sections (Gawker, Gothamist) that I find really...

Erica – what you are describing sounds very familiar to me. Keeping two separate identities can wear you down over time. It sounds like you are at the point where you need to bring your selves...

Dressing over the top can be fun. I feel the same way about Halloween (aka the BEST holiday) and themed costume parties. Many a drag queen has built a career on extreme femme style. If this is who...

I was always led to believe that "crossdresser" was more palatable to us puritanical Americans because the term "transvestite" was associated with sex, like fetishistic transvestism and whatnot. You...

All my friends know. Maybe half of my family. The only people who I expect will have a problem would be my brother in law and maybe a manager or two at work. In my case everyone is going to find out...

I have to agree with Carla on this one. If the cat is out of the bag, why not just own it? I don't think people really care too much about this thing anymore. I say show your true self at the block...

Congratulations, Sarah! I hear you on the sneaking around thing. We shouldn't have to feel overly guilty about this. It's always good to get things out in the open. I'm sure with enough time your mom...

How your spouse will react depends on so many factors - only a few of which are in your control. The biggest, of those you can do something about, is when and how you come clean. If she finds out at...

Sounds line an awesome time! I haven't been out that late in forever... I'm not super familiar with Phillie but the gay areas of NY are the best places for our kind to go out. Congrats on a night to...

First time I ever (publicly) cross-dressed was on Halloween. I went as a catholic schoolgirl: plaid skirt, knee socks etc. I was young and could pull it off then – this was a looooong time ago! Not...

I find the ousting of drag queens to be a bit offensive, actually. It is also prudish and needlessly divisive. Who gets to decide which queens are trans enough to go on? I get that a drag show can be...

I discovered the concept of autogynephilia when I first started researching my *condition* years ago. It was one the factors that convinced me I couldn't possibly be TS. I took the fact that...